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Post by Subuatai on Jan 5, 2009 8:59:59 GMT -5
I'm probably the most self-centered person I know, have to look out for number one Besides when number one is well looked after, I can be more generous to number twos and threes and so on etc... "Charity starts at home" as the saying goes
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Post by mingzayni88 on Jan 16, 2009 13:14:21 GMT -5
I usually put my family and friends first until it starts to take a toll on me, then I have to just think about myself for awhile for my own sanity and wellbeing.
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Post by halfbreed on Jan 23, 2009 6:07:36 GMT -5
Yes, I am. I only help others to make myself feel good.
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Post by Fiona on Jan 23, 2009 8:14:44 GMT -5
Yes I am. I try not to be. But I think I'm a nice person.. I think its more to do with my family being less selfish towards me, rather than me being selfish to them. If that makes sense?
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Post by xandra on Jan 23, 2009 23:51:14 GMT -5
I'm at the stage of my life where I feel like I have to focus on myself more and do not feel obligated to do everything that my parents want me to do (my dad seems to think I should move back in with my mom! seriously). The way I see it, the happier and healthier I am, the better position I'm in to help them. My parents may not always like my choices, but then again, my doing what they want me to do doesn't always make things better, either.
But thankfully my own needs and my family's needs aren't really mutually exclusive, so nothing that I'm doing really goes against my family.
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Post by rob on Jan 24, 2009 1:44:58 GMT -5
I'm stupid, but not selfish.
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Post by terce on Jan 24, 2009 22:55:10 GMT -5
i'm selfish. i love my family and i'll do things to make them happy, but not at the expense of my happiness...
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Post by varietyii on Jan 28, 2009 23:34:19 GMT -5
I'm selfish in the way that I pay a lot of attention to myself. I focus on how I can improve, set better goals, and gain a better understanding of myself. I am constantly focusing on my decisions, my philosophy, and what I need to do in life. And its not just the deep things that I focus on. I do focus on things like my living arrangements, what I eat, my entertainment maybe a lot. I probably do this too much. However, I am not selfish when it comes to treating other people and realizing my obligations to things beyond myself. I try not to ignore my responsibility to my family, friends, and society. I try not to hurt, injure, or take advantage of other people. However, I am far from perfect in this area. By the way, if I'm being unclear, tell me. Now. Send a PM to me, making sure to include lots of emoticons.
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Post by halfbreed on Jan 29, 2009 11:52:51 GMT -5
What is it to be selfish, btw?
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Post by betahat on Jan 29, 2009 12:39:49 GMT -5
Always taking the bigger slice of the cake for yourself.
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Post by halfbreed on Jan 29, 2009 12:42:22 GMT -5
^ Why is that a bad thing?
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Post by helles on Jan 29, 2009 22:01:06 GMT -5
I'm at the stage of my life where I feel like I have to focus on myself more and do not feel obligated to do everything that my parents want me to do (my dad seems to think I should move back in with my mom! seriously). The way I see it, the happier and healthier I am, the better position I'm in to help them. My parents may not always like my choices, but then again, my doing what they want me to do doesn't always make things better, either. yes! same for me. i'm really enjoying my me time; single time and friends time, but at the same time i feel the family obligation and try to set aside time for them, moreso that i think a lot of people do. but its all about trying to balance and keep everyone, including myself happy. and my mum keeps trying to talk her way into either my sister or me to move home and live with her...
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Post by xandra on Jan 29, 2009 22:20:07 GMT -5
Oy... sounds like a disaster in the making, Helen! When my parents try to guilt me into doing something I just have to think about what they were doing when they were my age. They had both left their respective continents, gotten married and moved to Canada far, far away from their families. So I just make sure to make them happy in within reason. Mostly my mom just wants me to clean up my old bedroom, which uh.. yeah, I need to do that. And my dad wants me to move back in with my mom. Mind boggling, that one.
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Post by palaver on Jan 30, 2009 23:58:07 GMT -5
If you didn't put the needs of the family first, you wouldn't have a family. Or that's the threat if they are leveraging obligations on your poor selfish spirit.
Expensive presents on the other hand...
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Post by EA Observer on Jan 31, 2009 12:22:34 GMT -5
It's all about the selfish gene and evolution.
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