|
Post by Subuatai on Mar 3, 2009 4:57:49 GMT -5
Heh not to mention the sheer quantity of drop dead gorgeous single ladies out there who most guys are too intimidated to get near. While the ones not-intimidated, don't generally treat em well. Good-lookers tend to trigger insecurity with their dates which may even evolve to clinginess, possessiveness, and outrageous jealous fits. Makes you wonder why should any man get married when those ladies need real love too
|
|
Fiona
Junior Member
Posts: 124
|
Post by Fiona on Mar 3, 2009 8:02:43 GMT -5
^Man that makes me glad I look the way I do! Of course I want a hot guy, but sadly I think that a big part of that want is because I want other people to approve of him. (I'm 18 okay?!) EXAMPLE: There is this guy at work I quite sure is interested. When I first met him I didn't find him good looking at all, yet slightly attractive. Now that I've gotten to know him I find him very attractive! (We get on well), but I still find myself not fully committed to pursue it-and I THINK that's because I'm afraid of what others will think! Man I hate that about myself. I actually feel embarrassed to admit that.
|
|
|
Post by Subuatai on Mar 3, 2009 8:40:31 GMT -5
Heh I believe the majority of people young or elder, all want others to approve of their dates before they get involved
|
|
|
Post by Subuatai on Mar 3, 2009 16:49:42 GMT -5
Heh the worse that can happen is a "What the hell is she doing with him?" comment being circulated around the social circle. It's not too bad, and if confronted it can be easily replied with "Mind your own f-----g business"
|
|
|
Post by admin on Mar 4, 2009 0:33:23 GMT -5
|
|
celltocell
Full Member
get your blood moving
Posts: 218
|
Post by celltocell on Mar 7, 2009 2:18:39 GMT -5
i think we've all been there, well i have at least; being attracted to someone who is well, not generally considered attractive. 6th grade, i had a huge crush on this boy named elie. he had the biggest nose i have ever seen but he was really arrogant yet witty / ridiculously funny. and i really was drawn to that, figures. anyway he wasn't cute at all. i just liked smartmouths when i was a kid. and the best part of all was that i knew he liked me since his best friend ricky kinda screamed "ELIE THINKS YOURE HOT" at me while I was walking up the staircase. What's strange is that we were always kinda mean to eachother.... all that tension! ^Man that makes me glad I look the way I do! Of course I want a hot guy, but sadly I think that a big part of that want is because I want other people to approve of him. (I'm 18 okay?!) EXAMPLE: There is this guy at work I quite sure is interested. When I first met him I didn't find him good looking at all, yet slightly attractive. Now that I've gotten to know him I find him very attractive! (We get on well), but I still find myself not fully committed to pursue it-and I THINK that's because I'm afraid of what others will think! Man I hate that about myself. I actually feel embarrassed to admit that.
|
|
Fiona
Junior Member
Posts: 124
|
Post by Fiona on Mar 7, 2009 4:15:15 GMT -5
Naw thanks for the advice. Glad I'm not the only one that feels that way sometimes. I've decided to continue to flirt and make him make the next move. Btw the age old question: do guys like it when girls ask guys out? Flirt first? Or are guys still mostly traditional? (imagine if i was a fat unattractive slob and i just wasnt attracted to guys just as unattractive as me.) ^ bahaha. Young young love. I miss playground romance. So much easier when you could hear from you best friend's friend's friend's heard his best friends said that the cute boy said he thought you were pretty.
|
|
|
Post by LaFace on Mar 7, 2009 5:35:15 GMT -5
Btw the age old question: do guys like it when girls ask guys out? Flirt first? Or are guys still mostly traditional? Flirt first? If girls flirt first then that's fine, because it's a sign that she likes you, and guys need signs (whether initiated or in response) in order to make bigger moves. How you flirt though can determine whether you are un/attractive though (eg innocent/friendly vs slutty type), however this depends on the individual personality you are dealing with. Girl asking guy out? If you reckon the guy likes you, then to be honest, I'm pretty sure the absolute majority of guys would actually like seeing the girl ask him out. Personally, because I like having control over these types of things, I'd rather do the asking out, and this doesn't really have much to do with 'tradition'. However, I'd say I'm in the minority here in terms of wanting to be the one doing the asking out (keep in mind there is a difference between wanting and liking a girl to do the asking out). I think most guys wouldn't be fussed either way, although if he's shy then certainly he would probably prefer the girl to ask him out.
|
|
|
Post by jenbrook on Apr 1, 2009 22:56:37 GMT -5
Does anyone appreciate a bit of chubb on their partner?? I do and i dont know why i'm posting this in this particular thread, maybe its because some people find it unattractive.. But i dont! I think its perfectly huggable.
|
|
|
Post by palaver on Apr 2, 2009 10:25:04 GMT -5
Btw the age old question: do guys like it when girls ask guys out? Flirt first? Or are guys still mostly traditional? It's almost scientifically proven that the females in our species signal the first nonverbal cues. The male will often try to confirm her interest verbally. Of course, guys value women that value their sexuality--not that flirting guarantees anything--but it might allow him to form a perception. Flirtation is an indication of where a women is in her reproductive cycle and during ovulation they will pick short term partners. Thus a male partnering with a flirtatious female will expect only to be around for the short duration. Men are biologically driven to fill differing roles in the female reproductive cycle which range between the caregiver and the impregnator. To approach a man, a female might have to tailor their advances to his intended purpose. [Note: Every behavior/role is useful and infidelity is natural.] But personally, I'm a pretty conservative fella. Love is optional, security is genuine. I'll probably marry at the approval of my grandparents--the age old matchmakers in my family. Yes, I was intended by both families to be a mixed child. I don't know about traditional guys. The sexual landscape is always shifting. Here's the perspective of a third-wave feminist, Naomi Wolf: nymag.com/nymetro/news/trends/n_9437/But the effect is not making men into raving beasts. On the contrary: The onslaught of porn is responsible for deadening male libido in relation to real women, and leading men to see fewer and fewer women as “porn-worthy.” Far from having to fend off porn-crazed young men, young women are worrying that as mere flesh and blood, they can scarcely get, let alone hold, their attention.
Here is what young women tell me on college campuses when the subject comes up: They can’t compete, and they know it. For how can a real woman—with pores and her own breasts and even sexual needs of her own (let alone with speech that goes beyond “More, more, you big stud!”)—possibly compete with a cybervision of perfection, downloadable and extinguishable at will, who comes, so to speak, utterly submissive and tailored to the consumer’s least specification?
[...]
So Dworkin was right that pornography is compulsive, but she was wrong in thinking it would make men more rapacious. A whole generation of men are less able to connect erotically to women—and ultimately less libidinous.
|
|
|
Post by Subuatai on Apr 14, 2009 4:17:18 GMT -5
Does anyone appreciate a bit of chubb on their partner?? I do and i dont know why i'm posting this in this particular thread, maybe its because some people find it unattractive.. But i dont! I think its perfectly huggable. Some meat on the bones is great, I can't stand skinny little hags myself. Besides... I like to bite
|
|
fei
Full Member
Posts: 274
|
Post by fei on May 11, 2009 17:22:25 GMT -5
Does anyone appreciate a bit of chubb on their partner?? I do and i dont know why i'm posting this in this particular thread, maybe its because some people find it unattractive.. But i dont! I think its perfectly huggable. Some meat on the bones is great, I can't stand skinny little hags myself. Besides... I like to bite Wanna Take a Bite At This Big Boy??? [i mg][/img]
|
|
|
Post by Subuatai on May 11, 2009 22:47:46 GMT -5
ROFL!!!
|
|
celltocell
Full Member
get your blood moving
Posts: 218
|
Post by celltocell on May 12, 2009 2:04:31 GMT -5
that's just dangerous, fei....dangerous. you could kill yourself sleeping with someone that size.
|
|
fei
Full Member
Posts: 274
|
Post by fei on May 13, 2009 1:14:40 GMT -5
that's just dangerous, fei....dangerous. you could kill yourself sleeping with someone that size. It "love"baby,.. and love is pain!!!
|
|