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Post by LaFace on Dec 2, 2009 2:17:26 GMT -5
I'm probably going to say something controversial but to enlighten you most guys think that younger girls are easier to f**k and dump, simple as that, that or they really lack confidence. Some people might take offense to that but the reality is that it's largely true. What you've written essentially taps into what I was saying about guys finding it hard to attract females. They thus go for much younger girls because as you said, 'younger girls are easier to f*** and dump', and/or these guys might 'really lack confidence' and so because younger girls are easier to pick up they consequently go for them. It's a generalisation, yet one based on observations that are seen time and time again. edit: Happy for people to add onto or challenge what I've written, it's a topic worthy of discussion
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Post by milkman's baby on Dec 2, 2009 19:25:28 GMT -5
That's all kinda obvious. Most women want a man who is more experienced than her so she will always go for an older guy. An older guy either can't get a woman his own age or older or he is intimidated by women his own age because he feels he is not up to par in experience. I don't blame men for wanting younger women, as it's sorta only natural for them (laws of nature call for men who seek a youthful partner who is fertile and can supply them with a lot of offspring). So it's sorta ironic when you hear young guys who've "been around the block" quite a bit say that the best they ever had was a 40 year old woman. I'm serious, I've heard quite a few men say this.
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Post by Kalvien on Dec 3, 2009 0:27:35 GMT -5
I definitely will marry a woman someday, but unfortunately most of girls I know are the same age with me, and I'm actually looking for 4-5 years age difference. May I ask why? I don't know, I just want to. hard to explain. Maybe it's indirectly of my traditional chinese belief that you gotta choose wife with 4-5 years difference. Some woman I know recommend me to pick younger woman because woman looks older than man in the same age. with 4-5 years difference, the woman still be seen young and beautiful from husband's viewpoint. @tee-hee younger of course robthe economy insecurity of my family and endless complaint of my mother about my father has made me overly critical about wellness in marriage. I want to ensure myself I dont follow the same path like my father did. it's also doubled with my inferiority complex toward other guy. my friends used to mock me because my skin was more white than all guys in class (which dominated by chinese indonesian and indonesian natives). To have white skin means girly because you dont do sport and burned below sunlight. I guess it's all blame to the skin in the end.
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Post by milkman's baby on Dec 3, 2009 1:35:52 GMT -5
I don't know, I just want to. hard to explain. Maybe it's indirectly of my traditional chinese belief that you gotta choose wife with 4-5 years difference. Some woman I know recommend me to pick younger woman because woman looks older than man in the same age. with 4-5 years difference, the woman still be seen young and beautiful from husband's viewpoint. lol Whatever floats your boat, man. I wouldn't count on 4-5 years making a big difference in retaining youth at old age. You're gonna have to go for a woman 10 years or more younger than you.
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Post by Kalvien on Dec 3, 2009 2:02:21 GMT -5
^I will keep in my mind. but 10 years difference... seems like I must turn into pedophile and hunting for teen
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Post by Roku on Dec 3, 2009 9:27:21 GMT -5
That's all kinda obvious. Most women want a man who is more experienced than her so she will always go for an older guy. An older guy either can't get a woman his own age or older or he is intimidated by women his own age because he feels he is not up to par in experience. I don't blame men for wanting younger women, as it's sorta only natural for them (laws of nature call for men who seek a youthful partner who is fertile and can supply them with a lot of offspring). So it's sorta ironic when you hear young guys who've "been around the block" quite a bit say that the best they ever had was a 40 year old woman. I'm serious, I've heard quite a few men say this. It's rare for me to be attracted to a women who is a few years younger than me. Always seems like the women I happen to like are older than me not by choice just that's the way it is. Maybe you're on to something here, I'll give younger women of legal age a chance with me well maybe
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Post by milkman's baby on Dec 3, 2009 20:59:48 GMT -5
That's all kinda obvious. Most women want a man who is more experienced than her so she will always go for an older guy. An older guy either can't get a woman his own age or older or he is intimidated by women his own age because he feels he is not up to par in experience. I don't blame men for wanting younger women, as it's sorta only natural for them (laws of nature call for men who seek a youthful partner who is fertile and can supply them with a lot of offspring). So it's sorta ironic when you hear young guys who've "been around the block" quite a bit say that the best they ever had was a 40 year old woman. I'm serious, I've heard quite a few men say this. It's rare for me to be attracted to a women who is a few years younger than me. Always seems like the women I happen to like are older than me not by choice just that's the way it is. Maybe you're on to something here, I'll give younger women of legal age a chance with me well maybe Chances are if you are comparing them in terms of intellect and...ahem, in bed...you will end up liking the older women. It's just an honest fact that they will have more experience and give the man a "challenge" if you know what I mean. A younger woman just doesn't have as much of a clue. It's a fact, sorry to burst anyone's bubble if they like younger women.
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Post by celltocell on Dec 4, 2009 9:22:40 GMT -5
I'm female and I know this is 95% true. I cannot speak for any broad other than myself [I'm 21 years old]... but older men just make me feel more secure / SAFE. They have their sh/t together, I like that. Also, I dig the fact that they are more experienced and generally more mature than boys in my age group as a whole. I relate to older dudes better and have much more fun talking to them / being near em. Guess I'm just NATURALLY attacted to OLDER people due to the fact that I've always been surrounded by people who were older. Chicks and dudes my age usually bored the hell out of me... never really related to anyone in my age group or even had fun with em. I've got a best friend who is also 21 though, she is the exception. And yeah, young girls are naive. But they have an excuse - they're young. I'm dating someone who turned 30 this year. His ex was 27 years old... so he's definitely capable of getting older women and cute ones at that. Self confidence is not an issue with him... he knows he is attractive and I've seen women throw themeselves at him. It's hilarious, girls are animals! But LaFace got the generals of everything down... I'm probably going to say something controversial but to enlighten you most guys think that younger girls are easier to f**k and dump, simple as that, that or they really lack confidence. Some people might take offense to that but the reality is that it's largely true. What you've written essentially taps into what I was saying about guys finding it hard to attract females. They thus go for much younger girls because as you said, 'younger girls are easier to f*** and dump', and/or these guys might 'really lack confidence' and so because younger girls are easier to pick up they consequently go for them. It's a generalisation, yet one based on observations that are seen time and time again. edit: Happy for people to add onto or challenge what I've written, it's a topic worthy of discussion
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Post by milkman's baby on Dec 4, 2009 18:44:33 GMT -5
I'm female and I know this is 95% true. I cannot speak for any broad other than myself [I'm 21 years old]... but older men just make me feel more secure / SAFE. They have their sh/t together, I like that. Also, I dig the fact that they are more experienced and generally more mature than boys in my age group as a whole. I relate to older dudes better and have much more fun talking to them / being near em. Guess I'm just NATURALLY attacted to OLDER people due to the fact that I've always been surrounded by people who were older. Chicks and dudes my age usually bored the hell out of me... never really related to anyone in my age group or even had fun with em. I've got a best friend who is also 21 though, she is the exception. And yeah, young girls are naive. But they have an excuse - they're young. I'm dating someone who turned 30 this year. His ex was 27 years old... so he's definitely capable of getting older women and cute ones at that. Self confidence is not an issue with him... he knows he is attractive and I've seen women throw themeselves at him. It's hilarious, girls are animals! But LaFace got the generals of everything down... Some people might take offense to that but the reality is that it's largely true. What you've written essentially taps into what I was saying about guys finding it hard to attract females. They thus go for much younger girls because as you said, 'younger girls are easier to f*** and dump', and/or these guys might 'really lack confidence' and so because younger girls are easier to pick up they consequently go for them. It's a generalisation, yet one based on observations that are seen time and time again. edit: Happy for people to add onto or challenge what I've written, it's a topic worthy of discussion Wow, you must be really mature then. 21 and 30. That's a big difference. Not because nine years is a lot but because those two ages are very different. The average 21 year old has almost nothing in common with the average 30 year old. That's inexperienced college student vs. marriage-age professional is what we're talking for most people. So yeah, props to you on being that mature at this age. I'm turning 21 next week and I still consider myself rather immature.
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Post by rob on Dec 5, 2009 11:33:59 GMT -5
Message to all you horny teenagers and early 20s peepz:
Spend less time in relationships and pursuing them, spend more time developing yourself and chasing your dreams.
Then grow old and be miserable like me because you're surrounded by people who did precisely the opposite heh.
(So I'm with LaFace on this one)
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Post by ahliang on Dec 5, 2009 16:29:56 GMT -5
i have a hard time believing anyone "needs" a bf/gf. interesting responses here and all i d say is *albeit very cheesy* that if we don t need a bf/gf, we do need love and it can be one way of finding it...although...i think love is often mistaken for romance in the case of bf/gf......right now, as hypocritical as i may be, really...i d trade fireworks for companionship and someone to truly love...although there s no trading to do...i think i mean that i d rather have a persistingly mellow orange charcoal piece to preciously keep than a blazingly bright but ephemeral flame.
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Post by Phil on Dec 6, 2009 1:21:10 GMT -5
^ haha I love it. I think people find this kinda thing "cheesy" cause it makes them uncomfortable. And we all have expectations of what love should be in the material world, and don't focus on the pure feeling in our hearts. Boyfriend, girlriend, wife, husband, are just labels, roles. You're so right when you say we don't need them. Love is what we need. Now give me some wine and crackers for my cheese!!!
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to ad to the age thought. I'm never really looked for age, consciously. I don't really look around much at all, kind of a hermit, but most of the girls I've seen were same age.
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Post by LaFace on Dec 6, 2009 2:22:15 GMT -5
Spend less time in relationships and pursuing them, spend more time developing yourself and chasing your dreams. That sounds exactly like me... lol Argh, sometimes I feel very strongly about this topic in terms of younger girls in my last post, however there are other times when I just think, "if it makes you happy and isn't hurting anyone then let it be". Still can't imagine myself dating a younger girl either way.
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Post by betahat on Dec 6, 2009 19:29:45 GMT -5
^Wow, you must be really mature then. 21 and 30. That's a big difference. Not because nine years is a lot but because those two ages are very different. The average 21 year old has almost nothing in common with the average 30 year old. That's inexperienced college student vs. marriage-age professional is what we're talking for most people.
Made me think of my parents - Dad was a long in the tooth grad student and mom a first-year undergrad when they met at Cambridge. 4 years later and I came along. I think it was more a case of my mom being really mature beyond her years - she had no interest in hard drinking, drugs, and partying and was probably attracted to his maturity (versus the average 18 year old Cambridge lad) as well as his intelligence. And I don't think he would have gone for her if she wasn't so studious and professorly already at that age.
I also think it's hard to come up with a single measure of maturity. I think having compatible interests is the main thing - the problem with most older women is that they are interested in different things (like having kids and a family, homeownership, dinner parties, careers) and the problem with most younger women is that they are interested in different things (dressing up and going out to clubs, binge-drinking, watching stupid tv shows).
Obviously no one needs a bf/gf (or should feel like they need one). In fact, no one really needs friends or family either, but as Phil said, having love in your life can only be a good thing.
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Post by LaFace on Dec 7, 2009 2:56:02 GMT -5
Obviously no one needs a bf/gf This is the part I argue against, because really, it's not that obvious in real life. There are a lot of people that cannot bear to be single, often to their own detriment.
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