Post by bamina on May 22, 2011 22:14:08 GMT -5
I had tried several times to join Eurasian discussion boards in the past, and always seemed to loose interest over time. It seemed that I just did not share a lot of with many of the members.
There is a very popular board (sponsored by a major magazine) that I discontinued years back after mountains of disrespect and insults that I just never cared to continue with.
My mixed ancestry included an Asian academic father, who immigrated in the late 1950's. He had come from a fairly aristocratic family, but never really lived his life here with any pretension from that. He married a German-American (interestingly each was the first to marry someone outside of their group) from a fairly conservative background. They were/are both unabashed progressives.
Many of the other mixed-race Asian Americans I met on the boards were from extremely conservative (which is okay) mindsets, but were very intolerant of any ideas they did not share.
Many came from families where the father had been in the military, (many times from very closed mindset laces) and had married a 'traditional' girl (which was often coded for 'knew her place.') Some of the viewpoints they spouted were downright misogynistic.
I don't mean to imply that this was everyone of mixed race with a military father. I also met several who were great.
I just got tired (and there were a few in particular) who were loud, slamming/insulting, and intolerant. I couldn't believe some of the truly hateful stuff that spilled out. One would even complain incessantly about his Asain mother...almost could read a sense of shame he had.
I wonder if the circumstances that your parents meet have more bearing over whether one or the other is Asian.
There is a very popular board (sponsored by a major magazine) that I discontinued years back after mountains of disrespect and insults that I just never cared to continue with.
My mixed ancestry included an Asian academic father, who immigrated in the late 1950's. He had come from a fairly aristocratic family, but never really lived his life here with any pretension from that. He married a German-American (interestingly each was the first to marry someone outside of their group) from a fairly conservative background. They were/are both unabashed progressives.
Many of the other mixed-race Asian Americans I met on the boards were from extremely conservative (which is okay) mindsets, but were very intolerant of any ideas they did not share.
Many came from families where the father had been in the military, (many times from very closed mindset laces) and had married a 'traditional' girl (which was often coded for 'knew her place.') Some of the viewpoints they spouted were downright misogynistic.
I don't mean to imply that this was everyone of mixed race with a military father. I also met several who were great.
I just got tired (and there were a few in particular) who were loud, slamming/insulting, and intolerant. I couldn't believe some of the truly hateful stuff that spilled out. One would even complain incessantly about his Asain mother...almost could read a sense of shame he had.
I wonder if the circumstances that your parents meet have more bearing over whether one or the other is Asian.
