^I understand, no one likes being interrogated about their appearance. The guessing games or not so subtle hints can be annoying. I've grew up identifying as Asian, so I agree with identifying more with one racial group, even my "white" brother checks Asian and identifies that way. Perhaps it has to do with the way you're brought up? I never thought of being Asian as exotic, and it sort annoys me when others think so, I mean we sorta outnumber the white folks, so who's exotic? ;D
You don't hate yourself, you were finding yourself, we all do that. And people assume you're Danish because you are.
I agree that it can be annoying when the first thing people see in you is your ethnicity (and even ask about your ethnicity before asking your name), rather than seeing you first and foremost as a *person*. I think it's like that with all 'minority' groups. Even though I have ranted here before about the narrowmindedness of my hometown, during this last period I have spent here I have noticed that no one has pointed out my ethnicity or treated me differently in ages, which feels great Feels like people have just seen me as *me*. But despite this, I still don't have much in common with the people here when it comes to culture and way of being, and I prefer the company of other 'minorities'. Whenever I feel pressured to believe that my Asian ways are 'weird' and that I should be more like the majority here, I also tell myself the same as you said pelle; Asians in the world outnumber the Norwegians by a billion - so who is really the 'weird minority'? ;D And since I'll be returning to Asia soon, I don't feel the need to conform to this particular place.
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aj: hope the therapy is going well Actually the best way is not to fret too much over your identity. Just be real and sincere as you shouldn't be taking on a new identity just because other people give you bull$&it. Good luck!!
I kind of feel like an outsider here. I hope I'm not the only 1/8 Korean. I don't even look Korean! Maybe because I'm not much. I still think it counts. Even if your great x12 grandparent is asian, it still counts to me! But, my grandmother is half German half Korean.