Men have been doing it for ages, dating women a decade/s or so younger than themselves.
I'm 32, newly separated and got involved with a guy about 11 years younger.
I have to add I do not look 32, but regardless, would you guys find a woman like me sick?
Recently I went to a dance with a friend and got asked to dance numerous times....by men much younger than me once again. Most in their early 20's.
This new guy was this very cute Korean American who was ahem...19, got into the club with a fake id.
It almost went there but I stopped it due to the big age difference.
Regardless of him being young, he is legal and very good looking. I was also very attracted and so was he but I refused to go through with anything due to the age stigma.
Who knows, maybe I'm trying to recapture my 20's which I have been accused of by a well meaning friend or maybe I am just not attracted to my fellow male 30- somethings olds many of whom are now balding and letting themselves go. Call me shallow if you must.
But...what I really want to know is, what do you all think of older women with younger men? I know I am not the only one.
A few of my other 30 and even a 40 somethng friend are all involved with men much younger than we are. I'm beginning to see more of it just not as much as the older man/young woman combo.
I'm 21 and lately I've dated a 25 and 26 years old girls... I know it's not the same difference, but it's the example I can give. If you two can get along fine, that's the only thing that matters. Oh... and another example I have... right now I'm seeing a girl who's 17.
If it's a casual relationship I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. The last couple of girls i was involved with were 11 years younger (i was even married to one). I know it's different for guys but I see no reason for a double standard.
Alas, getting into something seriously long term is a different story.... that's where I'll tend to prefer someone closer to my age... although I'll make an exception if she's an exceptional person.
There's probably a reason why the 'Cougar' archtype is becoming popular with the college boys these days... although I'm an old fart so I don't have any first hand knowledge of it.
Goals + values + interests + honesty + reality check = relationship (I know there are many other things that make a relationship)
Elphaba31, I commend you for your decision not to go further. I made a similar decision a few years back with a girl, there was a big age gap and she was just too young (teens), not mature enough but sooo hot and we had a great connection.
I don't think age is so important but considering you are newly separated there is a possible vulnerability to your decision making. Also at 32 do you want kids ? that clock is ticking if you do. Besides although legal, age does not make a man.
My approach has always been the friends approach, not so exciting but the most honest approach I feel. Oh and with the above example i was stupid to not have remained friends.
I was watching a Dr Phil episode where a early 40's woman was having sexual relations with one of her sons friends *aw its already narly, or jerry springer* & the guy was 17 at the time when she first came onto him. the plotline was would Dr Phil approve of this age gap relationship & have the son understand its all apart of love.
Dr Phil said No.
personally - generally the intial move or motive in a age gap related relationship is a selfish one. but hey you only live once. Let the sin begin! unless they are not legal age.
If the guy is willing to stick it in you and you are ok with it. Who are we to say no?
21 year old guys are willing to stick it in almost anything.
Age is more than a number, it is likely a reflection of maturity, station, responsibility (or lack thereof), etc. Not only that, but age disparities put a burden on a potential relationship because of the predictable negative reactions the couple will get from family, friends, and strangers. That's not to say that May/December relationships are doomed - they just have more pressure and less chance of long-term success.
But is this a question of relationships or just exercising your hole/pole? If it's a relationship, ask yourself the right questions and be honest about it. If it's just sex, crash some High School grad parties, slut out on an AARP cruise, or f*** a goat. Who cares?