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Post by jefe on Jun 20, 2004 4:43:40 GMT -5
Good grief, Anima's surpassed me and he's only been here for 2 months while I've been a member for 2 years. Omg! I noticed. In just 4 weeks, he rose from obscurity to become a near deity. I also joined the first day this new forum started and it has taken me 1 1/2 years to get here. But I average only 12-15 posts per week. AE does about that many in an hour.
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Post by jefe on Dec 29, 2005 8:46:42 GMT -5
He certainly does look tough now.
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Post by jefe on Nov 6, 2003 6:17:08 GMT -5
Seriously!! Several of my friends and acquaintences are gay, and I tell you--some of them are just incredibly gorgeous. But when you hang out with them and find that some of them are more feminine than you are, it kind of forces you back to reality...*sigh* Some of them can also be very "straight-acting" or macho-ish, perhaps for their work or just for their style. Some enjoy the fact that they can attract women. Do they create even greater frustration? Or do you hope that they will do something to turn you off to relieve you of your torture?
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Post by jefe on Dec 16, 2007 14:10:35 GMT -5
Me and my grandparents -- let me remember this.
Maternal grandparents -- Anniston, Alabama Problems were more cultural than linguistic -- eg, segregation attitudes. Only had occasional linguistic problems -- they use many terms local to the central South that are not immediately understood elsewhere. For example, they called milk "sweet milk" to distinguish it from Butter milk. They get water from the spigot and ate ambrosia with their fried catfish and okra. At night, we would read the Bible.
Paternal Grandparents My grandfather spoke ONLY Toishan dialect of Chinese. Albeit illiterate, my grandmother was a native Cantonese speaker, but also learned Toishan dialect as she lived there with my grandfather before immigrating to the USA.
My grandfather died before my 5th birthday, but I seem to recall that I understood what he said to me at that time. Indeed, I still understand Toishan dialect only at an age 4 level -- I would like to learn my native dialect better at some time.
My grandmother died before my 13th birthday. I only started to learn Cantonese at age 6, and only a few words -- I dropped out of Chinese school and did not resume again until age 15 in High School with Mandarin. I did not improve my Cantonese to a conversational level until university. So I ended up communicating with my grandmother in a hodgepodge of 90% broken English with an occasional Toishan work thrown in. Nevertheless, that woman is the one who gave me the most affection that I have ever experienced. Maybe some communication simply does not require words.
I wish they could have lived long enough until my Chinese was good enough to communicate with them.
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Post by jefe on Sept 9, 2007 8:22:52 GMT -5
Maybe 'cause she might reproduce whereas he won't? Sorry, but he did reproduce -- How did he end up with a daughter?
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Post by jefe on Jul 27, 2007 9:47:13 GMT -5
I would not say it is more Asian or more white look, but some changes -- I think that the skin tone drops -- for some people, their face gets more gaunt, for others it gets more puffy.
One thing for sure, your skin gets thinner and you lose colour -- both hair and skin.
I think that the transformation was most major from birth to age 21. About the same people mistake for different things as they did when I was half my age. However, I moved from the USA to Asia -- so, on a daily basis, I will run into Asians who say I look "foreign" looking -- in HK the first choices are British or Portuguese (but still get a significant percentage that say I look Asian looking -- I really have no way to predict how people will react). Still, when I meet white Americans NOW, 70-80% refuse to believe that I am American -- about the same percentage as when I was half my age.
So, I get a slightly higher proportion of people saying that I look more Euro looking, but it might be simply because I am in Asia and not in America. In America, I get more people mistake me for Hispanic than in Asia, maybe because most Asians are not accustomed to dividing people into "Hispanic".
2 years ago, someone in HK came up to me and spoke in Spanish. Freaked me out at first. The guy turned out to be from Venezuela and could not speak English or Chinese. I tried my best to help him. My colleagues teased me "he thought he ran into a fellow countryman".
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Post by jefe on Jan 30, 2007 21:24:32 GMT -5
AM/WF After separating / getting back together / splitting up / getting back together / splitting up, etc. several times, they FINALLY signed the final divorce papers when I was AGE 29!
I was called as a witness for their court appearance -- not fun.
For them, it was not a an issue of reverting back to their ethnic roots. I think that segregation and discrimination put severe pressure on the relationship -- both breaking it apart and also forcing it to remain together at the same time. For example,
- my father would be victimized at work by whites, and then come home and hit my mother - my mother's parents (in segregated Alabama) would not take her in with her mixed baby (yours truly) in tow (FYI, I was born just at the time during the George Wallace's reign and the attacks on the freedom riders), ETC.
They could not live together, nor could they split up either. Eventually, they did it immediately after my brother graduated from university. This is indeed a story of a couple staying together for the kids -- but it has had a psychological toll on us. My brother and I cannot even talk to each other.
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Post by jefe on Sept 6, 2004 8:37:50 GMT -5
It must be genetically possible. I have a full Japanese father with brown eyes and a caucasian mother with blue eyes. My sister has green eyes too. It most certainly is possible. In fact, I have seen some persons, both parents "FULL ASIAN" yet have hazel, green, grey, even blue eyes. "BUT THAT'S NOT POSSIBLE" you say. Genes for light colored eyes are spread throughout Asia, esp. north Asia, in small amounts - say one in 100 (it is probably more frequent). The odds of it coming together with another brown-eyed carrier of light eye genes. would be 1 / 100 X 1/ 100 or 1 in 10,000. Now that they have come together, the more recessive light eye genes must also come together -- maybe 1 in 4 chance. So, given that 1 in 100 brown-eyed individuals carried latent light eye color genes, maybe 1 in 40,000 individuals would light colored eyes. Quite a few people in Mongolia and Xinjiang do have lighter colored eyes, and these genes ARE spread throughout Asia. Now if 1/100 brown-eyed Asians carry light colored eye genes and have a kid with a light eye colored parent, the frequency is increased to 1/200, quite a jump from 1 in 40,000. Maybe the frequency is even greater than 1 in 100.
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Post by jefe on Jul 23, 2005 11:46:39 GMT -5
It still boggles my mind that your mom's trippin over your husband's race despite the fact that he's *more than half white*. My family's got their prejudices against blacks too but to a lesser extent, like they would still be fine with it if I were to be with a mulatto. I'm imagining a baby that is roughly 1/4black1/4asian1/2white, and it sounds like an awesome mix. Best of luck to you. My cousin's EA daughter (1/2 Chinese, 1/2 Irish) had a boy about 2 years ago with a black guy with Louisiana creole origins (approx. 3/4 black, 1/4 French) which means her boy is approx. 3/8 black, 3/8 white, 1/4 Asian. For some reason, I think his dad has more European features then his boy. I have seen kids of an Asian and Mulatto parent that interesting could pass as EA.
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Post by jefe on Jul 22, 2005 7:09:47 GMT -5
First of all, interracial mixing is not wrong or even against the bible. Well, I think you are preaching to the choir, but people in the Theocratic states of America use the Bible to justify all sorts of stuff, including slavery, lynching, warfare, etc. You see, if n**gg*rs had no soul and *Orientals* (sic) are heathens, then they are either not really human, or at least savages, so anything you do to them is OK with God. My grandmother told me how good her *stock* was, and how she was so upset that it had been tainted with heathen blood. There are certain verses in the Bible instructing certain tribes not to marry each other, and she extrapolated that to mean races. I find the USA to be that way in general -- using the Bible to justify all sorts of heinous behavior, including racism.
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Post by jefe on Jul 21, 2005 2:50:23 GMT -5
My family was a racist family.
My (Chinese-American) father was even fired from his job once for making anti-n*gg*r comments. And he publicly expressed his anti-Korean sentiments and told me that I can marry anyone but a black or Korean.
My EA brother frequently expressed hate and rage over n*gg*rs (he was living with either my father or mother in majority black neigbborhoods) and avoided Asians at all costs, and denounced them if they were not "American" enough. I think of him as a white person similar to dolcedolce. We don't see eye to eye on many issues.
My Caucasian mother was never blatantly racist like that, but she did have her way of showing how she felt that white people were superior. But her parents in the Deep South ¡V they not only treated blacks like they had no soul, but called *Orientals* heathens and preached to me how race mixing was a sin. My maternal grandmother even read me verses from the Bible how God condemned inter-racial mixing. It upset me so much as a child that I thought I had to kill myself by bleeding to death to get rid of my tainted blood.
I had to get out of there, and that is exactly what I did.
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Post by jefe on Nov 17, 2005 9:07:45 GMT -5
...lots of thick strands of hair and not a lot of them... That was very confusing. So are there lots or not lots? Or maybe you mean "lots" as in "sets" and " a lot of" as in many. "Them" refers to "lots" as in "sets".
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Post by jefe on Feb 1, 2005 4:36:35 GMT -5
I have seen, met and or heard of Asians who have parents who are supposedly FULL Asian, but who have blue or green eyes. I have seen, met or heard of FULL Asians which naturally reddish brown hair.
Genes for light colored eyes or hair are spread thoughout all human populations, just in different concentrations. It is rare, but not impossible for such combination to occur when both parents are Asian.
I have met EAs as such, so they are even more likely.
P.S. How do we answer if our grey hairs are coming in? ;D
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Post by jefe on Jul 22, 2003 5:21:13 GMT -5
I clicked the wrong one.
I clicked Asian Mom, European Dad, but I am the other way around.
Someone with Asian Mom European Dad click Asian Dad, European Mom for me.
thanks.
P.S. No choices for non-EAs.
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Post by jefe on Sept 23, 2007 2:21:53 GMT -5
I think it has a negative connotation because of the shock value. Two white parents giving birth to a black baby certainly would create not only shock, but possibly social problems.
But I am sure that it happens occasionally in the USA and Brazil, given the generations of multi-racialism. In the USA, I have seen many examples of siblings with the same parents, one with fair skin, blue eyes, European features and fine wavy hair, the other clearly mostly African looking.
The most common effect of atavism would be, say, a Chinese born with blue eyes, which I have seen several times.
If people would only stop thinking that there is such thing as racial purity . . . .
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