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Post by Subuatai on Apr 11, 2009 19:48:14 GMT -5
Cause I ain't
I've been trying to familiarise myself with kids by dealing with other kids but... Unfortunately growing up as an only child and having my cousins thousands of miles away I haven't grasped even the basics of dealing with annoying little brats.
As a future father, what can I do? I've heard some advice that goes along the lines of "She is your daughter, don't worry about it, your kid and someone else's kid is a completely different story" but I'm not so sure about that. What you think?
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Post by admin on Apr 11, 2009 20:03:18 GMT -5
Take a parenting class. tinyurl.com/c6lpodThen get some therapy. Your kid doesn't deserve to be raised by someone who sees him as an annoying little brat. |
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Post by jenbrook on Apr 12, 2009 1:24:28 GMT -5
Yea its weird, kids are strangely drawn to me.. They always stare at me on trains and buses for really long periods of time, like their fascinated by my face or something. They'll look briefly at other people but they'll always come back to me and stare.. Maybe its because i stare back? Maybe its because i have a baby-face and they think that their looking at another baby? Who knows..
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Post by palaver on Apr 12, 2009 1:28:21 GMT -5
^You guys are being creepy again. Just don't drive around in vans full of candy. Anywho, there's a difference between not wanting kids and not being good with kids. Don't be so quick to judge yourself so harshly.  Being an only child won't explain your parental deficiencies either way. I was an only child and I'm good with kids. I also know plenty of parents who grew up with siblings and are terrible with their children. Birth order doesn't explain much except drive and maturity level. Are you a young parent, Subuatai? Were you raised by a single parent? |
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Post by decepticons on Apr 12, 2009 1:28:34 GMT -5
i dont really know how to act around little kids but they seem oddly attracted to me. i was gonna say strangely drawn but that phrase was taken. i think my childish nature probably just seeps out of me and makes them want to play. its fun though. i like having an excuse to act like a little kid. run around, play, eat, sleep.
life is good when youre little.
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Post by helles on Apr 12, 2009 2:43:21 GMT -5
I'm pretty good with kids, they like me too.
My friend had a baby in November and I hang out with them quite frequently. I can do all the playing, holding, rocking to sleep, feeding and burping, no problems. BUT as soon as she farts/poops or cries, I have to hand her back over to the parents! heh. I guess a sign I'm not quite ready for my own.
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Post by betahat on Apr 12, 2009 12:41:07 GMT -5
I'm with Subuatai on this one - other people's kids are often annoying little brats. My children will be perfect darling angels however  |
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Post by bluegum on Apr 12, 2009 12:52:09 GMT -5
^So you will believe... I like to think I'm great with kids. I don't do too well with babies though : ( |
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Apr 12, 2009 14:22:49 GMT -5
No need to think so bluegum (btw: nice nickname, really ^^) - I used to hate kids (now I know why: because I was the eldest of 3 siblings and I hated them a lot because I felt very bothered by their noise) and never wanted one, untill I got together with my husband in the end of 2007, till I wass 37 - and its the best thing that have happend to me to have my Daughter ^^  |
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Post by Subuatai on Apr 13, 2009 5:30:49 GMT -5
I was raised as an only child, parents divorced when I was 7. I started living on my own during my teens however. I never really wanted children, but I did make a commitment when I was a child to raise my kids in the best possible way, comes from being from a broken family. I never expected this but I've had months to think about it. My daughter will soon be born and I'm going to be a dad. As much as it frightens me, to be honest I'm very excited. Already throughtout my day I'm thinking about how to raise her. I had wanted a son but... oh well  Heh I don't mind changing diapers, I did it before with my younger cousins when their parents were at work. My concern is just wondering how I'll handle a kid. Like, sure with cousins and such it's natural, but with other people's kids... well to be honest sometimes I'm stumped dealing with them. LOL everyone here in town tells me this!!! Haha Very inspirational, you have a beautiful daughter. It really gives me comfort in some way when I learn others who said "I dont want kids" end up being loving parents. Gives me some hope, less worry heh. |
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Post by Fiona on Apr 13, 2009 6:33:29 GMT -5
Very inspirational, you have a beautiful daughter. It really gives me comfort in some way when I learn others who said "I dont want kids" end up being loving parents. Gives me some hope, less worry heh. Here's another one. My sister didn't want kids. Wasn't expecting her son. I've never seen her happier! She isn't looney crazy. But she seems content about everything. I think after you find some sort of routine its all good- it will all sort itself out.  Oh and CONGRATS!! |
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Post by Subuatai on Apr 13, 2009 6:59:34 GMT -5
Thanks I guess thinking too much at present times isnt' really helpful, a close friend of mine said "When you hold her in your arms, your own flesh and blood, there's nothing like that, you have to experience it for yourself", heh perhaps only time will tell, most of us are nonetheless - first time parents. |
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Apr 13, 2009 9:59:34 GMT -5
@ sub heh. congratz, read out now that u are going to be a parent ^^ I didnt know that u were that old (was thinking like .......21 ?) I think u dont have to worry that much, u will love her. it was strange for me too, because I have been so sure never going t0 have kids untill I was 37. In the past, kids were only annoying brats to me as far as I remember, but this changed since I got pregnant with my Daughter. And since I'm mum, Im starting to understand what was wrong in the past. I mean, I really love my siblings as those, but they all were so annoying as kids, and if I think back, I still hate them. Its the stress which they have giving me, and I even hate my own mother for this, I had to take care of kids which are NOT mine as being a kid myself - I feel like my childhood taken away. I now dont blame my siblings fot this, I hate my mother for this really and I'm glad that all this couldnt destroy my future and present life ... |
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Post by thesa on Apr 13, 2009 14:09:32 GMT -5
^You have a very cute daugher Nemesisgalofdoom!!! I love kids and for some inexplicable reason they also seem to at least not hate me The only time I get annoyed with them is when they won't stop crying and start manipulating their parents with their tears. All kids seem to do it but some really overdo it and always get what they cry for. Madness And subuatai: your own child is always more beautiful, smarter and better behaved than the rest of 'em. No worries |
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Post by palaver on Apr 13, 2009 15:08:00 GMT -5
Chi... (stare) If a baby stares at you longer, it means you have a pretty face--otherwise you're still wearing your lunch. Baby study suggests beauty is not in the eye of the beholderAlso when children are looking for help from strangers, they are more likely to approach attractive people (esp for females) or more effeminate men. Why? Who knows...evolutionary psychology. The children who followed this rule lived and the children who didn't never came back with Pinocchio from Pleasure Island.  |
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