(conservative) Asian bg and personality

[nemesisgalofdoom]

hi,

my question is:

"How much of your personality got influenced from your Asian bg - I mean specificly asian education resp. (conservative) Asian family members or relatives"

So its not a racial question. I opend this thread just to see if anyone else "sufferd" in the past due to conservative eduaction AFAIK Asian are conservative alot.

My start:

I first was raised in Japan most of the time and am permanently living in Germany since I'm 17.
I love all my Asian families & relatives, we always get a long very well but in one point we never did: they are very conservative.
This is MY (ok, one of many other ^^) excuse to be mad ... ;D

I took really years to be conscious that it made me suffer - there for I'm glad to live in Europe. Germany is one of the freeest state on earth.

I hate everything conservative. Or anything that reminds me on "conservative" education. (tattoos, piercings were demonized because its "sauvage" ..........) I can't hear it anymore.
I almost took illegal drugs untill I started to work (I'd loose my license it I take drugs) for the reason I'd miss something if I don't.
I hate classical music.

I don't know if this makes sence, or can be understood, I cant explain this in English ......

Anyone experienced something similar ?

[Groink]

Mar 2, 2009 15:44:37 GMT -5 @ghostdog said:

My dad (caucasian) is the conservative actually. He's American military, most of them are pretty conservative. Not necessarily in a bad way, just old fashioned about some things. My mom was the liberal minded one of the house, except on just a mom level, she was a heck of a lot more strict than my dad! On the other hand, my dad has tattoos, didn't care about things like religion, was a little more patient with my delinquency when I was younger, stuff like that. Just politically speaking, he's conservative, and my mom isn't. I was never discouraged from either of expressing myself in most ways though, other than that I should have good manners.

Ditto. Both my parents are actually more socially liberal than one would expect in some areas. But overall more conservative -- and probably just because they are from a previous generation.

Mom always got on my sh*t about school. And brushing my teeth. Dad always was participatory in my school events, but wasn't as strict as my mom about routine schoolwork.

edit: As far as I'm concerned, I'm pretty conservative value-wise, economically, and sort of checker-boarded with some liberalism socially. Nothing really across the board, one way or the other. I see the value in education, but also understand that there might be better ways to educate a particular child than in only one way.

[nemesisgalofdoom]

I couldn't express the way I was thinking of in my start, so here's my add:

I didn't want to say that I was only disadvanged through the "conservative" education/enviroment.

My mother set very high value on education, for which I never blamed her - we all appreciate this, we all (my siblings ) an I have a more or less better education than the average German around here ... ;D and don't have to do very $hitty jobs ;D

The point which I'm really blaming is:


- the way you dress: to dress "tidy" - in a very strict way.
Looking at teenagers that times, having being told "you are different than them, so dont thinking of imitating them" (bunch of teenagers seeming to have fun with friends dressed like parakeets.....80th eben ^^)

- demolizing piercing, tattoos ---> "its savage"

- fussy reactions toward my faible to heavy metal/rock music
(I start to love hard rock/heavy metal since I'm almost 14)

I was always envying "others" for being "free" in that point, because their German parents just didn't care.


....................I was emotional a bit for making this post.

Thx for reading anyways

And I'm looking forward for my first tattoo !!!
I'm intending to Tattoo my Daughters Kanji ^^

[moralhazard]

Hey nemesis,

Here's another way of looking at it.
Being subject to constant meddling by your mum about clothes, music, body piercing and tattoos has made you value your freedom that much more than if you didn't have her as an influence in the first place. Because you've experienced one extreme growing up. Now you are experiencing and appreciating the other extreme in the current chapter of your life. Life is mixed (like you), you always have to have some of the rough sediment with the fine sand.

[Subuatai]

Funny, I was raised in an Asian culture, ended up thinking everyone else including Australians were too conservative and worried about assertiveness.