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Post by Paddy on Dec 4, 2008 19:49:24 GMT -5
That your partner has an attractive personality is a given. Everyone wants to be with someone they get along with. But...would you date them/marry them if they weren't especially physically attractive,...or worse, if you were actively unattracted to them?
Edit: Guys answer in the Guys section. Girls answer in the Girls section!
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Post by straylight on Dec 4, 2008 20:01:01 GMT -5
nope. physicality is important. it's just as much a part of reality as everything else.
that said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. not everyone i consider attractive holds up to popular beauty standards.
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 4, 2008 20:06:05 GMT -5
I found myself infactuated quite a few times by women who aren't exactly the most stunning women you'll meet. So it's possible for this to happen.
Nonetheless though, I guess I'm rather superficial in a way as I would not date a woman who is obese. Facial features can't be helped, but obesity sure can!
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Post by Roam'n on Dec 5, 2008 0:22:58 GMT -5
eh given a choice... most people go for someone cute.... but if she's got an ugly or brainless attitude, then she's ugly.
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Post by halfbreed on Dec 5, 2008 4:38:01 GMT -5
Maybe not if I wanted to have kids.. >_>
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 5, 2008 4:40:50 GMT -5
^ Hahaha
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Post by Paddy on Dec 5, 2008 6:00:13 GMT -5
So...a beautiful personality renders that person's looks less important, and they can become more attractive to you, even physically.
But what happens when their charm wears off...?
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Post by Yoomy on Dec 5, 2008 17:48:16 GMT -5
but what about if you are friends and you never looked at them as being nice looking..and then you start to fancy them because of how they are as a person? Isn't this quite a common case? like when you do end up thinking that everything about them is fantastic?
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Post by quiapo on Dec 5, 2008 18:24:42 GMT -5
The situation of Prince Charles, Lady Di, and Camilla comes to mind here.
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Post by Paddy on Dec 5, 2008 19:43:41 GMT -5
The situation of Prince Charles, Lady Di, and Camilla comes to mind here. Ask Tampon Patrol about this one. I went out with a couple of girls with whom I'd been friends for a long time. As our friendship got closer, I found myself increasingly attracted to them. When I broke up with them , I found myself having to admit that actually I didn't find them physically attractive. When I found I was less interested in sex, at first I didn't know if it was because the sex was stale, or if there was another reason. It actually took a lot to be honest with myself and admit that I was unattracted to them. There were other reasons why I was uncontent in these relationships, and attraction and sex were on the list. I have never been especially pro-active in the dating game, but after I came to this realisation, I decided to stay romantically aloof from girls whose personalities attracted me more than their looks.
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Post by Paddy on Dec 17, 2008 11:45:34 GMT -5
Hmmm...hedge betting.
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Post by Roam'n on Dec 17, 2008 14:02:14 GMT -5
. They're not necessarily opposed to long term relationships or settling down but ...There just might be someone else much better! ... I've found that it's mostly impulsive personalities that do this. People like that make for interesting friends.. but I avoid getting involved with them for anything deeper then that. I mean they don't actively think this way.. when presented the opportunities they choose what's appealing for the moment. It works for them so long as they're still appealing (the girl is still cute or the guy still has some notoriety). When it doesn't work anymore, she 'settles down' and becomes a bored housewife or lives alone with a bunch of cats.. If he's got the notoriety... it doesn't matter as much (see pics of jack nicholeson on his boat with a bunch a bikini clad girls)
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Post by swinger on Dec 17, 2008 14:22:25 GMT -5
not exactly on topic, but i think too much insecurity shows itself around good looks. men and women get a little villainized sometimes if they have it. like they're players or snobby bitches or something. when the opposite is usually the case. lots of hot women out there sitting home alone. lot of nice guys with brains who are good looking. Some people blame their own lack off success and happiness on other people's good looks and snobbery, but that to me is the definition of a loser. As far as the (nice) hot woman sitting home and lonely - I'd say she's the exception, not the rule.
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 17, 2008 14:24:05 GMT -5
@stray Pretty much, that's why I persist in maintaining my standards of looks. Never steered me wrong. It's superficial? Pffft, that's just how culture tries to balance things up so that the lesser good looking folk can actually have a chance! A chance I don't give 'em cause I AM a snob
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Post by Soren on Dec 20, 2008 11:38:16 GMT -5
I once read that ugly deers tend to have pretty baby deers and vice versa
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