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Post by milkman's baby on Sept 20, 2010 14:19:59 GMT -5
I'm Half French/Chinese + others, dated a French/Korean.... She once said "Wow, we're so mixed, if we had kids, they might look reeeally messed up...." Romance flew out the window..... *rolls eyes* You should've said, "But honey, with that face, your kids will look messed up regardless of who the father is." Kidding.
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Post by milkman's baby on Sept 17, 2010 8:09:49 GMT -5
Those of you with the hyphenated surnames - did your parents decide on that when you were born, or did they divorce later and do that, or did you elect to do that on your own? I am seriously seeking to add my mother's maiden on to mine soon but my parents are firmly against it.
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Post by milkman's baby on Sept 15, 2010 21:54:46 GMT -5
this thread reminds me why deaf people should be sterilized Sign language is still a step ahead of the Iraqi and the American who can't convey a damn word to each other.
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Post by milkman's baby on Sept 13, 2010 18:46:06 GMT -5
Sande could be anything from Spanish to German to some butchered English name. That's very standard in sound.
I guess one thing that's good about having my English surname as opposed to any other European name is that English names have been applied to so many non-whites. Black people have them, many Amerindians have them, and immigrants of all sorts sometimes change their surnames to an English one thinking it will help them assimilate. So it's not too much of a shock to most Americans to see a dark eyed person with a WASPy name. Most people out here don't even pay attention to people's last names anyway. Most of the embarrassing questions I've received have been in Europe.
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Post by milkman's baby on Sept 12, 2010 11:19:18 GMT -5
Well I don't know if this is considered to be part of the "Donna Chang effect"...but anyways.. The usual UPS guy was on vacation so this new Asian (he could be Chinese...) guy came. I have a double hyphenated last name (first part is the white part, second part is the chinese, but then again the white last name CAN sound like an anglicized version of a chinese last name lol.) Today he came again to deliver one package. So the guy suddenly asked me if I speak Chinese (in a very obvious Asian accent). I said I spoke a little. So he was like "I thought you were fully Chinese" *chuckle chuckle* I'm not sure if he meant that I look full Chinese or he was expecting a full Chinese person to answer the door since everytime he delivers my stuff and leaves an Infonotice, he always neglects to write the white part of my last name. He always just puts the Chinese part even before he met me and knew what I look like and wow...the white part of my last name isn't even long. Then again...yesterday (which was the first time I met him)..he said he thought I just got married. Haha I frequently get mistaken for Filipino from other Asians because my first name is Spanish. "Figured an Asian-looking person with a Spanish name must be Filipino." Finnish people often have names that sound similar to Japanese names. There was a Finnish exchange student at my school named Mikko. People often expected to see a short Japanese girl when they heard that name and instead it's this tall husky blond guy.
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 26, 2010 22:42:53 GMT -5
I don't know if SE Asians have it any worse than NE Asians. All these lightening creams and bleaching crap is sold outta China, SK, and Japan, so clearly people out there have their brain hung up on this crap too. While I'd like to say it's not any different or more harmless than these white chicks that go tanning, the fact is it does differ. There is a deeper history to Asians' desire to be light than white people's longing for tan skin. I've never heard of white people discriminating and looking down on another white person for being pale. Tanning, although people have made it so fake today, has always been natural by working hard outside and staying in the sun. But there has never been a healthy, natural, and effective way to lighten skin. I try not to always accuse Asian girls of wanting to look white but I've gotta admit, it's hard for me not to think that there isn't an inferiority complex present when these girls get eyelid surgery and invest in this skin bleaching junk. I have no problems with taking measures for your own vanity to satisfy yourself, but when you are mutilating your body like that you have other things that need to be fixed (not physical). generally, not generalize, but people who generally use skin lighting skin are from lower socioeconomic and with a darker tan. South East Asia has it just as bad, ifnot even worse, their complexes is even larger. In south east countries e.g. Philppines it's not just about been light skinned, but there is also a deep complex merely being light skin. But they are also trying to achieve to be Cauasian, this is so set deep into their mentality that it has turned into an ideology. Their "goal" is to wipe/hide their asian heritage, this is another level in what they strive to achieve. What Philppines idealize is to be Caucasian looking but with a "filipino" culture. This is just one of the common mentality in the Philppines but of course it doesn't apply to everyone, but it's a inferior complex that has been passed down for generation. So that is pretty missed up. Not saying all filipinos don't have pride, but alot of filipinos have what has been termed "blind pride". What they say always contridicts with their prideful comments in being Filipino....funny, it's always seems to be double standard to everything they say. This is just an example. NE Asians have another level of inferiority complex, but I'll write about that another time. I agree that all of those elements exist but I still think the NE Asians have it just as badly and the same type of complex. It's an epidemic that's been in all of Asia for quite some time. No other race has an inferiority complex quite to the disturbing point that Asians do. I hate to say it, but it kinda makes me ashamed to be half Asian. I don't want to be associated with people like that. I've already had people comment on how they're surprised I don't wear loads of makeup and bleach my hair like "most Asian girls."
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 26, 2010 22:29:13 GMT -5
yeah but are you sure it's really a SHE. you know how they do it out there in thailand. it never gets old, does it I personally love ladyboys and I would love to have one as a best friend.
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 25, 2010 11:19:23 GMT -5
yeah but are you sure it's really a SHE. you know how they do it out there in thailand.
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 22, 2010 20:33:43 GMT -5
Furthermore, I am curious to know whether you think there is a difference between the type of love that you shared with your mother as a child and the type of love that you share with a girlfriend/bf, wife/husband? Is the latter just the same type of love except additionally including lust & sex?
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 22, 2010 20:27:49 GMT -5
Still, you haven't responded to idea that humans are capable of displaying intense emotions and commitment to all sorts of objects, animals, and activities. To be requited verbally isn't required to kindle human passions. The men most successful in "love" seem put off the least by words and the resistance they sometimes put up. Perhaps this is a whole other topic, but what is love? Define it. The easy way out of this question would be to simply label love as a neurochemical con. I say love is not an emotion within itself, but rather it contains and causes emotions. Love is a concept and a relationship. In some sense, love is a philosophy. The love that you share with a non-family member that involves sexual attraction is a love that you must know is in possession. But to keep commitment and a genuine bond that is required of love you must be able to speak with the person to express not just your emotions but your ideas, the ways of your lifestyle, and your knowledge. I also do not think everyone is capable of loving in this sense, whether they are able to speak someone else's language or not. Despite how different a lover may be, there must be some common ground. And the ability to speak to the person should be by default the first step in common ground.
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 22, 2010 5:54:45 GMT -5
The problem is actually opposite for me. I'll exchange enticing glances with someone. They look kinda nice. They give off a nice aura. Then they open their mouth (and speak) and I lose all interest. Language is such a turn off for me... Well I'd say a good 3/4 of humans I meet on this planet I would prefer to not hear speak. But if there's only supposed to be one soulmate for me, I guess it wouldn't matter by my logic of love would it. Language is deceitful in the bounds of formality and protocol. This becomes more visible in cultures where the notion of tact is stressed, and hence the true thoughts and ideas of the individual are not really sent through the mouth or they are worded and interpreted too differently from the second individual. Nevertheless, the original premise behind language and speech was to convey ideas and thoughts to make lifestyles and community living easier. So in a sense, I am trying to say that today we have butchered this premise of language by adding both official and unofficial rules and regulations of what is fair game and what is faux pas. How can you find love if the significant other never gave any verbal indication of loving you? I can see how body language and all the smirks and flirtatious giggling would have done the job some centuries ago when such behavior was only acceptable between a man and woman with love interest. But today, body language, despite claims that it makes up 90% of our communication, is so immensely misconstrued and confusing that I would not see how two individuals from two different cultures could get a clue as to whether they both love each other. There are relationships that were brought on by force of nature, such as the mother and her child. These are forged relationships that are built in with maternal instincts and an applicable living situation. But a complete stranger - one who might even look very different from you and carry a different set of mannerisms and body language because of cultural differences - it would be an uncertain situation at the most. There are sexual relationships which can certainly arise without verbal communication. But love - love is a concept that must be blatantly brought up between the two individuals for confirmation and direction. And the only way I know to bring that up is by verbal communication.
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 21, 2010 19:38:52 GMT -5
Hold your horses before you think I'm gonna gush about lovey dovey fairytales.
I was speaking with a friend who told me about her sister. Her sister did some internship in Switzerland. In Switzerland, she met a man from Iraq who spoke not a word of English or any European language for that matter. Just Arabic. How someone can function in a country without knowing any part of the language always baffled me. But anyway, they apparently "fell in love." I asked my friend how that was possible, if they couldn't verbally communicate. She says they used a lot of body language. I still say it's not possible. If it was they claimed, wouldn't this be lust and not love? Because the entire relationship would be based off physical appearance. How would they really get a glimpse of each other's personality?
What I'm really asking here is, do we need verbal communication to love someone?
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 21, 2010 12:01:55 GMT -5
(real life Donna Chang x 2) NFL Linebacker Scott Fujita is Caucasian, adopted by a Japanese Father and Caucasian Mother. He married a Caucasian lady and their twin daughters are little Fujitas. Wasn't there a movie called The Jerks or something where a black couple adopts a white boy? I think that's always the big shocker for people. To see ethnic minorities holding white babies. And they aren't just nannies? No way.
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 21, 2010 11:57:15 GMT -5
I've had this problem, except the other way around. I often get denied of my white heritage. It's actually been kinda embarrassing for me to introduce people to my white father, because they are sometimes surprised. I have an English surname and many people just assumed I was adopted. That really used to piss me off but I got over it. This is part of the reason I've been seeking to add my mother's maiden name to mine to make it hyphenated.
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Post by milkman's baby on Aug 19, 2010 2:55:59 GMT -5
Yeah, I know... but in the sexual partners thing, I guess Latin America is like another region. Our family relationships are more conservative and well... and I guess, like everywhere else, socioeconomical factors are involved quite deep into this matter... just my guess. As a friend told me so eloquently: "Rich people copulate less than poor people, but when they do they take off more clothes." XD Well of course the poor people aren't going to take off their clothes, because then that would give them a reason to put on a condom. And why would they do that, when they know my paycheck will supply them and their eight kids with milk and cheese and a plasma screen TV after that nice tax note I see on my paystub?
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