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Post by dolcedolce on Jul 23, 2005 11:51:00 GMT -5
It still boggles my mind that your mom's trippin over your husband's race despite the fact that he's *more than half white*. My family's got their prejudices against blacks too but to a lesser extent, like they would still be fine with it if I were to be with a mulatto. I'm imagining a baby that is roughly 1/4black1/4asian1/2white, and it sounds like an awesome mix. Best of luck to you. My cousin's EA daughter (1/2 Chinese, 1/2 Irish) had a boy about 2 years ago with a black guy with Louisiana creole origins (approx. 3/4 black, 1/4 French) which means her boy is approx. 3/8 black, 3/8 white, 1/4 Asian. For some reason, I think his dad has more European features then his boy. I have seen kids of an Asian and Mulatto parent that interesting could pass as EA. geez i'm so bad at fractions i could sit for a day and not be able to figure that out..
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Post by legacy on Jul 23, 2005 11:56:13 GMT -5
Don't feel bad. 3/4 of the time I'm a halfwit.
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Post by Aiko on Jul 23, 2005 17:37:15 GMT -5
Teehee I know what you mean. When I said everyone got along with each other when I was born, I meant that people don't openly fight with each other anymore because of the racial difference, but it still wasn't very smooth. There were always conflicts. Meh...
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Post by داود on Jul 23, 2005 19:15:20 GMT -5
My paternal side of the family(particularly my grandma) disliked my mom from the get-go. They wanted my dad to be with a full asian woman. There was this asian woman who had recently arrived in the US that they wanted for my dad, and they wanted her to live with my parents(knowing that my parents were already married at the time too!). obviously my mom wouldn't let that happen and yea, they gave her even more trouble for it. come after I was born…my grandma often made fun of me with my curly hair amongst other things. It is very sad that grown up people who are supposed to be mature behave like that.
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Post by y2j on Jul 26, 2005 9:42:36 GMT -5
My paternal side of the family(particularly my grandma) disliked my mom from the get-go. They wanted my dad to be with a full asian woman. There was this asian woman who had recently arrived in the US that they wanted for my dad, and they wanted her to live with my parents(knowing that my parents were already married at the time too!). obviously my mom wouldn't let that happen and yea, they gave her even more trouble for it. come after I was born…my grandma often made fun of me with my curly hair amongst other things. Needless to say, I still harbor feelings of resentment towards most of that side of the family. Nowadays, meh, I suppose you could say we're civil and interact normally, but we're not exactly close with them. Oh well. Sometimes I get that feeling with my Dad's side of the family towards my mother and my sister and me. We're always left out of the loop, and I think my grandparents spoiled my Dad's sister's kids more than us. It certainly seems like we aren't in their favour. But we're all pretty civil, there's no real tension. It isn't as bad now, but it was definitely more prominent at one stage.
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Post by angel on Jul 26, 2005 9:58:36 GMT -5
Think about it - older generations have had less chance of meeting somebody from a different race than, say, our generation. If you all you have to go off are half-baked negative stereotypes, chances are you'll believe them because of your fear of the unknown. The WHOLE white side of my family, who I grew up in England with, were racist and always made negative comments in front of me about either my race or other races. After a while I think they treated my dad's marriage to my Chinese mother with bemusement. I think it took a long time from my white grandparents to accept me, but they did eventually. I can sort of understand why - imagine living your whole life in this little working class northern english town, where everybody knows everybody, and everybody marries somebody from round the corner, and suddenly your son turns up with a Chinese wife. (Incidentally, and take from this what you will, a psychic woman told me that my grandmother wanted to say sorry to me.)
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Post by داود on Jul 26, 2005 11:59:16 GMT -5
The WHOLE white side of my family, who I grew up in England with, were racist and always made negative comments in front of me about either my race or other races. After a while I think they treated my dad's marriage to my Chinese mother with bemusement. I'd shut them up. I 'd also leave them and never see them again.
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Post by kris2pe on Jul 30, 2005 13:59:29 GMT -5
The key to end racism is us!!! People with Mixed raced are the once that could bridge people the gap from one race to the other!
Although we cannot avoid, that everyone has the capacity 2 b a racist including people who are mixed raced & especially of our own race. Despite being proud of Tsinoy (Chinese-Filipino). I still have stereotypes of both my lineage. Coz when I'm with Filipinos they tend to make fun of my Chinese lineage (ie How we look, how we speak words & etc). But when I'm Chinese they also make fun of Filipinos (ie how lazy filipnos are & how stupid most of them are & etc.). Even if my heart ache a bit I still play along because these 2 races are a part of therefore I understand more!
[glow=red,2,300]To sum it up: It's not tolerance that I'm showing it more of knowing that they do not know more that what they know. They only know what they see, hear & feel and most of them fear of knowing more than what they know. I see, hear & feel both sides & thus making me better than most of my counterparts!!![/glow]
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Post by dolcedolce on Jul 30, 2005 14:24:21 GMT -5
The key to end racism is us!!! People with Mixed raced are the once that could bridge people the gap from one race to the other! no i think there would still be racism people would think theyre better cause they`re "mixed with better things" someone that doesn't have the same mix as you can still be racist about having black, white, asian blood
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Post by داود on Jul 30, 2005 16:56:36 GMT -5
yeah, racism can be White, Black, and Yellow. it will never stop, as all people can't be smart and kind.
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Post by angel on Jul 31, 2005 12:38:51 GMT -5
Hopefully people will be become more tolerant though. In future, everybody will be mixed.
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Post by peachluck on Oct 27, 2008 21:53:56 GMT -5
My mum is EA (irish and malaysian chinese) and she is quite racist against other asians - she hates there push and shove attitudes, kiasusim and cunning / competitive mentality Even tho she married my dad who is 100% malaysian chinese (although he lived in Oz since age 19 and is quite western) she doesnt like asian people in general.
We both really dislike Singaporeans in particular esp our neighbours who always try to look like they are better or richer than us - as if we give a toss!
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Post by peachluck on Oct 27, 2008 21:56:08 GMT -5
I know this girl who is half singaporean chinese and half english who grew up in singapore but then moved to perth when she was 18. Looks wise she looks 50-50 and well mixed but she is so asian in her attitude - typically singaporean in her mindset and highly competitive and very 'kiasu'. She even speaks mandaring better than full chinese ppl who grew up in Oz.
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Post by devinsky on Oct 28, 2008 17:32:16 GMT -5
I've been told my dad(mongol) used to have racist sentiments towards black people and filipinos but as i've gotten older that's changed 100%, my mom is Gaelic, Lakota and african . He understands Hate is wrong and as i was growing up always told me the importance of respecting other cultures and giving everyone an equal chance. But i have a totally European cousin who is obsessed with acting "black" haha. not respectfully but just the terrible side of urban culture, trying to be a "gangster" and all, it's really strange. kinda racist too...
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Post by Altan on Oct 31, 2008 1:16:53 GMT -5
Rascist family? Every family is rascist. It's your and their future. Respectability and nobility and the larger rat race.
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