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Post by Kalvien on May 17, 2009 2:29:42 GMT -5
hmm just wondering, I want to share story about my clueless romantic life. My friends told me that I'm pretty good looking and pretty mature person, they said I'm funny and an ice-breaker person. I'm now 23 and I hadn't dated a single girl in my entire life. (yeah, call it pathetic).
I had crush twice with a girl during my high school and college. I stopped approaching the first one because she went to netherlands (and her bf protested me because I send her sms too much), for the second one, she had no interest of me being lover despite the proximity of our friendship.
I actually dont have a feel of being inferior or anything because I'm overarchiver, I have seen a lot of girls and boys dated for 3-6 months and they break. Those observations make me conclude that having gir/boylfriend is a waste of time and money and I should enjoy my time because marriage means you must break your privacy with your spouse, you might lose time to achive your dreams and goals.
My friend also having similar problem, they said It's not that we want to stay single all the time, but we are just clueless of being romantic. I even thinking an option that maybe I should let my parents pick my wife in future.
Tell me your thoughts about it, has anyone experienced similar situation?
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Post by Subuatai on May 17, 2009 5:38:54 GMT -5
A person has to be really immature to judge a person as 'pathetic' simply because he or she has not found a date. Ne ways, if you are looking for a date, perhaps you have too high a standard? Have you had many potentials who you have consistently rejected? Or is it simply because you do not find an interest in getting involved in a relationship at the moment? In either case, there's no rush. You don't want to be the type of person who gets a girlfriend just for the sake of getting a girlfriend. Marriage means break privacy with your spouse? In actual fact me and my wife enjoy quite a lot of space which we have always upheld throughout the years. Your youth will only officially end once you have a kid As for arranged marriages as well - I've heard that it has a MUCH MUCH lower divorce rate then traditional marriages.
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Post by grassgrace on May 17, 2009 6:56:07 GMT -5
You've only crushed on two girls? Set the bar a little lower man!
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Post by Subuatai on May 17, 2009 12:40:48 GMT -5
^ Well to be honest I ended up comparing every girl since 16 to my first girlfriend, it was only 5 years later that I met someone who passed all my standards and surpassed them even more - yet I had a girlfriend at the time (who I ended up ditching in favor of my wife). I've also heard from others - sometimes waiting - saves time itself.
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Post by amalgam on May 19, 2009 0:05:24 GMT -5
I agree, if you have only had two crushes then maybe you are just too picky, although that's NOT a bad thing but like it does explain why you haven't had a date/partner yet... also, try being more confident w/e, girls usually like that. : )
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Post by terce on May 19, 2009 4:49:53 GMT -5
hmmn better to be too picky than have low standards. but yea, its not attractive for a man to have no self-esteem!
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Post by jenbrook on May 20, 2009 0:23:11 GMT -5
hmm just wondering, I want to share story about my clueless romantic life. My friends told me that I'm pretty good looking and pretty mature person, they said I'm funny and an ice-breaker person. I'm now 23 and I hadn't dated a single girl in my entire life. (yeah, call it pathetic). I had crush twice with a girl during my high school and college. I stopped approaching the first one because she went to netherlands (and her bf protested me because I send her sms too much), for the second one, she had no interest of me being lover despite the proximity of our friendship. I actually dont have a feel of being inferior or anything because I'm overarchiver, I have seen a lot of girls and boys dated for 3-6 months and they break. Those observations make me conclude that having gir/boylfriend is a waste of time and money and I should enjoy my time because marriage means you must break your privacy with your spouse, you might lose time to achive your dreams and goals. My friend also having similar problem, they said It's not that we want to stay single all the time, but we are just clueless of being romantic. I even thinking an option that maybe I should let my parents pick my wife in future. Tell me your thoughts about it, has anyone experienced similar situation? Yea, i've been clueless about romantic life too! Except its not the lack of dating that makes me clueless, its my careless abandon when it comes to relationships, i've had one after another, some overlapping some where i moved in a week after meeting him.. People who have too much romantic life can be clueless too So your lack of relationship history isnt so bad, at least you're still young and you have tons of time to meet someone you really really really like. Not having experience and being clueless is far far better then having LOTS of experience and still being clueless .. Besides, you're smart to wait until you're ready. Thats not being clueless IMO, thats being careful, so good on ya
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Post by Subuatai on May 29, 2009 7:07:15 GMT -5
^ Maybe just unlucky
I don't think there's anything wrong with standards btw, as sometimes you meet someone else with unique qualities that knock down those standards by herself ne ways. While in the mean time, you keep your head above water.
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Post by nakanaka on May 31, 2009 20:25:49 GMT -5
I'm definitely clueless... I've only really had one good bf-gf relationship... and I always seem to fall for the wrong people I try to convince myself i'm still young... but my friends keep trying to get me to date someone..
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Post by fei on Jun 27, 2009 8:06:10 GMT -5
Hey beautiful people... Well i been alot of relationships so i know one or two stuff about the subject.. Well guy and gal think differently so what she say or do mean another thing so dont need to crack your head open guy just follow the intruction below
When she walks away from you mad [ Follow her ]
When she stares at your mouth [ Kiss her ]
When she pushes you or hits you [ Grab her and dont let go ]
When she start's cussing at you [ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]
When she's quiet [ Ask her whats wrong ]
When she ignores you [ Give her your attention ]
When she pulls away [ Pull her back ]
When you see her at her worst [ Tell her she's beautiful ]
When you see her start crying [Just hold her and dont say a word ]
When you see her walking [ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ]
When she's scared [ Protect her ]
When she lays her head on your shoulder [ Tilt her head up and kiss her ]
When she steals your favorite hat [ Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night]
When she teases you [ Tease her back and make her laugh ]
When she doesn't answer for a long time [ reassure her that everything is okay ]
Good luck...
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Post by Subuatai on Jun 28, 2009 7:22:17 GMT -5
And they always answer; "nothing" lol
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Post by Paddy on Jun 28, 2009 8:32:09 GMT -5
And they always answer; "nothing" lol Haha...yeah lol Or in the case of my girl, "What's it to you, you b*stard?"
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Post by Subuatai on Jun 28, 2009 9:03:01 GMT -5
ROFL!!! OMG! She's feisty alright lol!
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Post by Paddy on Jun 28, 2009 9:11:10 GMT -5
^damn right! lol
She complains that I am impatient and abrupt. And you should she her when she tells me that; deep furrowed brow, raised voice, daggers for eyes, steam rising from her shoulders. So I reply, 'Who's impatient and abrupt?'. If only she could see herself!
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Post by Subuatai on Jun 28, 2009 9:17:13 GMT -5
Hahaha! Buy a pocket mirror next time and hold it up to her whenever she tries it! But if she's the type of girl I presume she is, she'll probably grab it and smash it over your head lol
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