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Post by admin on Apr 12, 2015 9:59:15 GMT -5
No matter who you are, there will always be someone who looks down on you unfairly. The trap you can fall into is to give them power by considering what they have to say. If you actively look for negativity, you will surely find it. If you look for positivity, you will find that, too. Try focusing on the good stuff you see and don't internalize the hateful nonsense. I have several male friends I see regularly who are Asian/Caucasian mixes. They are all well-adjusted people in good relationships. I'd also ask you to give your parents a break. Regardless of ethnicity concerns, being married is hard and being a parent is even harder. The reason you find a lot of online angst is because online is where angsty guys go. I'd pull the plug for a while and try to hang around some positive people and see how that works out for you. One thing to add is that your location can have a lot to do with your opportunities. Where do you live (if you don't mind revealing publicly)? My purely anecdotal observation is that mixed-race people tend to do better in urban, progressive areas. I wish this forum were more active so you could get some support here - I know there are a lot of people who would echo my sentiments and add even better thoughts of their own.
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Post by admin on Oct 17, 2014 17:01:17 GMT -5
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Post by admin on Jun 9, 2014 18:30:14 GMT -5
Baylor Fredrickson is still waiting for his match. The 6-year-old Albany boy was recently diagnosed with leukemia and given just a few months to live unless a compatible bone marrow donor was found. Because Fredrickson is of mixed Japanese and German descent, he needs a nearly perfect match, which would likely come from a donor of mixed Asian and Caucasian descent. www.facebook.com/amatchforbayThe registration kits are FREE, the test is just a swab of your inner cheek. Please also pass this around. Thanks!
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Post by admin on Mar 29, 2014 18:30:06 GMT -5
Looking good, Pierre. Seems like fracking is creating a lot of jobs here in the U.S. - our business deals with geotechnical engineers from time to time and with companies like Schlumberger who seem to be going full steam. Maybe not so much across the border? Interesting 2 year break you took from being online. I am off everything (facebook, twitter, forums, etc.). Gardening is my new thing.
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Post by admin on Mar 29, 2014 18:23:52 GMT -5
The site is still here, it's running without moderation, and people post elsewhere. A lot has changed (social media!) in 10 years.
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Post by admin on Feb 17, 2014 16:10:57 GMT -5
...the lady in question who said she was not going to be Mrs Von Zalyn Maybe she spoke too soon? ;D called it!
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Post by admin on Feb 17, 2014 16:08:50 GMT -5
Congratulations and good luck to the two of you. Remember to treat her well every day.
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Post by admin on Oct 24, 2013 13:16:39 GMT -5
I have friends who are 1/2 1/2 and who look more asian, and others who look more white. I have 2 1/2 1/2 friends who have a kid - they both look more Caucasian and their kid looks more Asian. I think men are kinds of stuck with what they get, while women can use hair/makeup to move the line a little.
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Post by admin on Jul 24, 2013 21:18:14 GMT -5
Well, we send our over-the-hill dregs to them...does that even things out?
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Post by admin on Apr 17, 2013 19:42:32 GMT -5
Oh Hai.. met up with a passing through ean-er last night and so thought I'd see what was happening here as we were all nostalgic and gossiping about the 'good ol days'!! HK still a good ean meet up hot spot all these years later Three of us met up this week - we realized we've known each other for 10 years.
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Post by admin on Oct 15, 2012 12:17:15 GMT -5
Good luck on getting replies. Keep hope alive! zedfen atsign h0tmai1 d0t c0m
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Post by admin on Apr 17, 2012 13:13:42 GMT -5
Asian Americans buck trend of interracial marriage
RACHEL L. SWARNS, New York Times
Sunday, April 15, 2012
When she was a philosophy student at Harvard College eight years ago, Liane Young never thought twice about all the interracial couples who flitted across campus, arm and arm, hand in hand. Most of her Asian friends had white boyfriends or girlfriends. In her social circles, it was simply the way of the world.
But today, the majority of Young's Asian American friends on Facebook have Asian American husbands or wives. And Young, a Boston-born granddaughter of Chinese immigrants, is married to a Harvard medical student who loves skiing and the Pittsburgh Steelers and just happens to have been born in Fujian province in China.
Young said she hadn't been searching for a boyfriend with an Asian background. They met by chance at a nightclub in Boston, and she is delighted by how completely right it feels. They have taken lessons together in Cantonese (which she speaks) and Mandarin (which he speaks), and they hope to pass along those languages when they have children.
"'We want Chinese culture to be a part of our lives and our kids' lives," said Young, 29, an assistant professor of psychology at Boston College who married Xin Gao, 27, last year. "It's another part of our marriage that we're excited to tackle together."
Interracial marriage rates are at an all-time high in the United States, with the percentage of couples exchanging vows across the color line more than doubling over the last 30 years. But Asian Americans are bucking that trend, increasingly choosing their soul mates from among their own expanding community.
From 2008 to 2010, the percentage of Asian American newlyweds who were born in the United States and who married someone of a different race dipped by nearly 10 percent, according to a recent analysis of census data conducted by the Pew Research Center. Meanwhile, Asians are increasingly marrying other Asians, a separate study shows, with matches between the American-born and foreign-born jumping to 21 percent in 2008, up from 7 percent in 1980.
Asian Americans still have one of the highest interracial marriage rates in the country, with 28 percent of newlyweds choosing a non-Asian spouse in 2010, according to census data. But a surge in immigration from Asia over the past three decades has greatly increased the number of eligible bachelors and bachelorettes, giving young people many more options among Asian Americans. It has also inspired a resurgence of interest in language and ancestral traditions among some newlyweds.
In 2010, 10.2 million Asian immigrants were living in the United States, up from 2.2 million in 1980. Today, foreign-born Asians account for about 60 percent of the Asian American population here, census data show.
"Immigration creates a ready pool of marriage partners," said Daniel T. Lichter, a demographer at Cornell University who, along with Zhenchao Qian of Ohio State University, conducted the study on marriages between American-born and foreign-born Asians. "They bring their language, their culture and reinforce that culture here in the United States for the second and third generations."
Before she met Gao, Young had dated only white men, with the exception of a biracial boyfriend in college. She said she probably wouldn't be planning to teach her children Cantonese and Mandarin if her husband had not been fluent in Mandarin.
"'It would be really hard," said Young, who is most comfortable speaking in English.
Ed Lin, 36, a marketing director in Los Angeles who was married in October, said that his wife, Lily Lin, had given him a deeper understanding of many Chinese traditions. Lily Lin, 32, who was born in Taiwan and grew up in New Orleans, has taught him the terms in Mandarin for his maternal and paternal grandparents, familiarized him with the red egg celebrations for newborns and elaborated on other cultural customs, like the proper way to exchange red envelopes on Chinese New Year.
"She brings to the table a lot of small nuances that are embedded culturally," Ed Lin said of his wife, who has also encouraged him to serve tea to his elders and refer to older people as aunty and uncle.
Of course, race is only one of many factors that can come to bear in the complicated calculus of romance. And marriage trends vary among Asians of different nationalities, according to C.N. Le, a sociologist at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst.
Le found that in 2010 Japanese American men and women had the highest rates of intermarriage to whites while Vietnamese American men and Indian women had the lowest rates.
The term Asian, as defined by the Census Bureau, encompasses a broad group of people who trace their origins to the Far East, Southeast Asia or the Indian subcontinent, including countries like Cambodia, China, India, Japan, Korea, the Philippine Islands and Vietnam. (The Pew Research Center also included Pacific Islanders in its study.)
Wendy Wang, the author of the Pew report, said that demographers have yet to conduct detailed surveys or interviews of newlyweds to help explain the recent dip in interracial marriages among native-born Asians. (Statistics show that the rate of interracial marriage among Asians has been declining since 1980.) But in interviews, several couples said that sharing their lives with someone who had a similar background played a significant role in their decision to marry.
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Post by admin on Apr 15, 2012 12:07:04 GMT -5
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Post by admin on Mar 17, 2012 12:36:28 GMT -5
^ I can relate to many of the things you said, especially people in China saying: "你很像中国人!", after I tell them my background. And a lot of them say that my mom must be part Chinese. Also, most people don't think I look South East Asian at all, so even Filipinos think I'm East Asian. But I like feeling included in Asia, and I feel less and less European the more time I spend in Asia. Whao this board is still alive! Anyways, on the flip side, I am part Chinese and no one believes me! I always get things like Filipino or Thai (SE Asian). I also get things like Latina, Mexican, or Native American. Well I don't blame them, I kinda do think I look more like a SE Asian than your typical Chinese. Did you move to Vega$ after all?
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