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Post by jenming on Oct 23, 2007 20:33:13 GMT -5
I think it was hard enough that they got divorced before I was 2 years old.
But actually, i think it was cultural differences more than language difficulties. If it weren't for those bigger differences, they might still be confusing each other with language trouble today.
EDIT: there USED to be another post above mine here. have no idea why it got deleted. it just asked if there was a language barrier between people's parents.
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Post by Ave` on Oct 23, 2007 22:21:28 GMT -5
I think it was hard enough that they got divorced before I was 2 years old. But actually, i think it was cultural differences more than language difficulties. If it weren't for those bigger differences, they might still be confusing each other with language trouble today. aww I try not to let my parents communicate with each other too much ;D |
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Post by saeka on Oct 25, 2007 22:00:38 GMT -5
Major language barrier between my parents. Its f***ing annoying being in the middle of all this crap
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Post by halfbreed on Oct 26, 2007 6:55:35 GMT -5
Sorry to say, but I have a poor opinion of EA couples who can't even speak to each other. Methinks it ain't love.
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Post by 2bob on Oct 26, 2007 23:40:39 GMT -5
well i never got to know my mums dad (he moved away) but sometimes i would have trouble understanding my grandma (her mum). her accent was pretty thick.. amixture of dutch and indonesian
well my mums accent is australain so there isnt sny communication problems between my parents
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Post by Ishman on Oct 27, 2007 8:46:43 GMT -5
I really didn't even realize my dad had an accent until I went away to college. Well, I guess I was aware of his accent, but didn't actually hear it myself until I was out of the house for a while and would call home. It was weird.
I never really got to speak to my grandparents on my father's side because of the language barrier, which is a shame. Would have been cool to hear a little bit about my dad from someone else.
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Post by elpresto on Nov 25, 2007 2:05:04 GMT -5
The earliest instance of a lack of understanding between my parents came when I was about 6. My mom wanted to remodel the kitchen and kept asking for a "food" over the stove. So, my dad kept showing her ideas for cupboards and shelves that would fit there, only to be rejected.
They went round and round with everyone getting frustrated until I asked why she wanted one. Turns out she wanted a HOOD with an exhaust fan and grease screen. ;D
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Post by hapalicious on Nov 25, 2007 3:46:42 GMT -5
Sorry to say, but I have a poor opinion of EA couples who can't even speak to each other. Methinks it ain't love. ah....i know what you mean...i do think people need to be able to communicate in order to really get along.... but there are so many other ways to communicate than speech and languages ! and though i believe a lot of couples don t know their s.o. as much as they "should", i don t think it means that all couples who face a language barrier are necessarily one of those... i know i have the hardest time expressing myself in words...i tend to stammer a bit, can t find the right words, keep my mouth open as if about to catch a fly, utter beginnings of words, rarely finish my sentences, and turn into a nerveball because by the time i find the right wording, the person i was talking to has moved on to another subject... what makes it even worse is that because they re so used to me not being able to express myself the way i want to, my family tends to go completely quiet and hang on my every word as if i were about to utter my first word "mama !" everytime i try to say something...i had speech problems as a kid, they marked "language" as an area of concern in my medical records and i also had a lisp when i was little. though i don t lisp anymore, it sometimes "comes back" when i m tired and i start lisping again....though very badly put, what i meant to say is that speaking definitely isn t my area of predilection when i want to communicate with someone. i believe it s the case for a lot of people but i don t think in words but images...so i don t see why language barriers necessarily means you don t "know" the person. sounds silly but i think i communicate better with my eyes...and it goes to show that a lot of my friends never were able to speak with me fluently...as a kid in spore, my friends all spoke various languages as they came from all over the globe, in france, most of my friends were foreign students who were learning french when i was taking remedial classes, and overhere, most my friends don t speak english either and are international students...i still ALWAYS managed to communicate with them... i do think you can communicate extensively and comprehensively without "speaking the language" and sometimes a look or a drawing, or even body language speaks louder than sounds with a sense. though my parents never had a language barrier their barriers were/are multiple and i miss the days when we d have "family hugs"-no words, as opposed to the slang and insult diharrea we get today. superman: i know what you mean...i remember someone telling my dad he had an accent, which i thought was preposterously ridiculous...now that i can only hear him and not see him whenever we talk on the phone...sometimes, i do hear a hint of an accent here and there ! i still don t think he has one but for certain words....he most definitely has ! |
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Post by daisypukes on Nov 25, 2007 7:54:33 GMT -5
Sorry to say, but I have a poor opinion of EA couples who can't even speak to each other. Methinks it ain't love. Agreed. My mother's English skills are very good, so her marriage (while it lasted) was at least based on some mutual understanding. I remember watching this documentary on men who get mail order brides from Southeast Asia and Russia...it was repulsive. They would marry these women in financial hardship without being able to speak one WORD of each other's languages. Ick.  |
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Post by xandra on Nov 27, 2007 0:33:13 GMT -5
My parents speak Italian to each other since they met in Italy. Funnily enough, English is the third language for both of them. My mom also knows more Vietnamese than my siblings and I do.
ETA: But they're divorced now, so the language thing wasn't enough.
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Post by cinnamoroll on Dec 1, 2007 12:37:55 GMT -5
I really didn't even realize my dad had an accent until I went away to college. Well, I guess I was aware of his accent, but didn't actually hear it myself until I was out of the house for a while and would call home. It was weird. I never really got to speak to my grandparents on my father's side because of the language barrier, which is a shame. Would have been cool to hear a little bit about my dad from someone else. Yea, I never realised that both of my parents had accents until my friends pointed them out to me... and subsequently listening carefully in social situations and comparing their accents to native English speakers. Apparently I pronounce certain words funnily aswell. Ugh. Sorry to say, but I have a poor opinion of EA couples who can't even speak to each other. Methinks it ain't love. Wait... do you mean at all (because, yes then I would agree with you that it's probably not love but lust) or do you mean, can communicate but not on the same level as with people who speak their respective mother-tongues? Because I think sometimes that even people of the same culture/country cannot communicate perfectly, so it is not something exclusive to interracial couples. |
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Post by magpie on Dec 3, 2007 16:11:15 GMT -5
Hubby and I don't have a language barrier unless he's tired. When he's tired, he doesn't seem to understand a thing. Mother-in-law and me.......Big language barrier unless I say something I don't want her to hear, then she goes the extra mile by putting words in my mouth! There is a more of a cultural problem, but we get around it....sort of. Oh, typical married couple stuff like arguing over how to raise the kid.
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Post by fumanchu on Dec 4, 2007 8:08:38 GMT -5
When my parents first met my mother could speak practically no english. After 35 yrs living in an english speaking country she is fluent now. But I think as the years have progressed my parents have found they are quite different people, my mother is a hard-nosed, highly organized businesswoman while my father is a softly spoken, more artsy "couldn't organize a pissup in a brewery" type. Perhaps this is something that could have been avoided if they could have communicated when they first met. I'm about half of each of my parents (the good parts I hope!) so I'm often "translating & interpreting" for them when they fight (in a counselling fashion not an actual language translation).
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Post by halfbreed on Dec 4, 2007 23:25:48 GMT -5
Sorry to say, but I have a poor opinion of EA couples who can't even speak to each other. Methinks it ain't love. Wait... do you mean at all (because, yes then I would agree with you that it's probably not love but lust) or do you mean, can communicate but not on the same level as with people who speak their respective mother-tongues? Because I think sometimes that even people of the same culture/country cannot communicate perfectly, so it is not something exclusive to interracial couples. No, nothing to do with in comparison to people of their own culture/country. I mean like when one's Chinese and one's English and the Chinese one can't speak English and the English one can't speak Chinese. :/ |
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Post by Nikki on Dec 5, 2007 0:01:40 GMT -5
My parents speak Italian to each other since they met in Italy. Funnily enough, English is the third language for both of them. My mom also knows more Vietnamese than my siblings and I do. ETA: But they're divorced now, so the language thing wasn't enough. Wow. I didn't know that. That's rather neat. What brought your dad to Italy? And did your mom take any Vietnamese classes or did she just pick it up from your dad as they were living together? |
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