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Post by markj on Feb 24, 2009 0:46:58 GMT -5
Hello,
I'm a caucasian male, and I have a date with a beautiful eurasian female in a few days. I just found this forum since I was trying to prepare myself for the date, and do a bit of homework on her culture beforehand so I don't come off like an idiot or say the wrong thing.
Can anyone give me some tips on topics to avoid, and likewise things I might bring up? Usually I like to compliment a woman on a date, but from all I've read online, there seem to be certain sensitivities that eurasian and multi-ethnic females have, like not appreciating a guy making a big deal about how 'exotic' they look (this girl is VERY exotic by the way) or playing up how they have the best of both worlds, etc.
Any advice appreciated. Thanks.
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Post by LaFace on Feb 24, 2009 1:22:21 GMT -5
This doesn't apply only to EA girls but to EA's in general, when I say don't assume that she is any less 'Asian' or any less 'European' than her Asian and European monoracial counterparts.
edit: and welcome to the forum, let us know how your date goes.
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Post by admin on Feb 24, 2009 1:57:09 GMT -5
I think your first mistake was to come here to ask for advice. You are trying to relate to her based on her racial makeup - bad idea. If you were going out on a date with a black woman, would you go to blackvoices.com and ask about how to relate to her? I would hope not!
What you SHOULD be doing is ignoring her race altogether. Treat her as a human being, a woman, first, foremost, and last. Don't worry about her race or how 'exotic' she is - she's not a pokemon, and (hopefully) you don't have to catch 'em all. I guarantee that she will appreciate it if you don't try to 'relate' to her being Eurasian, and just find some common ground that allows you to enjoy each others' company.
My opinion only, worth what you paid for it.
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Post by amalgam on Feb 24, 2009 3:56:49 GMT -5
If she grew up with your culture then I don't think it matters if she is Eurasian or not. Relax and enjoy each others company.  |
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Post by amalgam on Feb 24, 2009 4:03:11 GMT -5
What I mean is (so no one trolls me) is that you wouldn't need tips on "How to date a Eurasian girl" if both your cultures are similar, I would understand if you needed help with someone from Asia (e.g. Be more conservative, aware of personal space etc.) so I'm sure you will do fine. KEEP YOUR DICK IN YOUR PANTS! (Tip) |
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Post by halfbreed on Feb 24, 2009 8:03:55 GMT -5
If you're white, don't make her feel Asian. Or vice versa. Don't try to avoid this by trying your hardest to make her feel like one of your kind. Then she'll feel like you're ignoring her other side. Ha. Good luck!  |
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Post by ahliang on Feb 24, 2009 15:35:57 GMT -5
i literally spurt out tea. ;D markj: all the replies in this thread seem valid to me. on the "exotic" note...last time i was complimented as exotic i envisioned a durian and papaya with bulging eyes and a hula skirt. depending on the girl, she may or may not take it well, but even if she doesn t she won t blow off on you. i knew it was a compliment so i just took it as it is and smiled (in fact it didn t bother me at all but i smiled because of what i was picturing as opposed to smiling because of the fact that i was being complimented)....so if you were to compliment her on looks, try not to make it sound like a fruit punch. and like Admin said, you really shouldn t bother about the race issue for a first date. if you re really wondering you can always ask her about her upbringing but common interests should definitely be remain at the core of the conversation. as opposed to race... |
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Post by Julz 33 on Feb 24, 2009 21:05:37 GMT -5
Markj - Listen to all the previous advice especially to treat your date as a person and not an ethnicity or mix of varied ethnicities. Would you like it if she complemented you on you being "white" and enjoying things like "hockey", "golf" and "going to a bar", even if you do. The last thing that you would want your date to feel is as if she is an object or "just enough" asian. Have fun and be yourself. Take this date as a learning experience. Complements are fine - just try not to be too patronizing. Also, make sure that your breath and you smell nice, dress well and avoid white socks with dress shoes and you will be fine. Also, be a gentleman and it'll come naturally.
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Post by Phil on Feb 25, 2009 16:11:28 GMT -5
I think I need the advice!
How do I get a date with a "beautiful eurasian female"?
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Post by amalgam on Feb 25, 2009 17:15:29 GMT -5
Have you tried asking? ;D Hey! That's not too bad of an idea! Touche! |
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Post by catgirl on Feb 26, 2009 14:21:19 GMT -5
Advice: Dont focus too much on her Eurasianess! Treat her like a lady Be yourself, relax and enjoy getting to know her! Good luck  |
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Post by Phil on Feb 26, 2009 17:32:04 GMT -5
Have you tried asking? ;D Yes I have. But now I'm all outa ideas! |
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Post by stony on Feb 26, 2009 21:52:22 GMT -5
Have you tried asking? ;D Yes I have. But now I'm all outa ideas! Maybe try.... "Dick in a Box"? Seems to work for JT. |
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Post by Groink on Feb 27, 2009 0:42:48 GMT -5
I'm outta ideas then too! I've only dated a couple of EA girls, but it came down to asking, I guess. I wish I knew more, there aren't many around here. Well, slap one of those Latinas you've got in spades around there in one of these:  Go out for sushi, squint a little and call her eurasian. All good. |
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Feb 27, 2009 13:53:55 GMT -5
People want to be complimented as individuals.  WORD ! This is one of the reasons why it makes me feel very comfortable to me married with my husband: in HIS eyes, I'm a most beatiful woman in the world because of me just myself, and this is NOT because I'm half Asian or Eurasian or something "exotic". It has always sucked in the past to hear "racial" compliments like exotic from my ex, it only made me feel compared with another individual of the classification "exotic" or "Asian" or Thai, just for example, because Thai are seen as very exotic in my place. |
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