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Post by jeepin4x4girl on Nov 17, 2004 22:34:17 GMT -5
Anyway, I'm sure many of you here have similar stories about embarassing asian mothers/or not to exclude anybody,also embarassing asian fathers. Or even just non-asian embarassing parents. the proof above /\ I did include asian fathers as well
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JimmyZ
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Post by JimmyZ on Nov 21, 2004 11:43:00 GMT -5
Yes my mom is Asian and yes she likes to embarrass me. ;D ENOUGH SAID!
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Post by jeepin4x4girl on Nov 21, 2004 15:36:34 GMT -5
Poor Jimmy....
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Post by kleindeutchland1 on Nov 22, 2004 4:56:39 GMT -5
yes, poor jimmy, my heart bleeds for him. I am in a constant state of sadness and dispair, but I am sure he will get over it... eventualy.
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Post by peachluck on Oct 27, 2008 23:25:45 GMT -5
My EA mum and myself can't stand silly FOBs!!!
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Post by peachluck on Oct 27, 2008 23:26:36 GMT -5
I can't speak canto or mandarin so I only have white friends or ABC or highly westernised asian friends. My two best friends are EA twins (guys)
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Post by peachluck on Oct 27, 2008 23:27:41 GMT -5
I have another BFF who is 1/2 korean, 1/4 french and 1/4 viet but she looks more korean possibly cos koreans have strong genes.
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Post by peachluck on Oct 27, 2008 23:29:22 GMT -5
My mum dresses really young even tho she is 62. Some FOB mums wear leggings with tshirts and have short perms. They also wear these slip on shoes with socks. Weird
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Post by mingzayni88 on Oct 28, 2008 10:03:36 GMT -5
My mum is only part asian and she is 2nd generation and 3rd generation Bermudian, but she still does embarrassing things. Like Stands up and applauds during a good scene of a movie (during Coach Carter or Goal! she did it after every goal.), and she is hot tempered and will cuss you out if deserved, funny thing is she is muslim and wears hijab so it looks quite awkward watching someone get cussed out by a middle-aged muslim lady in public..
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Post by thea on Dec 2, 2008 16:10:33 GMT -5
Regarding the embarrasing Asian moms.....just a question is everyone's "Asian" mom immigrant moms or 1st generation in a Western country? What about those "Asian" moms who have been born and raised in a a Western country such as 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th generation types? Don't ALL parents have quirks because of their particular socio-economic conditioning including the ethnic component? [/u]You guys must have "monoracial" friends and relatives who have been born and raised in a Western country, do they necessarily act like your "Asian" moms just because they happen to be ethnically Asian? Here's another example, my mom who is 80 came to the U.S. in 1965, she knew a Filipino married couple who lived in Seaside , CA, and came here in the late 50s. The Filipino husband had joined the U.S. Army and had been stationed in Germany along with his family. (My dad had also joined the U.S. Navy.) Their Philippine born daughter grew up in the 50s and 60s on U.S. Army bases in Germany and Monterey. She had a different conditioning, back in those days ethnic types really tried hard to assimilate into the mainstream. Eventually, this daughter married a Euro-American Navy officer and they had 3 Eurasian kids who are now in their mid 30s or early 40s. The eldest son looks like a dark Mexican, and the younger son and daughter have that Central Asian in between appearance. The eldest son married a brown eyed, dark brunette phenotypic "white" lady, (don't know what her genetic ancestry is.) Both these brown eyed brunette people had recessive genes which produced an extremely fair blond haired blue eyed boy who looks just like the paternal granddad. Anyhow, the Filipino Army brat grandmother who is in her mid 60s, doesn't have any of the mannerisms I associate with people socialized in a Filipino/Asian environment. Her speech patterns, everything about her, if I were to close my eyes I'd think I was just interacting with a 60ish EuroAmerican woman. ;D I think most children of immigrants don't really want to feel or seem different from what is considered mainstream. I worked at a school and there was an Ethiopian boy there. He didn't want to be called Ethiopian but African-American, he was even embarrased to reply to his father in their Native tongue.
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Post by avax on Dec 2, 2008 18:40:23 GMT -5
I think most children of immigrants don't really want to feel or seem different from what is considered mainstream. I worked at a school and there was an Ethiopian boy there. He didn't want to be called Ethiopian but African-American, he was even embarrased to reply to his father in their Native tongue. Children just want to feel accepted, safe and loved - consistently. If what's outside their family seems radically different from what's going on inside the family/in the family home, there's a rift. Kids also seem to be able to recognize identities and associations very early on both with their friends at school and with their family members at home. If Mum or Dad talks funny or in a different language from Bobby and Jane in the classroom, he's going to wonder why. If these differences are not confronted or explained in a "safe" environment, chances are there will be more "huh?s" than "cools". The child may not question it at that age, but the questions will manifest themselves. I tend to see the case sometimes where immigrant parents switch personas - more western around coworkers (if an immigrant from the east, ie.), then less western at home. Not a day went by when my parents both did not beat it into my head that we were only immigrants, we were nothing compared to the "whites", if we wanted to make it anywhere, we could only compete where they fail. In that respect, you could say there was a huge adversarial dynamic between the "whites" and ...us, whatever we were. The "whites" encompassed even asians who were western-influenced. Eurasian was a label accepted at home. My mother taught me I was eurasian. She explained to me why we spoke a different language from my cousins and why I had to learn a different second language. When I was older, she showed me photos of our eurasian family, and when my grandfather was sent to a hospice and his home needed to be cleaned and sold, she showed me things from her childhood that gave me some understanding of what it felt for her when she was alienated at my age too. When I was older, she also told me about her work experiences and how many job interviews she was turned away from because she did not have black hair. I think she must have been hurt by some of the "white" comments previously mentioned but she too saw herself triple, multiple times removed from her own homeland because her family were white immigrants who lived multiple generations in asia. She felt asian but she was robbed of feeling that because of her white status in asia. And when we left asia, not only did she not have a "homeland", she no longer had her cultural home - asia. Would my children want to feel more "mainstream" and "accepted" within the country and culture they were brought up in regardless of their parents' history? Of course, I wouldn't doubt it. I've long since stopped wrestling with the issue of where my home is. I wouldn't take back my experiences for the world but this should be their home now (at least during their childhood, when I have a say). You can be sure, I'll be sharing with them the experiences of a first generation immigrant very early on. Regarding mothers and parents in general, I have nothing but respect.
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Post by straylight on Dec 3, 2008 4:38:23 GMT -5
I think I was more embarrassed by my Dad.
Err.. In fact, I can't think of one instance of being embarrassed by my mom. Despite not being very culturally Asian/influenced by her. She's pretty cool. Maybe just embarrassed when I was young and acting up in a store or something, and she'd get on my ass in a rowdy way.. But that's my fault.
My Dad, on the other hand... Has no tact. I won't get into it..
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Post by Paddy on Dec 3, 2008 7:17:07 GMT -5
Yeah I'm with Stray on this one. My dad is embarrassing and argumentative. When we lived in the States he used to argue with Americans saying the British way of doing stuff was better - yeah on their home turf. Now back in the UK, he tells everyone how great and progressive America is and how backward the UK is. Sounds like he has a bit of an EA-style cultural complex!
Everyone has always loved my mum. She's adorable.
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Post by paul101 on Dec 13, 2008 20:23:15 GMT -5
My mum is totally Irish,but my dad said before my sisters or I was born,my Asian grandmother would treat my mum like a Queen. My mum said it was really annoying. lol.
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Post by nemesisgalofdoom on Dec 13, 2008 21:21:37 GMT -5
My (Asian) mother is VERY embarrassing ;D But this is not becase she is Asian (she left Japan since shes 20 - shew now is 62) - she is simply odd and tends to act and think "crazy" .... - in her own way.
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