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Post by Ganbare! on Apr 20, 2008 14:26:18 GMT -5
What is your relationship with your siblings like?
Do you feel entitled to throw the closest available flower vase to their face when they don't show any compassion/ filial piety towards you/your family ?
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Post by ConceptDesign on Apr 25, 2008 7:02:47 GMT -5
no
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Post by halfbreed on Apr 25, 2008 9:17:01 GMT -5
What is your relationship with your siblings like? I would say forced. Do you feel entitled to throw the closest available flower vase to their face when they don't show any compassion/ filial piety towards you/your family ? Yes. Mother. |
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Post by joannenicole on Apr 26, 2008 19:18:55 GMT -5
Do you feel entitled to throw the closest available flower vase to their face when they don't show any compassion/ filial piety towards you/your family ? Yes, all the time. |
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Post by Pushnpull on Apr 27, 2008 1:58:18 GMT -5
Relationship with siblings was fine until recently. Leave it to money matters to turn things ugly.
My parents ran into financial difficulty and couldn't pay their mortgage. My sisters and I all agreed to send them money every month.
Found out I and my youngest sis who just graduated college and barely making it herself were the only ones contributing. My sister who makes 6 figures?? Never sent one cent.
Our sibling feud has just begun.
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Post by Miyuki on May 22, 2008 3:48:39 GMT -5
I threw a lamp at my sister's head once. She proceeded to royally kick my ass. We get along great now, HOWEVER, we get slightly annoyed with eachother at the 8 hour mark, and extremely annoyed with eachother after that.
My brother and I have always been close, except while I was a horrible teenager. We are great friends again.
My husband's sisters have HATED eachother from day one. They pinched each other as toddlers. They're in their forties and still the same way.
I think money, the way people raise their kids, and how annoying their partners are, can cause big sibling problems.
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Post by betahat on May 23, 2008 2:47:28 GMT -5
I get along well with my brother and sister and always have. My brother and I were really close growing up, going through various phases from plastic stick men to video games to playing basketball and music together. There was brief phase in the early teens where we had a divorce and he hung out with various punk and skater kids - perhaps necessary for him to step out from under my wing and really establish his own identity - but we reconciled. There has always been some sibling competition, and I perhaps should take some blame for his occasional lack of self-confidence being the dominant and hyper-competitive older brother who always had to win at everything.
My sis and I have always gotten along too, and we never had the male competitiveness thing. The age and gender difference meant that growing up we didn't do a lot of activities together but now that we are both adults we share more in common.
Of course, I moved out about 5 years ago and since then I only see them for a few weeks a year. I don't speak to them often - I am terrible at keeping in touch long distance, and this includes my parents - maybe once a month or so but when I'm back visiting them in Toronto we always hang out and get along.
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Post by Vestirse on May 23, 2008 16:45:24 GMT -5
I have this weird theory about my family, but maybe its just my family. Usually, the less I see them, the better our relationship is. So many little things we do get on each others nerves that we have a better relationship when we just occasionally see each other, call or write. Or maybe its just me.
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Post by straylight on May 23, 2008 18:42:03 GMT -5
I pretty much.... Do not get along with my brother at all. I used to try when I was young (he was seven years older, so I looked up to him), but he was a jerk then. We didn't do much together, and when we did, there was bound to be a moment where I was belittled for something. Or at times, had the crap beat out of me. I'd have to say that he was a big reason why I turned into a jerk myself once I hit my teens. And now I resent him because of it (among other things).
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Post by viruslabrat on May 24, 2008 6:47:14 GMT -5
All boys turn into jerks around the 13-year mark. Trust me.
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Post by straylight on May 24, 2008 9:13:17 GMT -5
Not like me. I'm pretty sure of that. Huge chip on my shoulder then..And lacking tolerance at the most slightest offenses. By the time I was 13, I ended up with an assault charge and put a kid in the hospital....for not giving me 50 cents. Kept getting expelled through highschool for the same things. So by the time I was 16, I had no choice but to drop out and get a GED, since I was so far behind.
I don't mean to sound like I'm derailing, but I think I was already aggressive long before that. I remember being mean to my pets when I was real young, things like that. And I really do think my brother was a big reason why. I didn't want to get into it, but he even molested me when I was 6. There was no way I was going to come out all hunky dory after that. Pretty much doomed to screw up fairly early on.
When I was around 18, I finally confronted him about all of this, and he just blew it off like it was all a joke. I was willing to forgive him at that point, but when there wasn't even a slightest apology, I held my resentment. It's been here since.
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Post by i move the stars for no one on May 24, 2008 9:28:49 GMT -5
What is your relationship with your siblings like? Do you feel entitled to throw the closest available flower vase to their face when they don't show any compassion/ filial piety towards you/your family ? i do have some really good memories of my brother both individually and with our family,but basically were at each other's throats for most of our lives.it infuriated me that he was so completely disrespectful and antagonistic toward my parents.we were complete opposites,except for both being f**k ups as teenagers,and even then we were f**k-ups in different ways.his violence didn't stop until he got sick and went blind,and even then the change was slow in coming and he never entirely straightened himself out.his getting sick forced me to relate to him in a less emotionally charged way and to be perfectly honest took away a lot of the fear i had of him (even though he was younger he was very strong and had a violent temper and no qualms about throwing punches.or handweights.or steak knives)he himself said at one point that going blind and dying was the karma he was reaping for the sh*tty person he'd been,which was heartbreaking,though a small part of me felt like it was true. anyway,that was a bit of a ramble and i've made peace with all of it. |
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Post by viruslabrat on May 24, 2008 9:49:40 GMT -5
I think your brother deserves to get his head kicked in, Stray. But don't be mean to animals - only psychopaths torture animals.
All of this makes me thankful for the brothers that I have, even though they were annoying s***s as teenagers and always gave me the crappy GI Joes to play with (the ones they took apart and switched the heads and arms on).
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Post by straylight on May 24, 2008 10:17:59 GMT -5
Heh, if I could have kicked his head in, then I probably would have turned out OK. Instead of making everything else my target. The guy was a 1st place martial arts champ in our state, and made it 3rd in a national tournament. I don't stand a chance of beating him down, even if I'm like a foot taller than him. ;D I wasn't going all Jeffrey Dahmer on my pets, but it makes me sad thinking about it. I wasn't extreme, but it was bad enough. Used to lock them up in drawers for hours, swing my cats by their tails. The worse was when I dropped a little dog as I was standing on top of a car..Broke her leg.  That was the beginning of my bad behavior. I hope no one thinks I'm a psycho now though. I found better influences in my life. [edit] On the brightside, it's taught me a lot on how to be sensitive to kids. Even the most subtle things can hurt them, and I don't go there. And they love me for it. |
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Post by helles on May 24, 2008 22:50:51 GMT -5
hmm.. me and my sister dont really have a relationship. we dont get on, i think when we were kids we did, but since teens or so, nope. we have tried, but we are total opposites. my sister is a total kiss-ass whereas i'm not and it annoys the hell out of me cos it seems so fake.
anyway, since uni, we have spent less time together (with near 0 contact), so when we do meet up during holidays, we get on better for the first few hours, then we get on each others nerves again.
recently, maybe the past couple of years.. we have been united in our mother's hate for our bf's and her meddling in our lives. so its getting better. she's still the annoying sister, but is slightly more tolerable. BUT, she will be moving to HK permanatly in the next few months, so we'll see how that goes!
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That was the beginning of my bad behavior.