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Post by palaver on May 27, 2009 9:21:42 GMT -5
And I've never seen any Korean films other than "My Sassy Girl." Did the protagonist in that film speak? I thought you would've appreciated that aspect in Korean films from an artistic standpoint.
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Post by ahliang on May 27, 2009 15:19:50 GMT -5
i ve been told i m feisty...not necessarily verbally though...although on quite a number of occasions i ve yelled and thrown tantrums...but i can be "feisty" without uttering a word too...and thereby definitely understand what Soleil means.
as for saying she might like korean films BECAUSE you assumed she liked quiet people, you re actually quite wrong in this assumption on korean film making too... the example you posted above is nothing close to what most people in korea watch for movies...my friends said it had gotten good reviews at some festival, we started watching it but never got to the end of it...they found it utterly boring...of course you ll still have a lot of people enjoying that movie, just as for the movie take care of my cat whose actress is quite famous; but you should watch what MOST koreans watch to stereotype korean movies...which are FAR from being quiet on the whole! kdramas (lots of feisty partners yelling, fits and loud tantrums), my sassy girl (for an old reference), sex is 0-2, and oh so many movies i can think of. that movie is supposed to be an artsy one...it s a bit like saying woody allen epitomises american movies when in fact hollywood action packed/special effects/ movies do...
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Post by palaver on May 27, 2009 17:44:39 GMT -5
^ I wasn't generalizing about all Korean films. I watch their action films occasionally, but I prefer the unique dramas, movies foreigners might find different enough to watch. Why watch something you can see in your own language. I'm sure many people will find them boring. But that's just like the many Hollywood films that do better overseas than at home. Most people don't watch them to be/feel American or Korean.
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Post by TeeHee on May 27, 2009 22:49:30 GMT -5
And I've never seen any Korean films other than "My Sassy Girl." Did the protagonist in that film speak? I thought you would've appreciated that aspect in Korean films from an artistic standpoint. Oh she spoke alright! Well, there were two main protagonists(her and the guy) but she was most definitely the domineering one; crazy girl dishing it all out and this poor dude was just taking it one after another everything she'd do to him. She's the epitome of the title of this thread. www.youtube.com/watch?v=OWTJ01sAe-s&feature=relatedAnyhow, regardless of the nationality of a given movie or tv show, I've always preferred the comedy genre.
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Post by Paddy on May 28, 2009 16:59:14 GMT -5
In my relationship, I am definitely the sedate one. My girlfriend is the feisty one who will restort to violence at a whim - whether she is playing or angry. She wears her heart on her sleeve, and there can never be any doubt where her emotions lie. This is quite uncommon for a mainland Chinese girl.
In public, if she feels slighted she wont hesitate to shout at me and has been know to kick and punch me in full view of friends, though I think she would be more careful in the company of family. She has embarrassed me in front of clients before. One time she roundhouse kicked my arse at the front of a busy restaurant.She drew some pretty shocked looks. If I have done something wrong, she alienates her support when she attacks me, and I think this only feeds her anger. Her friends will sympathise with me when she gets violent.
In private she enjoys to slap, kick and bite me. For the most part, I'll just let her do what she wants to me, because I know that if I retaliate, then things tend to escalate quite quickly! A sure way to get a reaction from me, though, is when she bites my arse. I hate that! We can have fun tussling, but she's a really small girl and I have to be so careful not to hurt her. So she punches and slaps with all her strength and I have to take it. It's pretty annoying - frustrating even.
Her father used to beat her as a kid (and even threatened her only last year). he used to beat his wife too, so she has grown up with violence, and I have been warned many times that if I ever hit her, then she will leave me. Fair enough!! But it can be hard when she readily initiates violence, and with her hot temper, a lovers tussle can easily go wrong. It's happened a few times when a laugh has turned to tears and I have been accused of beating her when I have done nothing of the sort. I'm always mindful to use proportionate strength/force, but you can count on nothing with a hot head (we should all know that from some of our EAN discussions!).
I'm not moaning about this. It's not a big issue in our relationship. Anger management is a big issue for her, personally, but not so much for the two of us as adept at cooling her down. I was just wondering if other people experience this. I think it's tricky for guys, because obviously you can never justify hitting a girl, but if she wants to play, then what can you do?
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Post by i move the stars for no one on May 28, 2009 17:45:27 GMT -5
sounds like a sticky situation. i think a lot of women get away with murder.if it had been you doing these actions instead of her people would think you were a monster!you're a patient man.i'd be furious if a bf embarassed me at work by that kind of browbeating behavior.
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Post by Paddy on May 28, 2009 17:46:50 GMT -5
sounds like a sticky situation. i think a lot of women get away with murder.if it had been you doing these actions instead of her people would think you were a monster! Yup!!
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Post by helles on May 29, 2009 0:48:42 GMT -5
^ heh, from what i've seen of chinese girls, its pretty extreme. they will either lay on the pout and sulk like a 3 year old for hours or they will beat you up - not realising how hard they are punching/kicking/biting. and the boy has to buy some sort of designer item to get back into the good books.
and i'm not very fiesty at the minute, since i don't have anyone to be fiesty with!
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Post by Subuatai on May 29, 2009 7:03:00 GMT -5
Personally I find women are so much hotter when they are angry, it triggers a predatory sense within me. Tough women are much more 'worthy prey' to tackle down, and makes me wanna start ramming something so dam hard! But I guess I always liked a challenge, women who just jump on the bed and spread their legs turn me off big time. So I always love it when my wife loses it and starts punching, kicking, headbutting, biting, scratching, tearing and ripping. But such occasions have been rare for me unfortunately, as my wife is rather controlled and tempered, so dam incredibly difficult to piss off sometimes. But I persist nonetheless... ... which is something that drove my wife to extensive lengths of frustration, confusion and complete misunderstanding in the past... and something which unfortunately drove me to endure extensive long "cold treatments" when I failed in making her mad but end up annoying/irritating her instead in the process
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Post by Paddy on May 29, 2009 7:18:24 GMT -5
You're just a trouble maker... ;D
Yeah, I like it when my girl is feisty, but it's hard to keep things under control. I suppose that defeats the purpose!
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Post by jenbrook on May 29, 2009 7:33:12 GMT -5
^She sounds like a much tamer version of my mother.. err.. goodluck Speaking from experience, stand your ground now before she gets too used to be being the overly dominant one, abuses the position later in life and completely loses all concept of anger management. Then you'll really be in a pickle!
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Post by Subuatai on May 29, 2009 7:35:13 GMT -5
Dam right Hard to keep things under control? Heh, always have been easy for me. When it gets "physical", it gets under control at the end. Besides, I tend to get rather turned on quite quickly when she's pissed off so it works for me everytime. Me and my wife had some of our most intimate conversations with each other after such moments. You know this actually reminds me of something worth pointing out as well I guess. My first girlfriend was definitely REAL fiesty. Comparing my ex to my wife, my wife is a little princess. My first was not just violent with a violent past, but she has a really short fuse and would start fights randomly on the street if someone even stares at her. Just like my wife however, my ex had a real confident and proud posture, but at the same time there seems to be a dread factor in how she portrays herself. She has a sharp tongue but would not hesitate to throw the first punch (she's a trained kickboxer). Unfortunately, I've learnt too that I'm quite fortunate I did not marry her. Sure I would never know, but considering how insane she has been ever since her temper is lost, I question her ability as a mother; unlike my wife. With my wife, at the back of our minds we know all this is just another game. Cat and mouse, whos-on-top, predator and prey. We are married, but we still play games as if we have just met.
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Post by meep on May 29, 2009 7:59:27 GMT -5
Dam right Hard to keep things under control? Heh, always have been easy for me. When it gets "physical", it gets under control at the end. Besides, I tend to get rather turned on quite quickly when she's pissed off so it works for me everytime. Me and my wife had some of our most intimate conversations with each other after such moments. You know this actually reminds me of something worth pointing out as well I guess. My first girlfriend was definitely REAL fiesty. Comparing my ex to my wife, my wife is a little princess. My first was not just violent with a violent past, but she has a really short fuse and would start fights randomly on the street if someone even stares at her. Just like my wife however, my ex had a real confident and proud posture, but at the same time there seems to be a dread factor in how she portrays herself. She has a sharp tongue but would not hesitate to throw the first punch (she's a trained kickboxer). Unfortunately, I've learnt too that I'm quite fortunate I did not marry her. Sure I would never know, but considering how insane she has been ever since her temper is lost, I question her ability as a mother; unlike my wife. With my wife, at the back of our minds we know all this is just another game. Cat and mouse, whos-on-top, predator and prey. We are married, but we still play games as if we have just met. Out of curiosity: Would/is your wife (be) happy knowing that you've posted this? Asking because I know I'd have issues with my boyfriend going on the internet telling a bunch of strangers some detail about our sex life.
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Post by Paddy on May 29, 2009 8:13:10 GMT -5
I have to be quite careful what I write. My girl knows I come here, but I don't think she realises how often. If she caught on, then she would monitor me secretly - I'm sure of that. But she doesn't - I'd be able to tell quite easily.
There are things I wouldn't say about our relationship, but when it comes down to it, this is a fairly anonymous safe place to chat and discuss, rant and rave. Writing here is diary-esque. I feel I can (try to) justify anything I say here.
I'd never mention things like the time she farted in my face when I was...oops, I've gone far enough...
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Post by Subuatai on May 29, 2009 9:05:36 GMT -5
Heh that happened once; years ago she found me on another forum, bitching about her after we broke up, and she retaliated by signing on then posting a rather hateful post to embarrass me. Nowadays we still laugh about it. I'm not revealing any details - if you think what I've written ARE details, then you have NO idea She's not concerned what a bunch of anonymous strangers thinks about us, but I know she will be concerned if what I write is against her. However, all I've written she already knows, and nothing is against her.
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