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Post by helles on Jan 19, 2009 12:10:18 GMT -5
around 1x a week or my mum will get mad. i usually see her on sundays for dinner too.
my mum doesn't call me unless she needs something, so never just to 'chat' as its my duty to call her to show i care. its a pain and boring but i do it cos i'm a good daughter like that.
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Post by ahliang on Jan 19, 2009 14:02:02 GMT -5
they call me or i call them and then they call me because now i use skype and the microphone i have seems to not work so well. very static apparently. i would say once a week or more (up to 3 times a week!) or less. the topic conversations are not always enjoyable but most of the time, i always enjoy the calls! there were 2 instances when i thoroughly disliked the conversations and thus the calls but after hanging up i always felt like talking to them again. once you have kids your life changes...and you basically devote 99% of your time to them...make arrangments to pick them up from school, drive them to their judo or art class, change or even quit your job, find the best possible education for them, work harder to afford it, give them good food, the melted part of the cheese, the top part of the gratin, the crusty rice that got stuck at the bottom of the wok all because either they like it or you think it s what s best for them. from the moment you have kids, the next 20 years or so (15-30) are devoted to your kids and your entire lives revolve around them. (can you go out at night? will you get to go on a romantic week end with your husband alone? can you keep your job and still be there? will your job allow you flexible hours? is the apartement big enough? do you need a bigger car? can you cook for 4? do the laundry for 4? can you cope with explaining a kid for 2 hours why 2+2=4? will you make them recite their lesson? i can t imagine the number of hours my mum spent helping me memorize my lessons by heart...) making sure they have a good future. providing them with the best possible food, shelter, comfy clothes, giving them holidays, allowing them to travel, making sure they will never feel lonely...is what i hope to do for them...so calling them once a week is the least i could do!  |
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Post by betahat on Jan 19, 2009 15:25:32 GMT -5
I said once a month. I know that makes me a horrible person, but I can't help but think that they wouldn't want me calling more than that. I've never been one to share all my deep feelings with them, so any more frequently and there really wouldn't be much news.
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Post by toyomansi on Jan 20, 2009 6:27:49 GMT -5
My parents live on the other side of the country, so I don't see them very often. But my mom and I often chat on the phone about anything; gossip, the weather etc. maybe every other day. Most of the time she is the one who calls me, but I think it's nice to talk My dad hardly knows how to use the phone (lol!) so we just email each other instead. |
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Post by xandra on Jan 27, 2009 22:28:19 GMT -5
They call me more than I call them, usually about once a week. Otherwise we communicate over e-mail (dad) or msn (mom). Still end up seeing my mom about once a week/every other week, which is nice. The funny thing is that my roommate works at my mom's school as a language assistant, so she sees my mom much more often than I do!
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Apr 3, 2009 18:41:46 GMT -5
Only occasionally/when I have to ... ;D She can drive me crazy, and I'm not interrested in her dog which shes almost only talking about. There is one solution for this: eat hotdog someday if I cant hear it anymore ^^  |
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Post by mrxcloudyxloc on Apr 12, 2009 3:37:41 GMT -5
Parents live in America, I live in Korea, and all I have is a cell phone, so I use that as my excuse not to call much. I e-mail from time to time though. My wife's mother lives in Korea, so we actually see her a lot and the wife calls her frequently. She keeps in touch with her dad through e-mail.
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Post by mingzayni88 on Apr 14, 2009 8:58:10 GMT -5
my mum and I are really close and I recently started uni in london and she's still in bermuda. So, she calls me like everyday. Funny thing is, there is a 4 hour time difference between Bermuda and London, London being ahead. So, i get calls from her like 12 or 1 in the A.M., Good thing I'm usually up around those times, lol.
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Post by Nikki on Apr 14, 2009 10:18:48 GMT -5
^ Congrats on Uni in London mingzayni! It's nice that you still get to chat with your mum everyday. I'm home at the moment so can chat whenever I so feel like it, but once I move again I'm going to have to teach the mumz how to use skype video chat. We're very close and I'm going to miss seeing her everyday. The process should be rather amusing. When I used skype to chat with them from abroad before I used to have to call them on my regular landline (which charged me) just so that I could explain to them how to set up (free) skype, hence destroying the purpose of even having skype  |
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Post by buddence on Apr 15, 2009 3:19:36 GMT -5
i opted for deferred enrollment to college and will spend the next few months getting back to my Asian roots or something. ok, so i'm like running away for a while.....lol so yeah, i'm not looking forward to calling them unless I run out of money....or get kidnapped and held for ransom over here. whatever
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Post by Subuatai on Apr 15, 2009 18:08:21 GMT -5
Does anyone else have a problem with talking to their parents? Like, it's kinda sad but I haven't talked to my grandma since I was just a kid. She keeps telling my dad to send me over to Novosibirsk but I get a little nervous since I've forgotten my Russian. Ne one else encounter this?
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Post by Nikki on Apr 15, 2009 20:03:35 GMT -5
Hm... I think grandparents are a different story. I wasn't all that close with the g-parents so our 'conversations' are pretty much about the exact same things every time we chat on the phone and rarely last more than 3-4 minutes. They include such stimulating topics like the weather, how we are doing, and the weather.
Kind of a shame because after losing my grandfather last year I wish I had spoken more to him when I had the chance and learnt more of his story. I wrote a lot of letters etc, but it's not the same. Grandparents are fascinating.
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Post by Subuatai on Apr 15, 2009 22:42:39 GMT -5
^ Well at least you can communicate without using a cousin as a translator |
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Post by helles on Apr 16, 2009 0:22:48 GMT -5
I love talking to my Chinese Grandma, she's really funny. but we can only talk for about 5 minutes, before she loses concentration, or starts repeating herself (she's 96 or sth like that). And she turns on/off her deafness too when she wants to, she'll ignore you like she can't hear, then when you say something interesting or about her, she'll suddenly chip in.
Nikki, I feel the same about my grandfathers, they died when i was young, so never really got to know them. Apparnetly i'm very like my English grandfather..
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Post by varietyii on May 11, 2009 2:49:38 GMT -5
I talk to them about once to twice a week. Mostly with my mother. I almost always have something to talk to her about. It never gets to the point where we are trying to fill the air with things to say. However, its different with my father. A conversation with him will usually be about an errand or a task we would like the other to do. Once that has been established, the conversations usually become awkward and so we decide to just end it before we waste too much time. You know, because there is no time to waste on the phone when there are errands to take care of. However, regardless of the person, if I'm near a computer and talking on the phone at the same time, I will get distracted.
Face-to-face conversations are completely different.
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