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Post by calisa on Dec 27, 2004 5:36:10 GMT -5
does anyone else only go for guys/chicks on their European side??.. I realised that just recently.. maybe cos I never grew up with any Asians in my town.. like now this full Asian guy likes me, hes so sweet and all, but theres nothing there for me to be attracted to.. and I just think is it because of his race..? I guess for some selfish reason I want my kids to be more Euro looking?? is that so bad?.. what are ur thoughts..
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Post by kristina on Dec 27, 2004 6:15:53 GMT -5
i think it's fine that you have certain preferences. i don't think anyone really has control of that. it's important for you to be attracted to whomever you're with.
as for wanting your kids to be more european-looking, i think that's partly your preference involved in your thinking there. realize that with being mixed, your kids may come out entirely not what you expect them to. i look at my niece who's only 1/4 japanese and looks more asian than some half and even 3/4 asians. so understand that you really don't have entire control of what your kids are going to look like and regardless of whatever "look" they may take on, you'll love and adore them simply because they're your kids and because you hopefully had them with someone you absolutely love too.
my personal stance on this issue is that it's hard for me to find a man to meet my standards of someone to be with than to limit him to being a certain race. i have my own preferences, but find men of a variety of races attractive (asian, european, latino, black, etc) so for me, it's just a matter of finding someone that's attractive physically, as well as with the non-physical traits.
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Seifer
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Post by Seifer on Dec 27, 2004 8:46:19 GMT -5
does anyone else only go for guys/chicks on their European side??.. I realised that just recently.. maybe cos I never grew up with any Asians in my town.. like now this full Asian guy likes me, hes so sweet and all, but theres nothing there for me to be attracted to.. and I just think is it because of his race..? I guess for some selfish reason I want my kids to be more Euro looking?? is that so bad?.. what are ur thoughts.. I agree with Pinoy Pom. Just before i went to this site, i emailed my sister that i didn't want her to entertain this filipino courting her. She asked me why...and i told her that i didn't want my nephew to look filipino. Damn, maybe that's really, really racist...okay, it is. But it's true - and furthermore, most filipino guys just like mestizas because they have white blood in them - for that fact only...lika trophy wife. As for me, i don't want to have a filipino son that has a russian last name...it's too weird. If you came to the philippines, most filipinos especially on friendster will always use foreigner pictures as their "My pics". And i ask my filipino friends about western vs. filipino - and they all agree that westerners look better than filipinos. Most filipinos find westerners to be better looking...talk about a repressed and screwed up culture. how can a people of a nation find foreigners to be better looking than them? Japanese for the most part prefer japanese, africans prefer africans, europeans prefer europeans, filipinos prefer NON-filipinos! Hence, the more un-filipino you look, the more handsome/beautiful you are to filipinos. Kant understand. But filipinos do prefer mestizo over white. I want a Europasian son. Or a eurasian son. And i'll have my daughter sold into slavery...hehehe. |
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Post by Joolie on Dec 27, 2004 9:04:17 GMT -5
I am not against my Asian side.. I want my child to come out looking more Asian or EA. But either way, it would not matter to me... if she didn't I would still love her nonetheless. My family grew up very pro-Asian so my views are different than Seifer and PinoyPom. However, I do see where your views may have generated from, your surroundings and the environment you've grown up in have been heavily influenced by Europeans or people degrading Filipinos via appearance.
My bf who is Filipino prefers not being with a Filipino girl because he doesn't want his kids to come out "dark". That bothers me... but since my bf is very much immersed into my Chinese culture, and he doesn't bring up race as a factor of being with me... I think it's just a preference he has.
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Post by Tricky on Dec 27, 2004 11:03:42 GMT -5
I have never been with an Asian guy. I find Whites and Blacks more attractive honestly. Its not that I don't want my kids to look Asian, that factor never occured to me. I know very few Asians, the ones that are do know are very different to me. I think my experiences with Asian men in my family have put me off somewhat.
Children are a different matter. It wouldnt matter if they turned out to be very Asian looking or evry Euro looking. Both of my family are racist either way.
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Post by cookworks on Dec 27, 2004 12:09:28 GMT -5
I have always found myself more attracted to girls who are more ethnic. So i dont think im racist towards my asian side.
Well, if u want your children to be more euro looking, its your business. I just think its a wee bit shallow. But if you're not interested in a guy, you're not interested. Nothing can be done about it. Dont be too hard on yourself.
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Post by VioletTsunami on Dec 27, 2004 12:13:05 GMT -5
I'm more attracted to Asian guys. White guys don't usually do it for me. Other nonwhites are alright, but I prefer Asian. Probably because the most positive influences in my life have been from Asians and the most negative influences have been from whites.
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Post by jefe on Dec 27, 2004 12:41:04 GMT -5
I'm more attracted to Asian guys. White guys don't usually do it for me. Other nonwhites are alright, but I prefer Asian. Probably because the most positive influences in my life have been from Asians and the most negative influences have been from whites. This might be something else we have in common.  My experience from Asians is mixed -- positive, negative, neutral. But from whites, it is majority negative, with some neutral, but little positive. If you just look at family / relatives, then the mix is even more skewed. I didn't grow up with Asians in my town where I went to high school (there were a few Army brat EA kids, ,that was all), but I left the first chance I got. You know, I used to read the research on Mulattos about this phenomenon before I found anything on EAs. Some light Mulattoes wanted their kids to be even more white, enough to pass. Some consciously chose dark partners to have children darker than themselves (and thus less racially ambiguous). Some chose other multattoes. Some have children more African than either parent, some have a child that could pass as white. Some, esp. those part Native American, could have the most unusual combinations and variations in their family. I know one woman (who has a few sisters) who is 1/4 Filipino, and can more or less pass as white most of the time (although she might get asked if she has "something in her") Now, what did she do? Dye her hair blond. She wanted desperately to remove the possibility that any out there might mistake her for having any non-European blood in her. |
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Post by jefe on Dec 27, 2004 12:42:42 GMT -5
Children are a different matter. It wouldnt matter if they turned out to be very Asian looking or evry Euro looking. Both of my family are racist either way.  Do you mean that whether they are more Euro looking, more Asian looking, or more ethnically ambiguous that they will suffer racism from your family? |
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Post by kleindeutchland1 on Dec 27, 2004 14:45:19 GMT -5
If I am ever fortunate enough to meet a person who shares the same interests as me, who is willing to look pass my imperfections, and embrace me for the flawed human being that I am, I will consider myself to be one of the luckiest men in existance. She could come from any culture, from any ethnicity, and hold beliefs on religion and politics so different from my own. But as long as we view one another as rational moral agents worthy of attention and compromise, I am sure we will be able to carry a love that will last through the ages.
I am already a mix of two distant lands, I wouldn't mind adding greater cultural diversity to my offspring. To have children who would feel a form of kinship with numerous peoples around the world can only be a good thing.
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Post by TeeHee on Dec 27, 2004 16:35:36 GMT -5
Most people here already know that I generally do not like asian guys. I've never ever found a full asian physically attractive, that's just my taste. I don't think it's been any influenced by media. I remember even as a tot, I looked up to and admired(personality-wise and lookswise) my older white and EA counterparts. Though I do think full asian guys(or full asian people for that matter) are unattractive, that's not the main thing that turns me off from them, as I am someone who can think past a person's physical appearance, given that I'm attracted to them and their personality. Though I have had a few bad experiences with whites, it was all very minuscule and nothing compared to the negative experiences I have had with asians. I find that they are extremely critical and hypocritical, nitpicky, quick-to-judge, arrogant, catty, two-faced, annoying, dimwitted, rude, say/do some of the most uncalled for things,(I could go on all day about the things I dislike about asians). All these characteristics combined with their already-unattractive physical appearance only makes them even uglier and repulsive to me. Not to say that non full asians are immune to those traits, but I find that practically everytime I get those kinda bad experiences from somebody, it's coming from an asian. I do have some asian friends who are the sweetest people in the world whom I love to pieces. So if you're asian and the above-mentioned characteristics don't apply to you, then don't worry about it. It's just that majority of asians I come across fit that "stereotype." I barely ever get this kinda nonsense from whites or EAs. I suppose they feel confident enough in themselves or just have the decency to not resort to hating on others in order to make them feel better about themselves. I know it may sound silly of me saying all this since I'm more than half asian, but ...anyhow, bottom line, my general dislike towards asians stems waaay beyond just their looks. I don't think I'm being non-colorblind by not being attracted to asians/finding asians unattractive. |
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Post by Nikki on Dec 27, 2004 16:40:05 GMT -5
What it comes down to is preference. You can't help it if you just aren't attracted to Asian guys or white guys or anything else for that matter. When I was younger I didn't like Asian guys-- but somewhere along the line I musta switched becuase so far all the guys I have dated pretty much have been Asian. But now I seem to be swaying back to the "white side." It's kinda wierd. I don't think I really have a preference. If someone is interesting, witty, funny, has similar interests and of course, is hot then it doesn't matter what background they have. Our parents didn't go by color, why should we? I think alot of Chinese people consider light skin to be more attractive though, and because I'm pale.. well they like that. I'm not sure how comfortable I am with that-- but it's preference. Can't do much about that can you.
Kids are kids. My new nephew is 3/4 asian and 1/4 caucasian and is still the absolute cutest thing i have ever seen. I admit for a while I think I wanted my kids to look more caucasian, perhaps cuz they'd just get along better in the world we live in, but... now I'm thinking I don't really care.
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Post by emeararwhy on Dec 27, 2004 16:57:26 GMT -5
I did have a preference before, towards asian men, but it was for one f***ed up reason. these days..meh..i'm not attracted to men at all!  |
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Post by Nikki on Dec 27, 2004 17:16:12 GMT -5
I'll ask.
I think we all want to know the reason now.
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Post by emeararwhy on Dec 27, 2004 17:28:12 GMT -5
nah...i'm just bored, men bore me... haha!  yeah that was stupid  i meant, i've been screwed over too many times. *the reason why i prefered asian men in the past was because I wanted my genes to blend back into the asian gene pool....i wanted to punish my mom, whom is white(yeah I had f***ing stupid and crazy mentality!) |
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