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Post by milkman's baby on Nov 18, 2009 11:16:31 GMT -5
from my perspective it seems like 95% of women are in a relationship at any given time. What choice is there but to try and pry a woman away from her current boyfriend if you like her a lot? I guess it depends on where you live and who you're interested in. If you're going after all the flashy attractive women then yes, 95% of them are probably taken because every guy already wants them. But there are probably way more decent-looking women out there who aren't in relationships. You just don't notice them because they aren't the types to go out in bright colors, flashy outfits, and talk really loudly with their friends. Maybe you should join an intellectual organization and try to meet some women. You'd be surprised at who you could find. Then there are places like Russia, where the female to male ratio is extremely high due to young Russian males being forced into military service as well as their alcoholism and cigarette use. Russian women are known for being very attractive and well-dressed because of the competition to find a husband. Many financially stable foreign men find success out there. It may be more successful to hit on a woman in Russia, whereas in the USA it's a hit or miss and a man must be very careful how he approaches her. The male to female ratio here is pretty much equal. We don't have to worry about a shortage of men. God bless America. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_sex_ratioNow Qatar and UAE have the highest ratio of males to females. But something tells me the men out there aren't advertising themselves to women.
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hypeforlife91
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Post by hypeforlife91 on Nov 19, 2009 23:28:02 GMT -5
I don't dress very "flashy" nor do I like bright colors. In fact, I love dark and neutral colors. But I do like to dress nice when I feel like it. I am mostly the casual chic type...I don't like wearing things just for the attention. I wear it because I like it, not because "oh hmmm I think they guys will like it". I like to be comfortable, but I love cute outfits. What is the point of fashion and style if you can't show what you like?
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Post by EAgent on Nov 27, 2009 8:40:33 GMT -5
Up to 40% of decent-looking women aged 18 to early 20s are single. This is from random daytime sampling. Maybe a truer figure would be 50% if you discount the "false boyfriend" excuse.
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Post by Shock on Nov 27, 2009 14:53:04 GMT -5
So what is an effective way to say no nicely so that guys immediately understand and you don't feel awkward afterwards? You can't.
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Post by Ganbare! on Nov 27, 2009 15:43:33 GMT -5
Last night, I went for drinks with an Asian friend, very handsome, classy, smooth talker, the typical pick up artist Alpha male. Yet, he got turned down quite a lot yesterday by an overwhelming majority of white girls, at first I made fun of him because I'm off market so I'm not competing however the motives to dump him I heard that night were quite disturbing.
The excuse we heard most was "I only date [insert religion here] for religious reasons" and we weren't in a fervent area at all, a stone throw from the Champs Elysees ! Apparently they found a great way to get rid of ethnic guys they're not interested in because of the whole media bias, which dictates that Asian males are undesirable dates !
I suppose it will help you to get rid of the hordes of horny admirers you attract ?
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Post by betahat on Nov 30, 2009 18:22:53 GMT -5
So why didn't your friend lie and say he was [insert religion here]? If that really is the most common excuse I would have thought a few minutes on wikipedia would get you up to the bar-level of familiarity with Calvinism or Scientology...
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Post by milkman's baby on Nov 30, 2009 19:47:28 GMT -5
So why didn't your friend lie and say he was [insert religion here]? If that really is the most common excuse I would have thought a few minutes on wikipedia would get you up to the bar-level of familiarity with Calvinism or Scientology... Yeah and then she'll just tag you off as another obnoxious theologian nerd who plays Dungeons & Dragons. Now see, this is where guys often go awry. Women like smart men, yes. But there is a sorta tricky line that you have to be careful at finding between smart & sexy (translation into female language: $$$) and a homely, unhygienic, know-it-all who wants everyone to know that he can name the current GDP of every country. That's just annoying and desperate. Don't shoot the messenger.
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Post by Groink on Nov 30, 2009 22:44:51 GMT -5
So why didn't your friend lie and say he was [insert religion here]? If that really is the most common excuse I would have thought a few minutes on wikipedia would get you up to the bar-level of familiarity with Calvinism or Scientology... Yeah and then she'll just tag you off as another obnoxious theologian nerd who plays Dungeons & Dragons. Now see, this is where guys often go awry. Women like smart men, yes. But there is a sorta tricky line that you have to be careful at finding between smart & sexy (translation into female language: $$$) and a homely, unhygienic, know-it-all who wants everyone to know that he can name the current GDP of every country. That's just annoying and desperate. Don't shoot the messenger. Not sure if that's completely accurate -- the money part that is. I think the *potential* for being successful is what's looked for. And what passes for success may vary. Notoriety in and of itself may be a measure of success for some. Anyway, just saying there is a sliding scale for this stuff.
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Post by LaFace on Dec 1, 2009 2:19:47 GMT -5
So why didn't your friend lie and say he was [insert religion here]? If that really is the most common excuse I would have thought a few minutes on wikipedia would get you up to the bar-level of familiarity with Calvinism or Scientology... Yeah and then she'll just tag you off as another obnoxious theologian nerd who plays Dungeons & Dragons. Now see, this is where guys often go awry. Women like smart men, yes. But there is a sorta tricky line that you have to be careful at finding between smart & sexy (translation into female language: $$$) and a homely, unhygienic, know-it-all who wants everyone to know that he can name the current GDP of every country. That's just annoying and desperate. Don't shoot the messenger. I agree with this. Females are attracted to intelligence, but to them there's sexy intelligence and then there's ugly intelligence. It's similar to how guys have differing styles of physical attractiveness that appeal to females, where as with guys, a female's physical attractiveness tends to be more universal, as does our perception of another man's intelligence.
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Post by celltocell on Dec 1, 2009 15:19:01 GMT -5
If the guy is persistent and starting to get annoying, I'm with celltocell - no need to be nice, just tell him to bugger off. I'm against creating conflict but there are some men who are just too annoying and persistent, and you'll either need unearthly willpower to ignore them and take the path of least resistance or create an atmosphere of hostility. I try to keep it short and sweet as possible. A gentle way of telling a guy "no" is casually dropping your BOYFRIEND in a conversation. Some girls will even lie about being off the market just to spare your feelings... I have a girl friend who has admitted to being kind of an attention who/re and giving her number away to guys who obviously come onto her. She's got a BF too. What I don't get is why she will complain to me about how these dudes keep bothering her. It's like... um... why did you give him your #? Damn people. Sorry that was a bit off topic.
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Post by Ganbare! on Dec 1, 2009 16:18:57 GMT -5
Money is a matter of age, the younger, the less concerned about it, generally. I agree, flamboyance is not just a matter of knowledge its really about the way you present it.
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Post by milkman's baby on Dec 2, 2009 1:07:55 GMT -5
I'd like to emphasize that I am not personally one of the women I spoke of in terms of the money thing. Most of the stuff I am writing about in here is based on personal observations of the majority of society, not myself.
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Post by rob on Dec 2, 2009 1:39:10 GMT -5
Advice to any guys out there who hear the whole "oh, I've got a boyrfriend" or "sorry, but I'm not interested" BS all the time:
When a girl drops one of those lame-o lines, casually drop your pants, cock your head to one side, point with both hands at your friend downstairs and say:
YO GIRL, *THIS* IS WHAT I'M TALKIN BOUT
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Post by LaFace on Dec 2, 2009 2:11:13 GMT -5
I have a girl friend who has admitted to being kind of an attention who/re and giving her number away to guys who obviously come onto her. She's got a BF too. What I don't get is why she will complain to me about how these dudes keep bothering her. It's like... um... why did you give him your #? Damn people. Sorry that was a bit off topic. Similar to girls that go our wearing an outfit that exposes 4/5'ths of their breasts, then complain when they get approached LOL
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celltocell
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Post by celltocell on Dec 4, 2009 9:31:15 GMT -5
Exactly. It's like.. GOD DAMN IT YOUR BREASTS ARE HANGING OUT, I'M A STRAIGHT FEMALE AND HELL! EVEN I CAN'T STOP STARING AT THEM! I "totes" get what you mean. And do not let any big boobied girl tell you otherwise... she wears low cut shirts cos she wants you to notice them. If that ho tries to fake-complain about getting her chest eye-raped... facepalm-shove her. I have a girl friend who has admitted to being kind of an attention who/re and giving her number away to guys who obviously come onto her. She's got a BF too. What I don't get is why she will complain to me about how these dudes keep bothering her. It's like... um... why did you give him your #? Damn people. Sorry that was a bit off topic. Similar to girls that go our wearing an outfit that exposes 4/5'ths of their breasts, then complain when they get approached LOL
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