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Post by moralhazard on Jul 14, 2009 19:09:52 GMT -5
Yea Kush, sort of a similar experience here. My friends never ask me about my background which is great, because then we have more time to spend being immature. And then other people I meet just assume I'm Chinese, which is fair enough. Rare times when I do get complimented for being EA can give me the heebie jeebies. I think because it's based on something I have no control over. I would prefer compliments on work that I've done where my effort directly impacts the outcome. Sh*t like that.
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Post by moralhazard on Jul 14, 2009 19:13:47 GMT -5
Hey Pandaroo, let's blame the media! That always works.
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Post by Nikki on Jul 14, 2009 21:04:58 GMT -5
I get sick of compliments and praise in general, but I've never had anyone praise me for the fact that my parents had sex 27 years ago. Haha, that's such a hilarious way of putting it.
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Post by milkman's baby on Jul 14, 2009 23:19:19 GMT -5
I don't. People think I'm hispanic and then think I'm dumb. Hahaha Same here. My first name happens to be very Spanish, so everyone assumes I'm a young single mother of three who hardly speaks English. I could be wearing a business suit and they still think I lean like a chola.
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Post by Yingy on Jul 14, 2009 23:50:41 GMT -5
^ wazup homegirl
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Post by maow on Jul 15, 2009 0:36:10 GMT -5
^ wazup homegirl !
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Post by cm on Jul 15, 2009 1:51:33 GMT -5
I don't. People think I'm hispanic and then think I'm dumb. Hahaha Same here. My first name happens to be very Spanish, so everyone assumes I'm a young single mother of three who hardly speaks English. I could be wearing a business suit and they still think I lean like a chola. 4 realz. It's all good though, I have a lot of Hispanic friends because of my complexion, and they're awesome. I often love the discrimination. It's great for motivation.
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Post by dave on Jul 15, 2009 14:32:02 GMT -5
I've never been complimented for being EA. Literally, not once. I'm guessing it's mostly a female phenomena. Mostly. From personal experience, people in Britain couldn't give a rat's ass about the fact that I'm half asian. In Asia however, they're mad for it. I do take any compliments with a pinch of salt but meh I don't bother dwelling on it.
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Post by Jonas on Jul 15, 2009 18:37:15 GMT -5
^Yeah pretty much the same here... Got alot of attention when I was in Thailand but not so much back home, atleast not just for the fact that I'm EA.
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Post by furbob on Jul 15, 2009 19:10:15 GMT -5
Last night went out to dinner with mum and brother to order usual Haianese Chicken with Rice and we saw the owner's wife working her husband's shift.
She automatically noticed Scott's EA looks and so when we were eating she sat next to my mum and talked about her daughters and the food we were eating while offering tea.
She was nice, but she kept raving about us being EA every now and then
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Post by LengLeng on Jul 17, 2009 10:48:47 GMT -5
I can't say I'm fed up of being complimented for being EA, there are worse things people could be saying about me I guess.
The only time I have a problem is when people are like 'oh I'm into Asian girls'
I just think well good for you :s
anyway I agree with the other Brits, being EA in England isn't anything special. A lot of the time white people don't tend to notice. It's mainly other ethnic minorities that pick up on it.
Funnily enough in the middle of writing this a black guy just asked me was i part oriental.
proves my point!
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Post by Groink on Jul 17, 2009 10:54:55 GMT -5
The closest thing to a "compliment" about being EA is that people think I'm somebody they know. Or I look like someone they know. Happens a lot.
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Post by Nikki on Jul 17, 2009 11:44:52 GMT -5
^ Happens a lot to me too. The most random eclectic people though. Some red headed woman came up to me at work the other day, broadly smiled and told me I looked EXACTLY like her sister when she was younger. "Do I? Really? How strange. Does she have red hair too?" She then went on to elaborate that her sister was her half sister and half native American. One example of many...
It's odd cause I've never met anyone who looks "exactly like me." Or seen anyone who looks just like you either!
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Post by jefe on Jul 17, 2009 14:34:44 GMT -5
I'm sick of seeing girls' eyes light up after they find out I'm half, then become more interested in talking to me. Since I'm more Asian looking, I'm sure I'm just another asexual chinaman to them before they find out my ethnicity. So shallow. When I see this happen I'll often clam up with one word responses and look for someone else to talk to. Then they just think I'm an a**hole. Doesn't bother me. I'm not there for them to indulge in whatever ridiculous media-bred fantasies and race based sexual conquests they got going on in their head. Something like 2/5 people on average spot I'm half. *On occassion, this same phenomenon also happens when White people (the expats) hear me speaking English here in HK. If I had my mouth shut they would just go along their merry way as usual, being a douchebag to me and all the locals like they run this place. They think smiling and trying to make eye contact with me for lame chit-chat is going to change my perception of them? MF, I ain't your friend! I haven't heard you talk like this for a long time, but I like it! I've always wanted to know how you feel about these things. For example, you are already talking about expats in the 3rd person. Also, you seem to feel that if 2/5 of the people can *tell* you are Eurasian, then the rest assume that you are just another chinaman. What I get is so much more complicated. I think about 2/5 of the time can *tell* that I am Eurasian, but the rest of the time, they might assume that I am various European, various Asian, various Latin-American, or several dozen other things -- I really have no idea what to expect from anyone. Well i have a hunch that you are indeed being complimented on being goodlooking first and foremost because you wouldnt hear that compliment unless you really truly were goodlooking. Goodlooking and eurasian have become so synonmous that people's minds automatically jump from one to the other. If you werent goodlooking, i dont think you'd be hearing that compliment.. like, oh you're eurasian? You're beautiful! Kind of. People feel the need to classify those they meet, and i'm sure that they mean it as a compliment and dont realise they are perpetuating a beauty myth.. so take it, be grateful for it and move on . Actually agree. If you were not attractive, they would not complement you on being attractive. I think that they are looking for an explanation, eg, "You're very attractive. Oh, you're Eurasian (or *mixed*, if that is their vocabulary). THAT explains it."
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Post by maow on Jul 17, 2009 19:29:43 GMT -5
As my features are more "westernized" it is quite rare that someone identifies as a EA in the first place! Compliments are always nice; whether they are sincere or not is another matter but I'm its nice to hear regardless! For me, whats more important is that 9/10, the people I meet generally are curious and in turn I learn a little something about their background and where they are from. This has only occurred with Chinese people either here in Vancouver, UK and especially Hong Kong.
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