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Post by Ganbare! on Nov 17, 2009 19:17:18 GMT -5
I'm surprised at how often I hear people claim that they don't need a gf/bf at all, that it is a waste of time, unnecessarily chaining their lives.
All relationships do not end well but I think it is a risk to take if one wants to be happy someday.
Do you really want a companion ?
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Post by milkman's baby on Nov 17, 2009 22:08:50 GMT -5
lol The thread title cracked me up. Very short and too the point, no beating around the bush.
No, I don't think I want an actual relationship. I'll admit I am one of those Sex & the City junkies who over-glamorize the singleton Samantha lifestyle. For those of you who don't watch the show, that means life for a girl is all about clothing, jewelry, and random hookups. No time to settle down with a boyfriend (although she did). Even though I really don't live like that (with that kinda money), I like the label independent.
I think it's always been my destiny to grow to be an old maid. I can see myself as the weird lady with 50 cats. I think it's cute.
Plus, I always felt as if relationships were for people who aren't happy with themselves. I love myself and if I could I would start a relationship with myself.
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Post by Roku on Nov 18, 2009 8:43:48 GMT -5
There are days where it just hits me in the face how alone I am. The part that is missing, what I've been longing for. But I don't have the ability to distinguish if I need a girlfriend or want one. I hate admitting this but it seems to be true, if you stop looking for love it will find you. For the longest time I've been looking for a girlfriend and it always went bad. So for now I just focus on getting my life together and career on track.
Humans by nature are meant to reproduce and have a family. Whether this is a want or need confuses me. From my experience people are never better off alone this doesn't mean that you should stick to a bad relationship. But there is always going to be that thought in the back of one's mind about finding the one for them.
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Post by penguinopolipitese on Nov 18, 2009 9:30:13 GMT -5
it took me a long time to realize you don't need someone else to make you feel happy. If you can't learn do that on your own you're probably f***ed anyway. With that said it is nice to have someone to share yourself with and I do miss that.
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Post by Ganbare! on Nov 18, 2009 10:11:26 GMT -5
lol The thread title cracked me up. Very short and too the point, no beating around the bush. No, I don't think I want an actual relationship. I'll admit I am one of those Sex & the City junkies who over-glamorize the singleton Samantha lifestyle. For those of you who don't watch the show, that means life for a girl is all about clothing, jewelry, and random hookups. No time to settle down with a boyfriend (although she did). Even though I really don't live like that (with that kinda money), I like the label independent. I think it's always been my destiny to grow to be an old maid. I can see myself as the weird lady with 50 cats. I think it's cute. Plus, I always felt as if relationships were for people who aren't happy with themselves. I love myself and if I could I would start a relationship with myself. Seems like EAN users fancy directness so my next thread will probably be something along the lines '' Do you get enough sex ?'' ;D I used to buy in the whole individualistic post-modern lifestyle but now that I'm in a stable relationship it just feels like it compliments my existence nicely though penguinopolipitese is right happiness comes from within . |
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Post by Kalvien on Nov 30, 2009 1:57:41 GMT -5
I definitely will marry a woman someday, but unfortunately most of girls I know are the same age with me, and I'm actually looking for 4-5 years age difference. My age is still 23 anyway, there is still a lot things I want to achieve before I'm getting married.
My mom & dad marriage is disaster and unbalanced. My mom is virtually single parent and my dad's work irregularly. It makes me realize that unless I could feed myself, I wont date a girl yet. I'm just trying avoid what my dad did: turning into irresponsible man without providing money and stable income for his family.
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Post by rob on Nov 30, 2009 10:35:58 GMT -5
there is still a lot things I want to achieve before I'm getting married. Sorry to hear about ur parents Kalvien. U raise a good point about achieving something before marriage.... as most people accomplish little-to-nothing in marriage/LT relationships. Many in fact regress, wither and die.... consoled only by the cries and unflinching neediness of their children. Sorry, Oscar Wilde moment. Couldn't resist   |
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Post by milkman's baby on Nov 30, 2009 11:20:58 GMT -5
I definitely will marry a woman someday, but unfortunately most of girls I know are the same age with me, and I'm actually looking for 4-5 years age difference. May I ask why? |
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Post by TeeHee on Nov 30, 2009 18:28:14 GMT -5
I definitely will marry a woman someday, but unfortunately most of girls I know are the same age with me, and I'm actually looking for 4-5 years age difference. My age is still 23 anyway, there is still a lot things I want to achieve before I'm getting married. By 4-5 years age difference, do you mean you're looking towards a woman older or younger than you? My current bf happens to be 4 years younger than me btw. While I'm happy in my relationship with him, I've been just as happy and content for the times I was single. I've had my share of stormy bordering-on-abusive relationships, and I'd pick being single over those any day. So no, I don't need it, but it's the icing on the cake. |
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Post by moralhazard on Nov 30, 2009 21:08:15 GMT -5
I can see myself as the weird lady with 50 cats. Holy Toledo. That's my aspiration too. |
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Post by LaFace on Dec 1, 2009 2:13:42 GMT -5
There's a difference between 'need' and 'want'.
I don't need a gf, and tend to look down on those that need to be in a relationship (though this is probably judgmental of me).
Also, never ever have I wanted to date a girl more than say a year younger than myself, despite the overwhelming majority of guys preferring girls of such an age. These days, I can't understand why on earth a guy would want to date a younger girl, unless it's because he finds it difficult to pick up, or is elderly and wants to recapture his youth. I'm open to reading other people's opinions though.
Single life is great and females the same age or older are far better than children younger girls in my opinion.
edit: good post tee hee.
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Post by rob on Dec 1, 2009 10:11:44 GMT -5
Also, never ever have I wanted to date a girl more than say a year younger than myself, despite the overwhelming majority of guys preferring girls of such an age. These days, I can't understand why on earth a guy would want to date a younger girl, unless it's because he finds it difficult to pick up, or is elderly and wants to recapture his youth. I'm open to reading other people's opinions though. Single life is great and females the same age or older are far better than children younger girls in my opinion. edit: good post tee hee. . Last Tango in Paris |
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Post by jefe on Dec 1, 2009 13:06:01 GMT -5
I wouldn't call 40 elderly.
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Post by milkman's baby on Dec 1, 2009 14:20:53 GMT -5
Who said 40 is elderly? That movie scarred me for life. |
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Post by Ganbare! on Dec 1, 2009 16:35:37 GMT -5
There's a difference between 'need' and 'want'. I don't need a gf, and tend to look down on those that need to be in a relationship (though this is probably judgmental of me). Also, never ever have I wanted to date a girl more than say a year younger than myself, despite the overwhelming majority of guys preferring girls of such an age. These days, I can't understand why on earth a guy would want to date a younger girl, unless it's because he finds it difficult to pick up, or is elderly and wants to recapture his youth. I'm open to reading other people's opinions though. Single life is great and females the same age or older are far better than children younger girls in my opinion. edit: good post tee hee. I'm probably going to say something controversial but to enlighten you most guys think that younger girls are easier to f**k and dump, simple as that, that or they really lack confidence. I'm not talking about myself since I've only dated girls around the same age or just a bit younger/older. A good friend of mine is nicknamed Pedo-Eddy because of his notorious tendancy to hunt underage girls, sometimes I am ashamed to know him.  |
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