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Post by japonesa on Mar 1, 2010 8:26:17 GMT -5
id rather be monoracial i don't really care about belonging to 2+ cultures etc i see it as you don't completely belong to either.. if i was monoracial at least i'd deffinately feel accepted somewhere
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Post by betahat on Mar 5, 2010 23:03:28 GMT -5
I guess I have no complaints. I can't really imagine being anything but what I am, and I have been blessed in a lot of ways. I like traveling, Kung fu movies and spicy Asian food as well as Mad Men, Bob Marley, and Camping (all Stuff White People Like (tm)) - I'm sure I could have enjoyed those things as a Euro or Asian but I guess being mixed made it more likely. Feeling accepted/alienated or not has never been an issue to me as both sides of the family get along, the parents are still together, and we grew up pretty "white" in an area where you didn't have to pick sides (and no one really noticed I was half Chinese unless I told them or they though a little about having a Chinese surname).
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Post by Magic on Mar 6, 2010 16:25:03 GMT -5
I enjoy being Eurasian, particularly in Asia where we are a hot commodity.
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Post by Papa Alpha on Mar 6, 2010 19:45:48 GMT -5
Where's the option for, Satisfied? Why, I'm damn near estatic!
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Post by pandaroo on Apr 9, 2010 9:12:36 GMT -5
Hmmmm... I had a slightly off-putting experience the other day. Happens every time a Chinese person denies me from being part of their culture, essentially and subconsciously excluding me.
A woman I work with who is much older than me, and a Chinese woman at that, was telling me about her daughter and the languages she was studying. Eventually we got onto the topic of Chinese languages, in its various dialets. She was amazed at my level of knowledge about the topic and wondered why in the hell I'd want to learn Chinese, as I told her. Then when I went into mentioning how my "mother can speak Shanghainese and Cantonese," her expression changed, in a state of shock. "But you don't look Chinese!!!" she exclaimed. I pulled out my camera phone to show her a recent pic of my mother with me. She couldn't believe that this "white devil" in front of her was one of her own.
All of a sudden, the woman was swept with a sense of awe and respect for me, once she found out that I had Chinese in me. It did offend me that only UNTIL she found out that she had this respect for me at all, and initially was in disbelief.
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Post by jefe on Apr 10, 2010 13:41:41 GMT -5
^ Just accept that the woman is a bit ignorant.
If you know someone is ignorant, then they cannot offend you.
Perhaps you can simply view it as tiring and exhausting to educate people all the time.
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Post by jefe on Apr 10, 2010 13:44:15 GMT -5
id rather be monoracial i don't really care about belonging to 2+ cultures etc i see it as you don't completely belong to either.. if i was monoracial at least i'd deffinately feel accepted somewhere Do you think it is easier to be monoracial and NOT identify with the ethnicity associated with your racial background, eg, what we might refer to as "bananas" or "eggs"? I don't think these people feel very accepted either.
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Post by Ganbare! on Apr 10, 2010 14:31:46 GMT -5
It's unhealthy to desire impossible things but I understand her feelings. Who has never desired even for a split second to be monoracial just to finally belong somewhere?
It's great to experience the 'best of both worlds' but it doesn't mean you're part of any of them, expats usually enjoy the finest of their host countries' cultures too but do they feel included? Not really. We ultimately remain outsiders.
The number of monoracials not identifying at all with their ethnic group is marginal at best even among immigrants.
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Post by Yingy on Apr 12, 2010 17:47:43 GMT -5
I'm happy who I am I would never want to change my ethnicity. If I grew up in rural Kansas maybe I would change my point of view. I wasn't aware of being "mixed" until I was a teenager and it was mandatory you had a boyfriend. I couldn't get someone to date me because I was to white or to Asian. That was the first time I realized I looked different. I never had friends say anything to me related to me racially so I was really naive and shocked and confused when I was a teen. But growing up looking like the asian version of Winnie Cooper helped me from getting suspended from school I assumed it was my Asian side that denied the fact I could ever set the lunch cart on fire
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Post by conorsoccr23 on May 12, 2010 15:35:48 GMT -5
it sucks no1 noes where to put you and they never truly accept u, ur either the white kid or the asian kid, we r mud babies
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