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Post by jamesclarke on Feb 3, 2009 15:33:57 GMT -5
I am just wondering if i moved to a Asian country like China for instance and went to school there, will the people be friendly? like no bullying in school in no yobs in streets that will try to "shank" you for no reason?
I grew up in a rough place and i had trouble with the police for sometimes fighting in school or on the streets, will Asian people be friendly at school with no bullying and attempt to be friendly?
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Post by halfbreed on Feb 3, 2009 20:56:17 GMT -5
A lot of Asians fawn over EA's, but they're usually older people or of the opposite gender. It's possible that guys your age might be jealous and give you a hard time. It's a toss up, you never know how they respond. Some love EA's and some greatly resent.
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Post by ChickenSoda on Feb 4, 2009 2:41:38 GMT -5
Doesn't seem like it. Oh, and how those Chinese cheat at dominos...
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Post by betahat on Feb 4, 2009 18:56:39 GMT -5
My highly subjective impression as a tourist is that Thais are friendly and Vietnamese less so. But that is a highly subjective impression that has more to do with the tourist industry and professionalism than any actual person - I've met many Vietnamese people who are very friendly. I think it is difficult to generalize anyway - it might depend a lot on big versus small cities, and on whether you share a common language or not.
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Post by amalgam on Feb 4, 2009 20:24:12 GMT -5
I'm sure a lot of people would agree with me when I say that Asian people are taught more strictly in like discipline, manners and respect, so I'm sure they won't be nasty to you... But then again you can't judge an entire race because everyone is different. About schooling in China, apparently it's VERY bad because almost every school has their own gangs (sometimes students take the school up as a gang itself) and violence is a problem in schools over there as well.
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Post by rob on Feb 4, 2009 21:10:18 GMT -5
No, Asian people are not friendly.
They'll watch you drown in your car..... standing a stone's throw away.... and do absolutely nothing.
I meant to write this tongue in cheek, but the whole "gawk and do nothing" approach seems quite Asian. I've experienced it personally in China (with my own accidents) and saw it first-hand in Malaysia (where people were filming people dying in their cars instead of calling police).
I get the sense, very generally speaking of course, that in many Asian cultures, it's a "love your family, but f*ck everyone else" approach to matters. Really makes me miss home where you go out of your way for neighbours and even strangers.
Sorry for the rant/aside. Needless to say, I despise people that "do nothing"
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Post by penguinopolipitese on Feb 6, 2009 5:27:31 GMT -5
I always felt asian people are fake friendly. like they are all smiley until you turn your back then BAM! icepick in the back of the skull.
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Post by betahat on Feb 6, 2009 15:53:47 GMT -5
^Damn, what Asians are you hanging out with? Polynesian cannibals? Japanese seem very polite, but I guess that is not to be confused with being friendly. I feel like the history of colonialism plays a part but so does class. Educated Indians are very polite and friendly but many of the locals will just gawk and stare at you (probably worse for a mixed race family but pretty bad in any case) and follow you for miles. Sometimes its the extremes - in Latin America people can either be really friendly or rob and kidnap you (or catcall you to death if you're a girl), and sometimes it is the same people (people I met in Cuba who were obnoxious when they were trying to sell or scam you but pretty friendly when they give up on the hard sell).
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Post by Roam'n on Feb 13, 2009 11:28:35 GMT -5
My only experience was in the philippines; but I noticed nearly everyone (in every class level) was fairly nice. I'd say the educated population was obviously nice since they all speak fluent english and have no qualms about conversing with you.. but even the dirt poor were friendly and helpful if you asked them about something.
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Post by saeka on Feb 15, 2009 2:40:08 GMT -5
Its like anywhere, there are friendly people and non friendly people. and theres bullying anywhere in the world . I was bullied when I lived in NZ and I was bullied in Japan too.
I don't know about China but I know that Japan has a serious problem of bulling in schools and work places.
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Post by Kush on Feb 15, 2009 16:05:49 GMT -5
My overrall impression of Malaysia was that people were friendly and willing to talk. Moreso maybe than some places in England.
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Feb 16, 2009 20:56:51 GMT -5
No, if u ask me.
Ok just kidding, it just depend.
I don't like Japanese who lives in Germany for very long time: they are snobbish and arrogant.
But in Japan, its very different, I percepted them mostly friendly.
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Post by palaver on Feb 16, 2009 21:34:28 GMT -5
Anyone who is too friendly is trying to reach for the pocket. Those lifeless, placid expressions on the subway are a sign of law abiding honesty. Friendliness is an underexposure to novelty. You lose it quick once you leave the rural country.
Aside....hapas are a cheap novelty, like camera phones when they first came out. You get a really crappy camera with a really crappy phone. You're Asian enough to pass without studying, but dumb enough not to come out at the top your class.
And the other half, the white or whatever half. You really think that's going to save your Asian skin during a race riot. They might stop to look at ya for bit. Some doubt might sprinkle into their eye, but then they'll snap out of with a *BANG* you're dead. White enough for you get 5 secs of reprieve, but not enough for a rescue. Your two glasses are half empty and never shall the twain mix.
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Post by Kush on Feb 17, 2009 18:06:42 GMT -5
Hah, if I'm ever in a race riot I'm screwed. Most those types of people can't tell the difference between me, Indians and Mexicans ;D
I'd still Kung Fu them to death anyway.
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Post by admin on Feb 17, 2009 19:04:08 GMT -5
I think we might, if visiting as tourists, get a skewed idea on how friendly a people might be. For example, big cities are big cities everywhere. People are crowded, in a hurry, have to deal with all kind of idiot foreigners and for the most part are fed up with it. Sometimes you will find the exception, but usually I think the more remote you get the friendlier people are. I think that's the case for the US, too! I remember driving around Las Cruces, New Mexico and everybody was waving hello to me. I thought I must look like some local celebrity, but, no...they wave hello to EVERYone. Nice!
OK, so here are my observations:
Japan - Tokyo people don't want to speak to you in English, DEFINITELY don't want to break their ears trying to understand your Japanese, are in a hurry, have seen it all, and would just like to get around you. Then of course, you might get a piss-drunk businessman who insists on taking 1.2 hour to draw you some MC Escher map to give you directions back to your hotel. I gave a seat to a 90+ year old couple (nobody seems to do that there?) in a train station, and instead of making them comfortable, I obligated them to do something nice for me, so the woman shuffled over to the kiosk and bought me a pack of gum. I'd say that was nice. Now when I got out into the countryside (Nagano prefecture, Hotaka, Matsumoto, etc.), the people were VERY friendly! They were interested to learn where I was from, worked hard to understand my Japanese, and struggled through communicating in English. Everyone was friendly and welcoming, to a person.
China - If you get to know someone in a business or social context and they decide to put you in the group of "OK people", then you will get some very friendly treatment. If you are just some random schmoe, you're likely to get treated like...well....some random schmoe! It's not so bad when you realize that's how they treat each other (as strangers). It's not so bad - kind of like New York.
Malaysia - People seemed friendly enough. I didn't get much of an impression either way there. People seem to really stick to their groups.
Vietnam - The people I met were friendly, but not effusive. I'd say they were cordial to me as a foriegner. Polite and businesslike, but not exactly warm. Like Thailand, there is a layer of people who make a living by aggressively going after the tourist dollar. That can take some of the sheen off the friendliness for everybody, as tourists start giving off a wary vibe to everyone and get it back in return.
Hong Kong - Not so much! Luckily, I know some great people there so it didn't affect my enjoyment of the place.
Thailand - Bangkok, so so. It's a big busy city and people are stressed and do their best but not overly friendly. This, and in the land of smiles! Once you do get to talking to someone you can see how relaxed and welcoming the Thai demeanor is, however. Once I packed up some things with the idea to have a picnic by myself in Lumphini park. I had some extra-giant Lisa-sized headphones and some food and drink and parked myself near the water under a tree and just relaxed. A family set up 1/2 later about 30 meters away. After a bit, they waved me over. I was a bit suspect, but went anyway. They shared their food with me, and I with them. They asked where I was from and where I was going next, etc. I (being the mildly misanthropic suspicious traveler) kept waiting for the hard sell, but soon realized these were just kind people who didn't want me to have to sit and eat alone. I had a really nice time and count it as a favorite Thailand moment. Once again, moving out of Bangkok and into the country I found people to be much friendlier - the nicest were in Mae Hong Son and Trang. Thai people are just so gracious and kind, it's a shame that some people only experience the bustle of the harried and somewhat jaded Bangkok.
I am looking forward to going back to China, and traveling to the Philippines and Korea. Hopefully I'll run into some friendly people! I bet I do.
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