az
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Post by az on Jun 4, 2009 20:39:04 GMT -5
hi as the title says my brothers gf is introducing me to her friend who i noticed in a recent wedding photo. So next friday the four of us are all going out. It is also my first date if one would call it that, I am 25 and never had a gf so I am wondering if anyone has any advice for me. How to greet her? peck on the cheek too much? Maybe i should just relax and have a good time... should i send her a message on facebook or wait until the night?
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celltocell
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Post by celltocell on Jun 4, 2009 21:32:27 GMT -5
it's your first date. not your last. just relax and enjoy it when the time comes. make sure everyone is comfortable / don't be awkward.
i wouldn't peck her on the cheek the instant i see her, that's a bit much.
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Post by Nikki on Jun 4, 2009 22:11:33 GMT -5
Treat her like a potential friend and a normal human being and you'll be just fine.
and +1 on the relax. I wouldn't bother sending a message unless there is something you need to figure out a place to meet etc. Ix-nay on the pecking. But I also wouldn't shake her hand or give her a pound. Just be casual and friendly and enjoy her company. Good luck!
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Post by ChickenSoda on Jun 5, 2009 1:07:31 GMT -5
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Post by stray on Jun 5, 2009 1:14:07 GMT -5
like the girls said, just chill.. enjoy the time out. in a way, it's just a get together and you'll have other friends there to take the pressure off. it'll probably come naturally.
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Post by Groink on Jun 5, 2009 1:48:15 GMT -5
Have your brother's girlfriend run an inspection on you before you meet up with her friend.
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Post by EAgent on Jun 6, 2009 9:24:12 GMT -5
Hi az. As a reforming "chump", all I can say is do the exact opposite of everything that women tell you. This advice has proven golden to me. So...
1. i wouldn't peck her on the cheek the instant i see her, that's a bit much. Peck on the cheek is fine. A hug is better. She might seem awkward, but trust me, it works. You want to show you have no problem with closeness, and she'll expect a close hug / peck everytime you meet in future, so you're setting up the stage for a future relationship already. 2. Treat her like a potential friend and a normal human being and you'll be just fine. Don't treat her as a potential friend. Treat her as a potential lover. Communicate as a man. View her as a woman. Emphasise your gender and sexual differences in your interactions. If you treat her as a friend, she will only be your friend.
Good luck bro!
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Post by amalgam on Jun 6, 2009 10:27:05 GMT -5
^ I must say, I agree with EAgent > the women on this forum especially for point 2, if you want a GREAT long term friend, follow what the girls said, if you want a LOVER, treat her as a potential lover, grab her attention and follow through. Oh just a quick golden rule when meeting women... DON'T BE A DOUCHE!.
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Post by Paddy on Jun 6, 2009 16:13:02 GMT -5
Great advice Listen to the girls' if this is a first date and you're not entirely comfortable or familiar with all this dating lark. Always be yourself - and from the sound of it, that probably doesn't involving taking the bull by the horns/cow by the udders/giving the cow the horn?
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Post by admin on Jun 6, 2009 16:55:35 GMT -5
My .02
Your first date, you're probably going to screw it up, so stop worrying about trying to not screw it up. Try to have fun and be respectful and take mental notes.
This is just practice.
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Post by milkman's baby on Jun 7, 2009 0:02:13 GMT -5
Don't slip a roofie in her drink.
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Post by Groink on Jun 7, 2009 4:26:21 GMT -5
Don't slip a roofie in her drink. Soo...is this the part where we DON'T listen to what a woman suggests or...? *grabs notepad and pencil*
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Post by amalgam on Jun 7, 2009 9:51:07 GMT -5
@ sweetfart: HAHAHAHA! I have never heard a girl say that xD!
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Post by palaver on Jun 7, 2009 10:41:42 GMT -5
^ She isn't a normal girl. I'd actually like to hear her first date story...
I wonder if Carrot Top made an excuse to use the restroom before fleeing the restaurant or did he just switch himself with a cardboard cutout after the drinks were served.
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Post by halfbreed on Jun 7, 2009 11:25:57 GMT -5
Don't be smothering, it's the quickest way to put out a spark.
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