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Post by pandaroo on Jul 13, 2009 17:28:57 GMT -5
Are you fed up with being told by others that you're attractive/hot/good-looking/whatever just because you're EA (or mixed)? Do you feel that perhaps, once people compliment you on your appearance, that their EA bias made it insincere? What tends to happen is that sometimes, new people I meet and total strangers ask me the inevitable "what are you?" question. I tell them, then they start bombarding me with "oh, no wonder your so pretty! All mixed/EA ppl are!" bullsh*T. Do you get that too? I mean, it's like they're just using the stereotype that all EAs are attractive. Sometimes they ask me first whether I'm this or that. I get lots of random things. "Are you Brazilian? Are you native American?" I shake my head. As if there would be any American indians living in Sydney Australia anyway. I get really freaked out when older men in their 40's and 50's tell me that. It's pretty creepy. It's funny how simply being of a certain heritage gets you all this unwanted attention and random people chatting you up.
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Post by Kush on Jul 13, 2009 18:28:19 GMT -5
I've never been complimented for being EA. Literally, not once.
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Post by Groink on Jul 14, 2009 2:43:25 GMT -5
I've never been complimented for being EA. Literally, not once. I'm guessing it's mostly a female phenomena. Mostly.
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Post by jenbrook on Jul 14, 2009 8:51:01 GMT -5
Well i have a hunch that you are indeed being complimented on being goodlooking first and foremost because you wouldnt hear that compliment unless you really truly were goodlooking. Goodlooking and eurasian have become so synonmous that people's minds automatically jump from one to the other. If you werent goodlooking, i dont think you'd be hearing that compliment.. like, oh you're eurasian? You're beautiful! Kind of. People feel the need to classify those they meet, and i'm sure that they mean it as a compliment and dont realise they are perpetuating a beauty myth.. so take it, be grateful for it and move on .
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Post by Uncle Hank on Jul 14, 2009 12:42:56 GMT -5
I'm sick of seeing girls' eyes light up after they find out I'm half, then become more interested in talking to me. Since I'm more Asian looking, I'm sure I'm just another asexual chinaman to them before they find out my ethnicity. So shallow. When I see this happen I'll often clam up with one word responses and look for someone else to talk to. Then they just think I'm an a**hole. Doesn't bother me. I'm not there for them to indulge in whatever ridiculous media-bred fantasies and race based sexual conquests they got going on in their head. Something like 2/5 people on average spot I'm half.
*On occassion, this same phenomenon also happens when White people (the expats) hear me speaking English here in HK. If I had my mouth shut they would just go along their merry way as usual, being a douchebag to me and all the locals like they run this place. They think smiling and trying to make eye contact with me for lame chit-chat is going to change my perception of them? MF, I ain't your friend!
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Post by palaver on Jul 14, 2009 13:01:29 GMT -5
I've never been complimented for being EA. Literally, not once. I'm guessing it's mostly a female phenomena. Mostly. Yes, and it's not the compliment that bothers them. It's the person using the compliment. Women have trouble separating their feelings about someone from that person's actions or intentions. It's a subjective mess and I tell guys not to worry about it too much.
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Post by admin on Jul 14, 2009 13:16:50 GMT -5
I'm guessing it's mostly a female phenomena. Mostly. Yes, and it's not the compliment that bothers them. It's the person using the compliment. Women have trouble separating their feelings about someone from that person's actions or intentions. It's a subjective mess and I tell guys not to worry about it too much. Take this thinking to the "worst pickup lines" thread and apply it there. I expect some of the 'awful' pickup lines would be 'cute' if uttered by the right person.
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Post by milkman's baby on Jul 14, 2009 13:25:31 GMT -5
The Eurasian beauty myth sucks even worse for those of us who came out looking like Rubik's cubes or as a friend once put it, "mutated Asians (or whites)." People then think something must have gone terribly wrong if we aren't attractive. Being an ugly Eurasian is far worse than being an ugly full white or Asian.
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Post by Yingy on Jul 14, 2009 14:24:02 GMT -5
so jaded about it now I just don't care anymore. I guess after hearing it so much for so long I tune it out now I just do the uh huh uh huh One common compliment I have gotten and heard other EA's get is, EA's are so naturally smart, I can't argue with them on that one I think that has to do with us being "half" asian
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Post by betahat on Jul 14, 2009 14:38:19 GMT -5
I get sick of compliments and praise in general, but I've never had anyone praise me for the fact that my parents had sex 27 years ago.
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Post by Flat Top on Jul 14, 2009 14:41:36 GMT -5
Sometimes they ask me first whether I'm this or that. I get lots of random things. "Are you Brazilian? Are you native American?" I shake my head. As if there would be any American indians living in Sydney Australia anyway. I have no problems if someone thinks I'm attractive. Hasn't anyone told you that you're pretty...full stop? You are Pandaroo. Anyway I've been asked if Nepalese in Bar-le-Duc France. As if France is swarming with Nepalese. Secondly who's heard of Bar-le-Duc? I get Polynesian in the Deep South. There are hardly any Polynesians here. I know one, a therapist named Kimo. He does Kimo therapy. One said Paraguay. This place is crowded with Mexicans and Brasilians and he comes up with Paraguay. I think people just want to show off their creativity or worldliness.
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Post by cm on Jul 14, 2009 15:43:54 GMT -5
I don't. People think I'm hispanic and then think I'm dumb. Then when I whoop their asses on exams, I make them bow to me.
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Post by waywardwolf on Jul 14, 2009 15:58:04 GMT -5
I get sick of compliments and praise in general, but I've never had anyone praise me for the fact that my parents had sex 27 years ago. Even if people don't bring it up, I bet they shook the earth. Well done, Betahat, well done. Your beginning is a tale for the ages!
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Post by Kush on Jul 14, 2009 17:54:03 GMT -5
I've never been complimented for being EA. Literally, not once. I'm guessing it's mostly a female phenomena. Mostly. Sounds like you're right. Probably also has to do a lot with location. I haven't heard any Eurasian beauty myths here in England at all. Also, most of my friends consider me to be Chinese or just generically "Asian". They don't see me as Eurasian, hell I'm not even sure they've heard of that word. I dunno how it is for other Brits but that's how it is here. If you werent goodlooking, i dont think you'd be hearing that compliment.. ...Yeah, thanks
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Post by pandaroo on Jul 14, 2009 18:11:26 GMT -5
I guess it just annoys me.
I met a 30 year old Japanese woman once (a massage therapist), and when she found out I was EA she started going crazy with excitement. At first, she thought I was just another "white girl". She then started telling me about how her boyfriend here in Australia is white, and they want to have a mixed baby because she said "We hoping to have beautiful baby". There's this expectation that if you have an EA baby, you can guarantee your biological 'success'. Makes me feel like a lab experiment...
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