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Post by LaFace on Apr 10, 2009 6:43:48 GMT -5
^Daps is where it's at homey  I have no beef with stray. |
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Apr 16, 2009 12:30:43 GMT -5
turn-off in general to me: clumsiness.
my husband is NOT this at all ^^ ...actually I have more clumsiness than him ... ;D
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Post by milkman's baby on Apr 21, 2009 10:10:33 GMT -5
- Can't hold a baby I'm not exactly pushing for 50 kids (let alone marriage), but when a girl doesn't know how to hold a baby, it's a real turn-off to me. Maybe that's purely instinctive on my part.... or the fact I've raised most of my cousins and overvalue care-giver type qualities. Now this is a first for me. I thought men your age are scared away by women with baby fever. I don't like holding babies or being around them because I feel too much like an obnoxious female who can't wait to start a family. lol I mean I know not everyone is like that, but dude this is just an odd pet peeve. Then again, I've been told I have "masculine personality traits" when it comes to family and relationship issues. Well if I was your girlfriend, my defense would be letting you know that babies don't like me anyway. |
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Post by milkman's baby on Apr 21, 2009 10:18:04 GMT -5
Spawning off my tid bit on having a man-like personality, I tend to be the sloppy one. My pet peeve is men who care too much about their self-image, and are constantly getting embarrassed by me in public if I drink too much or eat a huge messy meal. This tends to be the skinny, intellectual, organic-buying environmentalist vegetarian who wants everyone to know he eats healthy. Thus, I've started to avoid dating them. So what if I wanna eat a whole plate of BBQ ribs and make a mess? Sorry everyone, but I hate girly men of any kind. Even the gay guys that I'm drawn to aren't girly. I only like bears.
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Apr 21, 2009 11:58:39 GMT -5
[...] This tends to be the skinny, intellectual, organic-buying environmentalist vegetarian who wants everyone to know he eats healthy. Thus, I've started to avoid dating them. So what if I wanna eat a whole plate of BBQ ribs and make a mess? Sorry everyone, but I hate girly men of any kind. Even the gay guys that I'm drawn to aren't girly. I only like bears. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D *LOOOL* hahahahaha yeah so true - Well ! word !- except for the fact that I dont like bears ...............I tend to tigers u know ;D  |
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Post by radicalken on May 11, 2009 15:03:57 GMT -5
edit - meh not even a relationship peeve. nvm
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Post by LaFace on Jun 26, 2009 23:32:34 GMT -5
Females that are obsessed with, 'celebrity'. Why is it that females of all ages cannot look at a celebrity and just be interested in them for the reasons that person became famous for in the first place? eg singers with their music, actors with their film, sports stars for their playing ability etc. A disappointingly high number of females, no matter where in the world you live, are obsessed with the private lives of these people, the gossip, the scandal etc, you name it, to the point where they care more about these aspects than the most important aspect of all - that person's work (which is why they're even famous in the first place!). In many cases, these girls allow that celebrity's private life (as reported by the extremely credible, talented and unbiased writers that these magazines are employing :  to dictate whether they enjoy that person's music/film/playing etc, when really, the person's work itself should be the primary (and often only) factor in determining whether you like that celebrity or not. Now I'm not saying guys are immune from doing this, but let's be real about the difference - female gossip magazines sell in the billions worldwide. /rant |
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Post by Paddy on Jun 27, 2009 5:04:05 GMT -5
Incessant negativity from my SO gets me down  It's downward spiral into hell, dontcha know. |
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Post by rob on Jun 28, 2009 3:54:57 GMT -5
^ sorry to hear that pads. is there a particular reason behind the negativity? perhaps a life-changing experience or a guarded frustration? As someone who wears a storm cloud over his own head, I'm slightly sympathetic towards debbie downers with just cause
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Post by Paddy on Jun 28, 2009 9:34:30 GMT -5
^ sorry to hear that pads. is there a particular reason behind the negativity? perhaps a life-changing experience or a guarded frustration? As someone who wears a storm cloud over his own head, I'm slightly sympathetic towards debbie downers with just cause Don't get me started! She has a deep rooted victim complex. Without being specific...parent's divorced, beaten by her dad, cheated on by previous boyfriends, ethnic minority in China etc... We're going through a rough patch right now. Been together for 4 years - have been apart for the last 3 of those. I feel like I've been trying to gee her up for the whole 4 years. She argues with me daily on Skype. She can't bare to be apart from me, while at the same time is often uncivil towards me. She complains I am impatient with her, but I am tirelessly patient (though I am direct with my opinions). Essentially the problem is that she relies on me to make her happy, and despite having been apart for so long, she hasn't learned to deal with her loneliness. She doesn't have good friends, her family are rubbish, she has no interests other than playing computer games. She says she's independent. She is not. She just shuts herself off from everything. I've tried everything to imbue her with fortitude. And actually being with her doesn't change things. She is still negative. My other relationship pet peeves: Lack of application (which is me!). Lack of imagination. Pouting (luckily my girl doesn't pout. She's more likely to scythe my balls off). |
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Post by rob on Jun 28, 2009 10:26:50 GMT -5
Seems like she's built her house of happiness upon you (instead of alongside you), failed to develop herself and created a very unhealthy co-dependency. You could very well be her saviour instead of her equal. I obviously don't know you guys, but I know of similar situations..... and it makes for a very difficult, rocky relationship with extreme highs and lows. The 'non-victim' partner can have alot of patience/understanding, but if the 'victim' doesn't take it upon him/herself to become his/her own person .... strong enough to stand on two feet right alongside you, then there's only more resentment and fighting. I'm also personally very skeptical of the 'victim' card. I hear it too often ..... physical/sexual abuse, divorce, daddy issues, bad relationships etc ..... my sympathetic tendencies draw me towards these types, but eventually I'll connect the dots and realize they're either embellishing and using it as an excuse for inaction/f*ck-ups....... or that I've dealt with way more sh*t myself and came out way stronger. Again, I don't mean to assess your relationship here since I don't know you (nor did you ask for it).... just my observations on a related topic. I hope things works out for both of you. Good one. This drives me mad.... and it seems really prevalent amongst the chinese girls I know. |
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Post by LaFace on Jun 28, 2009 11:48:17 GMT -5
^Are you talking about pouting that is similar to moping, or pouting in photographs? This is what I was getting at:  Networking sites are filled with females posing like this in countless photographs, but what they need to realise is that it doesn't look attractive to males (in terms of the photo itself, and more so the behaviour/mindframe exhibited). A simple smile (with or without teeth) is far more attractive - to the power of one million. |
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Post by Groink on Jun 28, 2009 13:50:34 GMT -5
Seems like she's built her house of happiness upon you (instead of alongside you), failed to develop herself and created a very unhealthy co-dependency. You could very well be her saviour instead of her equal. I obviously don't know you guys, but I know of similar situations..... and it makes for a very difficult, rocky relationship with extreme highs and lows. The 'non-victim' partner can have alot of patience/understanding, but if the 'victim' doesn't take it upon him/herself to become his/her own person .... strong enough to stand on two feet right alongside you, then there's only more resentment and fighting. I'm also personally very skeptical of the 'victim' card. I hear it too often ..... physical/sexual abuse, divorce, daddy issues, bad relationships etc ..... my sympathetic tendencies draw me towards these types, but eventually I'll connect the dots and realize they're either embellishing and using it as an excuse for inaction/f*ck-ups....... or that I've dealt with way more sh*t myself and came out way stronger. Again, I don't mean to assess your relationship here since I don't know you (nor did you ask for it).... just my observations on a related topic. I hope things works out for both of you. Good one. This drives me mad.... and it seems really prevalent amongst the chinese girls I know. Gotta agree with the observations that Rob brings up here. A few things I'd add would be that, you may find yourself at a point where you'll have to have her confront her issues. At some point it'll come to a head either by choice or over time. Like Rob said, I don't know you or your relationship (at all!), but enough data points in your post resonated with me where I was like "Whoa". Just don't want you to be caught unawares -- sucks being blindsided when you feel like you've been doing your best in a relationship. |
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Post by Paddy on Jun 28, 2009 17:12:43 GMT -5
Thanks for your words guys. I'm also personally very skeptical of the 'victim' card. I hear it too often...physical/sexual abuse, divorce, daddy issues, bad relationships etc... She doesn't expressly play the victim card by blaming all and sundry. She's less likely to cut a pathetic figure than stand and fight if she feels slighted. She can be very abusive and is often on the front foot. She's the kind who will decide early on if she likes someone or not. And if someone slights me, she will vociferously fight my corner for me. It can be sweet, but I know it is a symptom of an unhealthy view on life, and representative of her own low self-esteem. The sad thing is that apart from being proactive in responding to her perceived accusers, she is otherwise de-motivated. That annoys me. Yup, we talk frequently about/around her issues. She readily admits that she needs some kind of counseling, but where can that be had in China? In China, she is more likely to end up in a mad house! She knows she has problems (which is a good first step), but the psychological barriers are currently too great for her to overcome. Another pet-peeve: Blow-jobs with teeth. Really no need to nibble!! (am I allowed to say that here?!) |
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Post by sim on Mar 22, 2011 21:41:13 GMT -5
^ anything goes....(!)
My biggest pet peeves all revolve around food (!) I LOVE food. I (thankfully) have a pretty fast metabolism so I'm pretty cranky if I don't get to eat.
1.PLEASE DO NOT CHEW WITH YOUR MOUTH OPEN
Yuck. More common in (sorry) Asian girls than in men...but I was at party once with this white guy standing there munching on pretzels and he was making these horrible noises while chewing with his mouth open.
Ew. Any guy that does this is not going further than 1 date with me.
2. Generally picky eaters.
I have no problem if you are trying to be healthy...but I don't like people who turn their nose up at food without trying it.
My parents would have been furious with me if I had done this as a kid (if I recalll, my mum was once so upset that I didn't want to eat her friends handmade cucumber sushi that I forced it down me despite not being a big fan back then), so as a result I don't like it if people can say they don't like something without trying it. Again, I don't mind if it really is something that maybe is a bit outlandish e.g. sheep's eyeball, unless in that situation it would be rude to not try it.
3. People who tell me to choose what we are doing then say that they don't want to do what I'm doing OR show zero enthusiasm for any of my choices (I hate the 'ok, could do'). It's not a dealbreaker like (1) is above, but, it still bugs me.
4. Guys who wear my makeup. One ex asked me to put some concealer on his spot. WTH?! No. Please. No. Men should be men. Is that old-fashioned of me?
5. Guys that drink too much. Self-explanatory really.
6. Lazy lazy guys. I can be downright lazy at times, but I couldn't date a physical slob. It just screams unhealthiness and lethargic behaviour. I don't mind if they just do something once a week, just please do something or at least have the genuine intention to do it.
7. Er....guys who read 'nutz' or'gq' or some other guy magazine. Not for me.
8. Any guy that owns more shoes/clothes/bags than me without good reason. I don't own many pairs of shoes (or bags) at that; but then I'm one of these people who would wear sandals ALL year round if I could. I'm not really a heel fan as it slows you down too much. That and the fact that you see all these girls struggling to walk in their 5 inch heels- they end up doing this kind of squat walk which I find pretty unattractive. Heels at work are the exception.
I think that's it really. Not too picky as always :-O
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to dictate whether they enjoy that person's music/film/playing etc, when really, the person's work itself should be the primary (and often only) factor in determining whether you like that celebrity or not.
