I had to let go of the 21 yr old...he was getting too attached and frankly I was tired of teaching.
Right now I am dating two men...yes two men. Call me a whore if you will but I am at my peak and having fun.
One is 23 and wow...what a difference 2 years make. The other is 29. Only 3 years younger than me but far, far better than both. Age is nothing but a number but damn, experience is something that can't be tossed aside. My 29 yr old friend with benefits is amazing. I think late 20's is a perfect age for men!
Not that I am in the dating scene once again,I find younger men gravitating towards me while the men of my own age gravitate to 21 yr olds. I guess the experience factor that we 30 somethings supposedly have is not a selling point amongst my own age group....
Thank god the 20 something men do not care.
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Post by blunthammer on Oct 10, 2008 14:16:25 GMT -5
The laws and perceptions of today are that of only a select group. I mean if we venture outside our "westernized culture" and consider say certain arab or central asian countries there are some pretty extremes.
As long as both people are consulting adults then age is really nothing but a number.
I think Ethel's earlier post brings up the issue of what may be ideal for now, may not be ideal in 20 years time. Though people may be suited for each other today, and form a beautiful unit, there may be life stage differential issues in later life - as one partner gets left behind, since each has to negotiate different goals and obstacles according to the respective phase in life. A 20 year old may link up with a fit, vital, enegetic, charismatic 50 year old, but in 20 years time the couple may be so out of step, there may be irreconcilable difficulties .
Age ain't nothing but a number, totally! I honestly couldn't gravitate around an older woman who is too serious or can't go out staying home to watch TV but if she were outgoing I certainly could. While it's fine when you settled down and have a lot of responsabilities, too much passivity or quiet activities is a waste of time at our age. I've waited far too long to obtain the legal and material freedom to do whatever I please so I'm not going to look for people with the opposite lifestyle.
Regardless of looking like both a suit and a soccer dad during daytime, I hope when night falls I'll party, go out and socialize as much as right now e.g. a lot at the very least until I'm 40, I'll most certainly look like I'm 2X anyways. It's crazy how a significant part of the contingent born in the 70's are way more dynamic and fun than boomers, I see a lot of people well in their 30's putting kids of today to shame!
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