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Post by sim on Sept 9, 2007 9:23:45 GMT -5
^ the drive is because it's a turnoff if people don't want anything out of life...they can't organise themselves/look after themselves/no passion etc...not because of security.
I don't think I look directly for security because I want to provide that for myself. I want my own career, my own money etc. I was taught to look after myself, make my own decisions etc from a young age (although I know I can always rely on parents if in a really dire position- but I'd just rather not) and I like being able to look after myself. The thought of being dependent on someone else in any way is pretty scary, and undesirable.
As such, that's what I look for in other people, and usually I guess that does mean that I end up with fairly well-off (not street sleepers!!) guys or guys who are heading in that direction, just because that's something they have in common.
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Post by catgirl on Sept 9, 2007 11:23:25 GMT -5
I go for looks too. I think there are certain types I would fall for and others not. It has very little to do with money anyway....
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Post by jewbird on Sept 9, 2007 16:27:06 GMT -5
People are born into their stations in life nowerdays. What's the point of drive and passion when it only stresses you out and doesn't get anyone anywhere?
Only guys who ever have anything to show for themselves, regardless of their level of either, are the ones who make their living defrauding pensioners. Right, rob?
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Post by ladystacey on Sept 9, 2007 17:47:10 GMT -5
There has to be that click for me, money and looks are great but if the chemistry is wrong I will look else where.
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Post by Ave` on Sept 9, 2007 22:52:56 GMT -5
It's true that we (girls) all look for financial stability and or looks, but we still dump them faster than light when we find them to be self absorbed jerks. Those relationships just can't last forever, typically. Nods- so true hun. I think ppl who deny their looking for looks or money are just hypocrite. Im mean, bl00dy `ell ofc im looking for a guy who has money. Im making money too but u cant expect me to support `im.
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Post by jewbird on Sept 10, 2007 8:47:38 GMT -5
People are born into their stations in life nowerdays. What's the point of drive and passion when it only stresses you out and doesn't get anyone anywhere? So those homeless people started out homeless? Maybe if they had passion and drive, they could be working at Taco Bell. Yeah, that's an improvement.
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Post by alisa on Sept 13, 2007 3:01:59 GMT -5
In regards to pheromones, studies have been done to suggest that they are no longer prevalent in today's society, due to the fact that natural, chemical attraction has been overshadowed by obsession of the materialistic nature! Even if we were to be able to pick up on these invisible signals, we would already have made judgement according to their appearance. The whole 'there's something about them' thing is just their confidence attracting us. Confidence = sexual prowess = gimmesomeofthatidontcarewhattheylooklike.
The only instance in which I believe pheromones may actually do their job, would be when they're being 'transmitted' between 2 people (or more! who's to judge?) who are already attracted to eachother. More of a libido enhancer, if you will.
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Post by jpeezy on Sept 14, 2007 13:12:49 GMT -5
As seen from the showering/bathing thread, I think we bathe too much as a culture and wash our natural pheromones away, then cover ourselves with scented lotions, colognes, and perfumes! Everyone is hormonally out of whack! I vote no more showering, let your personal BO attract your potentional mate! lol
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Post by Ave` on Sept 14, 2007 21:27:15 GMT -5
LOL wow. Interesting thread. I too am a bit concerned with those people who are now married and claim that when they first met their signif other, they were not attracted to them at all but as the years/time went by.. the learned to get over these flaws and love them for them. Is that settling for less than what you want?? Its not call settling for less..Its a sign that uve matured. Its a sign that you know what matters . Its a sign you realize who willmake you happier longer. When I was young I felt the same with you. I have many older sisters and theyre all married now. I asked them and they tell me as you grow up you get the logic perspective in life..looks, money...wont make you happy for long. you need a guy who loves u dearly and treat you like a princess some looks some money. thats all. now as i grow up...Im 25 now I can safely agree with them.:]
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Post by Joi on Sept 19, 2007 8:58:40 GMT -5
As seen from the showering/bathing thread, I think we bathe too much as a culture and wash our natural pheromones away, then cover ourselves with scented lotions, colognes, and perfumes! Everyone is hormonally out of whack! I vote no more showering, let your personal BO attract your potentional mate! lol That will have a potential mate running a block away !
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Post by morningstar on Sept 19, 2007 9:06:33 GMT -5
As seen from the showering/bathing thread, I think we bathe too much as a culture and wash our natural pheromones away, then cover ourselves with scented lotions, colognes, and perfumes! Everyone is hormonally out of whack! I vote no more showering, let your personal BO attract your potentional mate! lol Yes, I read about a study where they had a bunch of women and a bunch of men, and they took sweat from the underarms of the men and dabbed it on the womens nose somehow, and in compatible cases, the sweat actually had a calming effect on the woman! I dont know if the women knew what was being dabbed on them though....
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Sept 23, 2007 15:35:46 GMT -5
EVERYONE should read the Master Ladder Theory. It's mostly true to a certain degree, however not as harsh and cruel and hopeless as the author makes it out to be. www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.htmlPersonally, I need a combo of physical beauty and emotional chemistry. One can make up for the lack of another. It's true, I would date (I don't know for how long) a smoking hot dumb girl, and I'd prolly date a less attractive female if she we clicked like crazy (as was the case with my first love).
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Post by dapper on Feb 20, 2008 15:56:12 GMT -5
Lucky meeeee I have both!
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Post by viruslabrat on Feb 27, 2008 9:08:53 GMT -5
It may be true for some people. I myself don't choose guys with a lot of money. I'm quite comfortable with my salary so I couldn't give a s*** if I had a partner who stocked shelves at K-mart for a living. The key is that he would have to have A job, not necessarily a well-paying one. It would also help if he liked his job or at least it was one that didn't cause him to come home angry or upset each day. But I have come across women who are all about "image" and a trolley boy at their nearest shopping centre wouldn't cut it. It's sad really because there are such awesome guys out there who never get a chance because they don't earn "enough".
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Post by viruslabrat on Feb 27, 2008 9:12:23 GMT -5
Maybe it has something to do with where you grew up too. I grew up in a bogan suburb and though I joke about them, I do have a soft spot for them (and their mullets, ;D). Guys in business suits still make me feel a bit uncomfortable for some reason.
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