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Post by mck on Apr 27, 2009 0:45:00 GMT -5
Now I'm an Asian-looking EA with a Western-looking EA with blonde hair as a wife. As a result I get pinned with the same ignorant nonsense as other "AM/blonde WF" relationships that I'm "white-washed", "whiteophile", "blonde stealer", "assimilated", "brainwashed by media" etc. . EXACTLY! That's it, other races just talk about that. A lot of people say tha I look more latino because I'm always with the white girls: It seems they don't want to understand that an asian person has a high charisma.
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Post by Subuatai on Apr 27, 2009 0:55:12 GMT -5
Hell yeah! You know it!
And hell it just sh*ts me! But hey, she doesn't want to dye her hair to "fit in" into society's 'social acceptance' criteria. Guess she's stronger then me when dealing with such nonsense.
It's just not socially acceptable to them, it challenges modern views on race, causing racial insecurity. These negative stereotypes, just seems to help them cope with their insecurity - thats why it seems they just don't want to understand.
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Post by catgirl on Apr 27, 2009 16:12:26 GMT -5
The funny thing is that white peoplesee us like "white-philes" who beg for white flesh . Especially attractive asians, attractive asians tend to date more on the white side. But I think it's an "social rise" for an asian guy with a white girl, so I get a sexual reputation because I'm clubbing with the stereotypical "tall blonde bombshells" . In Germany proud preppy asians even trash-talk about asian girls dating white boys ( "Is that byatch worn out???" was the funniest comment from a GIRL). I mean yes, they are obviously white-philes hunting for tall blondes with blue eyes, but I think it's not as "nasty" than white girl with black guy, but I don't go there . So I don't have a problem with Asiaphiles, I mean as long as they treat their girlf/wife good, love her and be a good husband to her, where is the problem? I'm always thinking about getting a laser skin bleach, eye enlargement, check bones etc... so I might be an german-phile . What should we be then? EAphiles??? There are a lot of guys who have a fetish for blondes, and I think thats just as creepy! Those people who have these something-philes seem superficial and dont see the real meaning of the person or something, thats why its so disturbing. Women dont like to be generalized!
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Post by Subuatai on Apr 28, 2009 16:17:06 GMT -5
I don't think anyone likes to be generalized, male or female Nonetheless it's a fact of life, sick thing about this philia fetish stuff is that not only is it creepy but gives genuine relationships a bad name.
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Post by celltocell on May 1, 2009 0:48:16 GMT -5
"i only like you because i found out you were asian / mixed." eh... don't think many people would be too thrilled or flattered to hear that. Last week, my friend was asked out by a asiaphile, to which she politely said no.... although i found it funny in a ridiculous way, it got me thinking about asiaphiles and EAphiles.. I've had very little contact with them, but has anyone here ever been asked out by one of these types?? how did you say that it was a little weird for you that they only started liking you when they found out you were asian or mixed?? Personally, I've never had this experience, but I'm wondering how everyone else handles it...
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Post by catgirl on May 5, 2009 13:04:17 GMT -5
Haha, yeah you ve got to be braindead to say something like that
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2009 0:07:28 GMT -5
I've witnessed lots of creepy Asiaphiles try to pick up my mom. ...It's really disturbing to behold as they usually get this horrible puppydog-ish look of admiration on their faces as they go on about how beautiful and lovely Asian women are (which is fine and doesn't bother me) and how they are superior to women of other races for inaccurate reasons that are rooted in stereotypes ( which makes me look like this: ). here are some reasons I've heard them give for why Asian women are superior to other women... "less materialistic" "are not "fat" " "are more conservative" "listen to their man" "are "tight""....how embarrassing it is to hear some creepy guy talk about this as he hits on your mom The closest encounters I've had to EA fetishists were encounters with Latinaphiles....Guys speaking to me in broken Spanish and going on about how beautiful and exotic Latinas are...
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Post by Subuatai on May 6, 2009 7:24:25 GMT -5
Heh, what to do really with these sort of people? My cousin sister however seems to have a very unique way of dealing with them - she's a total player. Not only has she encountered Asiaphiles, but she has a habit of temporarily "converting" them into 'Mongolophiles' and 'EAphiles'. She's a complete player, and quite a deadly one at that - she has led on successful high-profile men all her life, all who drive BMWs, Mercedes, etc, have their own business etc.
She's become so natural at it she doesn't notice it half the time anymore, even all her friends who are blokes end up liking her. When me and my wife travelled around Asia we caught up with my cousin and my wife ended up admiring her, which frightened me a bit... ne ways my cousin denies that she's a player all the time, admitted it only once (and the way she admitted it was like - DUH!).
Worst thing I've noticed is that it takes her 'admirers' YEARS to figure out they are being led on, you would have thought they would get the hint if a girl doesn't put out, as well as seeing other blokes at the same time. She knows how to work all the angles. I used to have a mate who was a bit of an Asiaphile, I deliberately hooked him up with my cousin, and he ended up becoming a family joke. For two years he was led on, thought he was in love. Hell even when my cousin commented about his bald spot, he ended up spending hundreds of bucks on hair growth products.
I ended up feeling so sorry for him I had to tell him the truth about my cousin. Nonetheless, after witnessing what she did to my mate, I realised... my cousin is probably the deadliest weapon I could ever unleash on an Asia/EA/Mongolophile
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Post by palaver on May 6, 2009 12:14:58 GMT -5
^Hmmm... There aren't any femme fatales in my family. There might be one, but she's the wife of my grandmother's brother, some young Russian ex-model. She drinks, smokes, and curses--considered a disgrace by the family.
But we can't really judge them. It's a give and take. They know what they want. Some people have had it hard for so long that they're committed to finding happiness at any cost. Only people who've taken that for granted can look down on them.
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Post by Subuatai on May 6, 2009 15:53:36 GMT -5
My father's side are all players and femme fatales, just my cousin sister is the most talented. She's FAR from being a disgrace; she is highly educated, professional, and classy. She's only this way with blokes because she's really independent in spirit, likes to travel, see the world, and men to her are just toys. Her standard for a real man is very high.
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Post by palaver on May 7, 2009 0:49:58 GMT -5
^ Hah... You sound like an admirer. And you were worried about your wife? If her standards were so high, you wouldn't so easily laugh at her prey (the balding family joke). I'm sure she looks for men with weaknesses--or needs. As much as I might admire those women, for class and intelligence, you need more than confidence and an education.
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Post by Subuatai on May 7, 2009 4:45:45 GMT -5
Heh my wife does have that side of hers, but she never harvested the field like my cousin. My cousin is almost heartless to most men - yet loving to family, I'd rather not have her influence my wife My mate was no prey, he was a joke. I hooked him up with my cousin though she was never interested in him, but still led him on just for fun. The plan backfired and he got himself infactuated within 2 hrs and it lasted 2 years. When I visited her recently I ended up meeting many of her 'friends' - more like trapped flies in a black widow's web (The blokes ALL admitted they like her), and they weren't like my mate, far from it. Once the blokes get the hint she recycles, it's crazy, she's been doing it for 10 years flawlessly.
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Post by LaFace on May 7, 2009 5:18:15 GMT -5
lol... Nothing personal; purely going by what you wrote about her.
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Post by meep on May 7, 2009 5:22:25 GMT -5
Heh, what to do really with these sort of people? My cousin sister however seems to have a very unique way of dealing with them - she's a total player. Not only has she encountered Asiaphiles, but she has a habit of temporarily "converting" them into 'Mongolophiles' and 'EAphiles'. She's a complete player, and quite a deadly one at that - she has led on successful high-profile men all her life, all who drive BMWs, Mercedes, etc, have their own business etc. She's become so natural at it she doesn't notice it half the time anymore, even all her friends who are blokes end up liking her. When me and my wife travelled around Asia we caught up with my cousin and my wife ended up admiring her, which frightened me a bit... ne ways my cousin denies that she's a player all the time, admitted it only once (and the way she admitted it was like - DUH!). Worst thing I've noticed is that it takes her 'admirers' YEARS to figure out they are being led on, you would have thought they would get the hint if a girl doesn't put out, as well as seeing other blokes at the same time. She knows how to work all the angles. I used to have a mate who was a bit of an Asiaphile, I deliberately hooked him up with my cousin, and he ended up becoming a family joke. For two years he was led on, thought he was in love. Hell even when my cousin commented about his bald spot, he ended up spending hundreds of bucks on hair growth products. I ended up feeling so sorry for him I had to tell him the truth about my cousin. Nonetheless, after witnessing what she did to my mate, I realised... my cousin is probably the deadliest weapon I could ever unleash on an Asia/EA/Mongolophile Your cousin sounds like a lovely girl. What does she get out of leading men on? Is the point power play? Does she have personal issues? I have encountered people like your cousin, but I never could comprehend their motives. I am sorry if that offended you, it was not my intention to do so; I was merely curious.
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Post by Subuatai on May 7, 2009 14:07:30 GMT -5
Are you sure you encountered people like my cousin? I wouldn't class her as any typical female player out there - and I've met a lot.
She just haven't found the right man yet, told me that herself. Unlike the players you guys are probably used to, she's a complete natural with rarely any ill intentions. That's why she still remains classy. That's why guys end up liking her for years until they finally realised there's just no chance.
She has had someone she actually loved before, but they broke up. Now her standards are just impossible to reach, she dates just for fun and to be social. When guys like her - It's not really her fault others misinterpret her and get themselves led on, and she doesn't like to just get rid of them as to her they are 'friends'.
That's why she denies being a player, which ironically, her style makes her the deadliest type because you can simply not pin sh*t on her. It's just her looks, charm and personality combined with high standards that makes her like this. The family wants her to settle down from the game but she's too free-spirited.
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