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Post by rob on Feb 14, 2011 11:42:54 GMT -5
I feel like a bit of a necrophiliac posting in all these dead threads, but what the hell..... my two cents: Age shouldn't matter at all in either direction (I was in love with my 55 yr old english teacher when I was 17)......... BUT ...... it would be really nice to die together. so that's a convoluted way of saying "I have no idea".  |
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Post by Szymon Von Zalyn on Feb 20, 2011 6:42:30 GMT -5
I cannot see anything wrong with a younger man being attracted to an older woman ;D At work, a lady called stella has a husband you is 25 years younger than her and they are completely happy  Why is it that no one seems to be that shocked when an 85 year old man marries a 19 year old woman and surprise surprise, he dies of terminal orgasm a year later? When a younger man marries a woman who is old enough to be his grandmother, people often go nut and say it is dirty  I do not think that it is anyone concern how old your spouse ;D |
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Post by TeeHee on Feb 21, 2011 18:50:06 GMT -5
Age shouldn't matter at all in either direction (I was in love with my 55 yr old english teacher when I was 17)......... BUT ...... it would be really nice to die together. That reminds me of Charlie Chaplin's last wife before he died, Oona O'Neill, who was 36 years younger than him. She was 18 and he 54 at the time that they married. Her father, who was his same age, disowned her after the fact. Aside from the 36-year age gap, they reportedly had a happy marriage that lasted 35 years and produced 8 kids. Well not surprisingly, he died before her and as a result of his death, she apparently went into a state of depression and alcoholism before she eventually died herself. It's her prerogative if she wants to marry a much-older man, but with that age gap, she should've been prepared for him to die before her . Anyhow, for me personally, the idea of being romantically involved with a much-older man(more than 10 years older) feels incestuous. Even if they don't necessarily look like my dad or uncle(s), I almost always feel a dad or uncle vibe around much-older men. The oldest guy I ever considered dating(didn't actually date) was 6 years older than me. |
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Post by milkman's baby on Feb 21, 2011 21:10:17 GMT -5
Why is it that no one seems to be that shocked when an 85 year old man marries a 19 year old woman and surprise surprise, he dies of terminal orgasm a year later? When a younger man marries a woman who is old enough to be his grandmother, people often go nut and say it is dirty I think it's just because we've always been used to girls dating men slightly older than them, since girls supposedly mature faster than men. Plus, society expects women to marry men who will provide for them financially and an older man would be able to do that better than a younger man. A younger man with an older woman throws this paradigm off a bit. I've always been a little immature for my age and because of that, I usually end up with men a couple years younger. But I am now at the point, as a recent college grad, where it's awkward when approached by freshman guys (even though a lot of them are probably more mature than I). I'm not gonna lie, I do worry about what others think of me. And I feel kinda lame being a supposedly professional woman involved with a college guy. If a 26 year old business professional or something was dating a 20 year old college girl, people would think that's normal. They would probably just think she's gonna marry him and become a housewife. But for me to be dating a college boy, I think people would laugh. |
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Post by sim on Mar 19, 2011 14:12:17 GMT -5
My parents are 10 years apart, so I have nothing against age gap relationships which don't span an entire generation. I've never thought it was anything odd/they don't look odd together/they never did look odd together. They are very different...but they've worked for 30+ years now.
I also don't think I can be the one to judge if someone is happy with someone who is 20+/- their age...but it's usually obvious if clearly one is not happy and is looking for a bit on the side (usually the younger, very very beautiful lady involved).
While personally I don't think I'd ever go a whole generation gap either way...and that while I think REAL love is a choice....who has the qualities that make you fall in love/then decide to really love them is not something you can necessarily choose. However, likelihood is that this person is going to be someone closer in age to you, than say, someone old enough to be your father/mother.
A life of regrets is never worth living. I think there's always the worry of declining health in the older partner/earlier death etc but it could happen the other way around, so there is no point in worrying about the future.
So..errr...I think generally I think age is nothing but a number but then not quite.
I'm going to try to go back to sleep now.
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Post by sim on Mar 19, 2011 14:16:54 GMT -5
Why is it that no one seems to be that shocked when an 85 year old man marries a 19 year old woman and surprise surprise, he dies of terminal orgasm a year later? When a younger man marries a woman who is old enough to be his grandmother, people often go nut and say it is dirty I think it's just because we've always been used to girls dating men slightly older than them, since girls supposedly mature faster than men. Plus, society expects women to marry men who will provide for them financially and an older man would be able to do that better than a younger man. A younger man with an older woman throws this paradigm off a bit. I've always been a little immature for my age and because of that, I usually end up with men a couple years younger. But I am now at the point, as a recent college grad, where it's awkward when approached by freshman guys (even though a lot of them are probably more mature than I). I'm not gonna lie, I do worry about what others think of me. And I feel kinda lame being a supposedly professional woman involved with a college guy. If a 26 year old business professional or something was dating a 20 year old college girl, people would think that's normal. They would probably just think she's gonna marry him and become a housewife. But for me to be dating a college boy, I think people would laugh. I understand what you're saying. I graduated from University when I was 20...and was working when I was 20 in a graduate role. I didn't have much in common with most 20 year old guys and did actually date older for a few years- but only because that was just what I came across/most friends are older etc and I couldn't stay out 'party every night' with zero consequence like a guy at uni could. I then fell for a guy who was 2 years younger than me (and still going through school!) so it does happen and you do find things in common with people to the degree it's like hth what other people think....or should I say- what YOU think you should be doing. |
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Post by palavore on Mar 20, 2011 2:36:58 GMT -5
When men view a woman's age as nothing but a number:
Men are more comfortable around women who are either ugly, very poor, or old. They are the least anti-social among females and so have their charms. That isn't to say that young attractive middle class women can't be social, but they too often compromise their charms when they imitate men.
I've fallen in love with married women much older than me. It's a different kind of feeling to love a woman older than you. It's not the kind of lust you get from staring at a magazine covers--the kind of that young women try to elicit with clothes and makeup. And still that love is not entirely devoid of lust. There is a physical attraction, but this sexuality is more communication than self satisfaction. What I can't say with words, she should feel through my touch. You think of them as someone special. You can't file them away in your mind then pull their folder when you want something from them. I believe that most women want to be loved in this way--at least on the conscious level. And if they think age prevents them from eliciting these romantic feelings from men, they've yet to become a woman!
To a real woman, age is nothing but a number. To a young woman, a dwindling asset. To an immature woman, her vanity.
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Post by helloagain on Apr 4, 2011 19:41:57 GMT -5
I have found this not to be true, unfortunately. I will never, ever go younger.
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Post by donger on Jun 11, 2011 12:54:53 GMT -5
I'm 52 but my Asian blood makes me look younger--no wrinkles or creases, slightly graying but my hair is still mostly jet black, no jowls or paunch, no moobs. So I can still attract much younger females than a lot of guys my age. Not that I chase after college girls or anything. But my mother always says the Asian blood keeps you younger longer. I view it as having the last laugh--so if you can get em younger, more power to you.
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Post by TeeHee on Feb 18, 2012 20:37:56 GMT -5
I'm 52 but my Asian blood makes me look younger--no wrinkles or creases, slightly graying but my hair is still mostly jet black, no jowls or paunch, no moobs. So I can still attract much younger females than a lot of guys my age. Not that I chase after college girls or anything. But my mother always says the Asian blood keeps you younger longer. I view it as having the last laugh--so if you can get em younger, more power to you. I've found that as I get older, I have been embracing my Asian genes more for this same reason. Not that I was ashamed of it, but years ago, I'd have some white folks saying/doing things to put me down or try making me feel inferior for not being full white. Fast forward to now that I'm in my late 20's, they have visibly aged while I still look and feel like I did when I was in my late teens and early 20's. My fiance is 5 years younger than me, and no one would have ever guessed that without us informing them of that; if anything, they think he is the older one. I've definitely got the last laugh, and I'm lovin' it. |
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Post by aliceinplunderland on Jun 17, 2012 21:20:08 GMT -5
It's same with me ,and thx to my asian genes again ,i look ten years younger than my peers ,because i m also childish and funloving ,my clothing style is all colorful ,esp bright flashy colors -makes me feel energetic- i listen noisy music ..(give u a secret -ADHD) ..So if i looked mature i would be in a big trouble ..it would look weird
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