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Post by Ganbare! on Jan 24, 2010 2:26:30 GMT -5
I've met quite some people as a result of moving around a lot. Most of them will remain acquaintances at best. I was thus wondering about what you are really looking for when it comes to socializing? Particular racial or social background, shared passions, matching personality etc? Until recently, I tried to impose upon myself to have as many EA friends as possible but obviously that was a silly idea because friendship cannot be dictated.
Lately, I have found that I am far more approcheable and active on this ground, I judge people much less on their apparent objective characteristics but rather on their personality. What I like about NYC is that I seem to meet plenty of people, I feel I have great chemistry with, truly organic. Undoubtedly a blissful experience at an individual level not dependant on reason.
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Post by Ganbare! on Jan 27, 2010 1:25:59 GMT -5
No thoughts on friendship?
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Post by admin on Jan 27, 2010 3:33:29 GMT -5
I don't have a laundry list of what I am looking for in a friend. I take a natural approach - I try to make myself available by going out and meeting people, friends of friends, etc. If you click with someone over time you just end up hanging out. My friends are not all alike and sometimes I might be in a mood to hang out with one but not another. I have friends of many races (and mixes), ages, political leanings, religions, nationalities, etc.
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Post by betahat on Jan 27, 2010 17:41:27 GMT -5
Putts said it. I have friends for watching sports and stupid tv shows, friends for drinking and smoking, and friends for talking about politics and philosophy, friends for playing music, etc. with some overlap. The thing most of them have in common is above average intelligence, probably because most of them I met at graduate school, and the ones I still keep in touch with from high school all have very active and inquisitive minds even if they are not as academically inclined. Social class obviously plays a big role in that - none of my friends are from really working class backgrounds. I never had any EA friends in "real life" actually, except for a half-Indian guy I knew in high school who I've lost touch with - probably a function of living most of my life in a place where there were few of us, and the fact that we're relatively rare in general. It's been nice to meet so many of us through this forum, but while I certainly have some things in common with people here - a fascination with some aspects of Asian culture, a love of travel and all things spicy and fried - it's pretty clear to me that lots of the people here are coming from very different backgrounds, social classes, and countries and as a result we probably share less common interests than my "real life" friends. One thing I'm pretty bad at is keeping in touch with people over large distances - I only have about 7 or 8 Canadian friends that I still consider friends of the level that I would invite them to my wedding or stay at their homes if I was visiting.
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Post by Ganbare! on Jan 27, 2010 18:18:35 GMT -5
Based on the tone of all your comments and the general lack of response I'm under the impression that my question was either stupid or that no one cares. I think things very analytically, I question even the smallest or obvious things, I don't know if it's because of my nature or my education but I'm like that.
Anyways, it's good to hear some people have diverse social circles.
Is it me or 99,9% of Canadians shun their country as soon as the opportunity to move south of the border arises? ;D
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Post by admin on Jan 27, 2010 18:36:08 GMT -5
Based on the tone of all your comments and the general lack of response I'm under the impression that my question was either stupid or that no one cares. I think things very analytically, I question even the smallest or obvious things, I don't know if it's because of my nature or my education but I'm like that. Anyways, it's good to hear some people have diverse social circles. Is it me or 99,9% of Canadians shun their country as soon as the opportunity to move south of the border arises? ;D what were you asking that didn't get answered? as for the canadians...aren't there tax advantages in the US?
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Post by Ganbare! on Jan 27, 2010 22:13:57 GMT -5
^Maybe it is because of the forum's inactivity that I get so few replies..
If you think Canadians leave the supposedly most liveable country in the world for mere taxes you are fooling yourself.
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Post by admin on Jan 28, 2010 0:45:31 GMT -5
^Maybe it is because of the forum's inactivity that I get so few replies.. If you think Canadians leave the supposedly most liveable country in the world for mere taxes you are fooling yourself. Did I say that?
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Post by palavore on Jan 28, 2010 2:03:09 GMT -5
^Maybe it is because of the forum's inactivity that I get so few replies.. If you think Canadians leave the supposedly most liveable country in the world for mere taxes you are fooling yourself. Did I say that? Is this what organic socialization looks like? Hey, Ganbare, maybe we should talk about toilet paper? There always some greater meaning in the mundane details. The birds fly away when I start to play my harmonica--unless I'm eating crackers and blowing crumbs faster than a melody.
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Post by rob on Jan 28, 2010 10:21:39 GMT -5
I don't have friends.
That's why I post on the internet.
Or maybe it's the other way around.
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Post by admin on Jan 28, 2010 10:46:49 GMT -5
Speaking of toilet paper, what about those people who leave next-to-zero paper on the roll and don't install or at least put nearby a new roll? I'd like to send THEM to Canada! In trade, we'll take the good restaurants from Vancouver.
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Post by betahat on Jan 28, 2010 19:54:55 GMT -5
Did you know that Canada is the leading producer of toilet paper in the world?
I just made that up, but it could be true. We got wood.
I moved to the US for school, because it's 10X bigger and has more elite universities. Canadian academics have a bit of an inferiority complex - to get a job at one of the better Canadian universities, it helps to have an American degree, because they often don't consider their own graduates to be good enough.
I don't necessarily plan to stay in the US. I like some of the big US cities but I'd be just as happy in a big Canadian or European city. The last thing I would want to do is live in some low-tax cesspool like Miami. My wife and I both agree that we would rather be somewhere interesting on the other side of the world than close to him but in the middle of nowhere.
One problem with your questions Ganbare is that they sometimes seem like slight variations on questions you asked very recently. Your attempts to breathe some life into the forum are much appreciated, but finding the right question that will get a lot of people to answer is a tricky business indeed.
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Post by Ganbare! on Jan 28, 2010 23:04:17 GMT -5
They are still diferent topics, dating is different than friendship etc.
You don't really need to justify yourself it's obvious academic opportunities are better in the US thanks to the the amount of funding for research and the whole think tanks/foundations network.
Is in general holding a North American degree more competitive in developped SEA countries for private sector or academic jobs?
I realize we're completly off-topic.
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Post by palavore on Jan 29, 2010 7:37:49 GMT -5
Did you know that Canada is the leading producer of toilet paper in the world? I just made that up, but it could be true. We got wood. I'm more predisposed to the your beavers. Is in general holding a North American degree more competitive in developped SEA countries for private sector or academic jobs? Aye, if you were to try to wipe your ass with an American degree versus a non-American degree, you'd find that the American degree was printed on a fresher, softer, more absorbent material. Because Americans know what most degrees are made for.
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Post by jefe on Feb 4, 2010 9:47:06 GMT -5
^ Yeah, they show you got B.S.
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