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Post by EAgent on Mar 6, 2009 22:44:19 GMT -5
I've been the proverbial "nice guy" for most of my life. Ya know, the one too chicken-s*** to voice his feelings, or when doing so getting LJBFed, or found himself stuck in too many "platonic relationships".
Over the years I've been chipping away at this "nice guy" and this year I feel as if I turned a new corner. I had an epiphany when I found myself grabbing a girl's number in less than 5 seconds from the moment I saw her walking on the street and said hi, to her handing over her number to me. In fact I got her body shaking from excitement after a mere two seconds[/b]. I couldn't believe I could trigger such a response from a woman. And I used to be a geek.
But you know what I did... I tossed her number away and approached another woman again. And again. I now find myself in a dilemma. I never really possessed this kind of power before, but now I don't know what to do with it.
I appreciate the monogamous path. But having been denied for so long, I also demand what I am due. I'm currently dating another woman I approached at a train station last week, but I'm asking myself "is this it?" I want to see more women. At the same time.
I'm concerned about the potential emotional wreckage that I may inflict if I don't play my cards right (any tips on exit strategies are welcome). But I also understand it's time to put myself first. There are so many beautiful women out there to connect with that I think it's almost criminal to exclude myself to a single woman. It would seem very selfish. Has anyone had experience with this lifestyle?
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Post by rob on Mar 6, 2009 23:12:08 GMT -5
So help me understand this.... you're a eurasian guy that gets girls queezy within seconds...
WHAT IN GODS NAME ARE YOU DOING ON THE INTERNET? YOU DON'T BELONG HERE. BEGONE AND NEVER RETURN.
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*pauses to reflect*
I'm usu liable to quote (and worse, live by) such BS as "there is but one, and be loyal to her even before you meet"..... however the credo has changed now:
Gorge at life's buffet my friend. Do not stop. Do not look back. Ravage forward and regret nothing. You are at the height of your powers and if caution should prevail, one day you will see only your miserable state and rue all that could have been yours.
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Post by ChickenSoda on Mar 7, 2009 1:30:51 GMT -5
Long story short, with great power comes great responsibility.   Spoilers He learns the error of his ways after accidentally having sex with Aunt May. |
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Post by admin on Mar 7, 2009 11:00:24 GMT -5
^ Bwah ha ha! EAgent - just don't lie about your feelings or your level of commitment. People are adults and understand the risks of dating. Perhaps the women find you attractive but shallow and just want no more than a little romp themselves? Anyway, good luck and don't break too many hearts. @ Rob, when did this philosophy change happen? Did you take your buddy's 'how to pick up chicks' seminar? |
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Post by admin on Mar 7, 2009 11:01:16 GMT -5
^ also, gent, post your pic so the ladies have something to talk about.
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Post by Fiona on Mar 8, 2009 6:32:33 GMT -5
^mmmmmhhhhmmmmmmm
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Post by LaFace on Mar 8, 2009 23:39:27 GMT -5
Eurasian Gent, sounds like you should be getting used to this anthem:
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Post by Subuatai on Mar 9, 2009 0:15:01 GMT -5
Five seconds? Best I've ever done was five minutes. Picking up girls on the street is all well and good but FIVE SECONDS?!
O.o
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Post by Subuatai on Mar 9, 2009 0:45:48 GMT -5
LOL!
Girls that approach me turn me off big time. I'm predator not prey, therefore when tables are turned I get a little uncomfortable.
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Post by Subuatai on Mar 9, 2009 0:58:03 GMT -5
Heh you're lucky.
I guess I've been inflicted with a curse;
1) If a girl likes me, I do my best to get away from her.
2) If I like a girl, but then she likes me back too easily, I stop liking her and I run off.
3) If a girl doesn't like me, then I make it into a temporary ambition to make her like me. Then after I get her, I leave as soon as I find a way how to!
This seems to have resulted in me having relationships never longer then 1-9 months because I got bored and start taking my exs for granted. Only my current girlfriend (who knows how to tease/play hard to get) has managed to keep me for a full 3 years heh
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Post by volume on Mar 9, 2009 7:06:27 GMT -5
"Hey guys, I've just gotten this ability to pick up chicks really easily, what should I do?"
You're asking the internet this?
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Post by palaver on Mar 9, 2009 9:44:36 GMT -5
He has come of age. A late bloomer, but you're never too old. Shall we split a tree and pass him through? After that, we'll clean you up and get you off the streets.  But I agree OP, if you want to "be" with a particular woman, don't try the friend angle. It doesn't work, you have to regress to infancy first--friends know each other too well for that stuff. Let friends be friends and lovers be lovers.  For those incorrigible nice guys who still want to wait on a female friend, it won't happen according to your script. Read your part again and thoroughly. You're not the hero, you're the spare. When she loses her boyfriend and runs to you, the feelings you imagined won't be there. ^Most uncomfortable moment in my life. |
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Post by Subuatai on Mar 9, 2009 14:57:38 GMT -5
^ It works sometimes, and in some ways it's better. Though it may be true that there has to be some mutual attraction. I was good friends with my current gf for 6 months while I was with my ex at that time. But then again, we did flirt around a lot (attraction was there but we didn't do anything until I broke up). My ex at that time was very possessive hence my current was a "breath of fresh air". Then after we broke up we spent 3 more months as friends cause she didn't want to be my rebound. Then after 9 months from knowing her, we finally got together. Stronger foundation for a longer lasting relation perhaps? |
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Post by palaver on Mar 9, 2009 21:48:54 GMT -5
^So was she the "nice girl" or was she instrumental in your breakup? And I don't think that counts as being a nice guy, otherwise you're making her your spare. I've known some serious "nice guys" or the "slow dancers" as they're typed. Seems like every other guy is trying to blow their cover--as if they've strung their women on opium. The jealousy is hilarious, but unwarranted. Takes a lot of effort jumping ladders and I'm privy to their successes being half "nice guy". When it comes to relationships, Filipinos are the best to watch. So much to puzzle over.... Skipping the deep phase of romantic infatuation doesn't necessarily add a stronger foundation, but it avoids most certainly the irrational pulse to get hitched immediately. There are always failures in relationships. A divorce would just be putting it in writing. |
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Post by Subuatai on Mar 9, 2009 22:14:38 GMT -5
Heh she's the "nice girl" AND she was instrumental in the breakup To be honest, when I first met my current gf I never actually entertained the notion of even being with her. However my ex, as mentioned before, likes to chuck jealous fits, to the point I started even entertaining the idea of cheating on her which she falsely accused me with. The more fits she chucked, the more I started to appreciate and admire my new 'friend'. After a while, we started flirting playfully. Which drove my ex even more crazy. Heh it got so bad to the point I just realised I deserved better, and ended it. So in a way, you can also say, my ex was instrumental in bringing us together! heh the irony In any case it took us 9 months before we got together. This 'getting to know someone' thing worked quite well, we had a strong foundation of trust to carry on into a relationship - even if for us it was an unintentional wait. You know how the saying goes anyway, 'slow and steady wins the race'. |
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