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Post by admin on Jan 28, 2009 13:59:51 GMT -5
You soldier on - the best is yet to come.
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Post by Roam'n on Jan 29, 2009 0:18:07 GMT -5
21?? .......... You're going to spend most of your life being much older then that.
You live, you learn, and you move on. It's rough when it happens but you get beyond it.
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Post by helles on Jan 29, 2009 2:30:44 GMT -5
How about ''I love you, but I'm not IN love with you'' such a cliche, but has truth. thats how i felt with my ex (mutually), but it was hard to let it go after so long together. but you do and the world doesnt change a whole lot when you get over it.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Jan 29, 2009 9:14:35 GMT -5
After 2 years and that! Do we fight to get him back, get him to wake up? He said he's traumatized, cause his family wouldn't leave him alone.. so he's traumatized. He said he doesn't love you anymore, what do you do? And you're 21, and not ugly at all. But you're heartbroken, so heartbroken, and you're going crazy.. but the world is so big. Leave him, put on a red dress and get out there. Those type of guys you don't chase plus I find they just reset and comeback to you when it suits their ego but usually by that time you have realized that you never needed him in the first place.
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Post by rob on Jan 29, 2009 10:35:39 GMT -5
.. but the world is so big. Looks like you've already figured it out. I couldn't have put it better than Sergé on this. How about ''I love you, but I'm not IN love with you'' such a cliche, but has truth. Take a survey of "happily" married women (esp those w/ children) and come back to me on how many are IN love with their spouses. I'm sure you'll be happier one day soon helles but the thought that we have to be IN love with our partner 24/7 (or even a meaningful amount of time) is delusional. It saddens me sometimes how we (all of us) so often choose bright sparks over warm embers.
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Post by helles on Jan 29, 2009 10:57:31 GMT -5
^ I dont doubt that in the least. in fact, thats probably why we remained together for so long. not so much that we were 'settling' but we were content with the companionship and life we had and shared with each other. the fact that the (land) distance broke us up, we would probably be together still, quite happily, but it highlighted that we were in different places (literally and the rest) and so we parted...
we are still young enough and without liabilities or other baggage enables you to move on to other (better) things. there's no need to settle when there are other fish in the sea -- heh. another cliche.
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Post by rob on Jan 29, 2009 11:53:54 GMT -5
there's no need to settle when there are other fish in the sea -- heh. another cliche. ^ hey, like they say "set it free and if it comes back it was meant to be. If it doesn't, then.... f*ck, must sound profound. need a word that rhymes with "doesn't".how bout "....then you've got a pheasn't"? a pheasant is a bird that doesn't fly well so if it came back to you, you could probably kill it really easily.
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Post by admin on Jan 29, 2009 12:02:45 GMT -5
there's no need to settle when there are other fish in the sea -- heh. another cliche. ^ hey, like they say "set it free and if it comes back it was meant to be. If it doesn't, then.... f*ck, must sound profound. need a word that rhymes with "doesn't".how bout "....then you've got a pheasn't"? a pheasant is a bird that doesn't fly well so if it came back to you, you could probably kill it really easily. There's always the Eurasian partridge called the "Chukar." I don't think you'd have much problem finding a rhyme for that.
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Post by helles on Jan 29, 2009 12:04:50 GMT -5
... then it really isn't fo'shiz'nt??
nah, i don't buy into that one. its like, ok, go fcuk around and i'll take you back when you realise that the best is already at home.. otherwise i'll just be sitting around waiting..and waiting for an STD..
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Post by EA Observer on Jan 29, 2009 12:11:00 GMT -5
I don't think most people ,and particularly young people, know the true meaning of love, much less work at practicing it.
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Post by admin on Jan 29, 2009 12:12:45 GMT -5
^^ Yeah, I don't buy that either, helles. Time off to sample strange goods and then hoping for a welcome wagon upon your return? Bad idea! You will both resent the other person forever and look down on yourself for taking them back. Of course, there are exceptions...there are ALWAYS exceptions...but the existence of an exception or two doesn't invalidate the general concept.
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Post by rob on Jan 29, 2009 12:54:52 GMT -5
... then it really isn't fo'shiz'nt?? ;D nah, i don't buy into that one. its like, ok, go fcuk around and i'll take you back when you realise that the best is already at home.. otherwise i'll just be sitting around waiting..and waiting for an STD.. ...... hold on, didn't Susannah take Tristan back after his relentless fornication abroad in Legends of the Fall? ^ filmed near my hometown! (shameless plug) I hear ya tho. Girls like you and UB will have a million (most better) options in time.... it's the waiting game that sucks for most and so I plead on behalf of that unknown, shy, hidden-from-heart, partner-to-be......... patience!
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Post by alphamikefoxtrot on Jan 29, 2009 13:34:16 GMT -5
My take on it is if the disinterested party wants out, I give them the out. Part of it is pride, of course, but also I can't waste time playing games. But really, it never really plays out as simply and plainly as I've put it -- certainly depending on length of time of the relationship.
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Post by cm on Jan 30, 2009 0:04:51 GMT -5
Life happens. In the end, he can always replace his girlfriend but he can't replace his family. Same goes for you with your boyfriends.
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Post by Cheryl on Feb 5, 2009 11:43:38 GMT -5
i he was a drug addict, a chain smoker, slacking his life away, never completed college, but ever since he met me, everything changed for the better.. and how did he repay me.. don't even get me started you know. Eh if this isn't reason you need to move on with your life asap I don't know what is. Remember "Don't waste the pretty" ;D
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