I'd just say it's as easy as getting them (accidentally or intentionally) in a situation where they're not as inhibited.. but everyone's different. Some of these women don't seem to give a crap, and do something risky, right in front of their SO and kids. Some just simply need to loosen up with some drinks. Some don't even appear to be all that unhappy with their relationship, and do it anyways. Maybe for a little ego boost, I don't know.
Heh, it's kinda funny reading these 'hints' on how to pursue taken women. As for what you said, me and my gf have a 3 year tradition of leading other people on and it's real good fun . It's as easy as just going out and saying 'we're friends' instead of bf/gf and see who hits on us or who we should hit on just for fun. This way we'll always feel single and free, instead of 'taken' even though we are - by personal will alone, no contract no promises, so it's far more then just an 'ego boost'.
LOL! Duh of course it wouldn't get that far, no sleeping around, no kissing etc. Doesn't mean no flirting
This system of ours erupted from my ex actually, who was really possessive, to the point that if I even talked to another woman either then her I'm interrogated for a full hour, and furthermore if my current gf (who was a friend at that time) called, she chucked an extreme fit. This pushed me away and taught both me and her how possessiveness of any measure pushes people away. In the end I ended up cheating on my ex with my current gf, rather 'unorthodox' foundation of our relationship, but rather strong.
Today we operate on trust alone, we know that flirting is harmless, so we both do it. We both love this freedom of ours to have fun feeling single while at the same time attached. But we are attached not by a system that dictates that we must stick together, but because we want to. It's based entirely on trust and passion.
Unfortunately this trust can be easily broken, I took things too far once and kissed another girl while I was intoxicated. She found out through a jealous friend (another girl who liked me) and we broke up for quite some time. Even today as we got back together that incident never really healed yet. It's hard to build trust, very easy to destroy it.
me again guys. I am curious cuz i met another women. Well we hanged out a couple of times in groups. But this time I was telling her we should do karoake again and drink soju but she said she wanted to go to a club. so I replied saying sure lets go. Then I told her that I will buy u drinks. her response was with a smile. What do u think she thinks of that? That i am interested or just simply wanting to buy her drinks as a friend?
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^^I think HK girls are generally so unbelievably material.
So are a lot of London girls. It just seems so soul-less.
The way I see it, a bag can't buy you happiness. But maybe I only say that because I don't have a bag fetish. I'd be very unenthralled if a guy I was dating bought me a HK$10,000 bag or whatever. I'd be very pleased though if I was moaning that I'd broken my bag or something, but I don't think I'd need a HK$10,000 bag. I'd also be very pleased if someone bought me a running backpack (this one's been done). I'd be most pleased if someone arranged a new 'experience' of some sort. Those are the best gifts (although I'm a sucker for flowers at the right time, nothing beats traditional romance).
Anyway, back to the main topic, yes, a woman can change her opinion but I think she would have to be able to find you physically attractive at some point as it IS important. No point in being ohysically not turned on by someone you're meant to be physically intimate with. Sometimes maintaining a sexual relationship is hard enough as it is without needing to add in the fact that you perhaps don't find them as beautiful as you could find someone else. However, to me, beauty= inside and out. If a guy has a bad personality, I'm pretty turned off...luckily my boyfriend has a heart of gold and is a much better person than I am.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder too; I have been really attracted (you know that strange draw) to guys who perhaps would not be considered at all conventionally attractive...I have also tried SO hard to be attracted to guys who have fantastic personalties but it just didn't happen. These are guys who I have wanted so much to find attractive too, because they have such good hearts.
The way I see it, you're lucky if you find someone attractive from the start on a physical level and later discover they have a heart of gold. You're luckier if they think the same of you.
I don't think you should ever try to 'settle' for someone who you love just because they have a heart of gold but who you don't find so attractive on a physical level...as 10 years down the line you could be blindsided by someone who is both physically attractive to you and who has all the qualities you were looking for personality wise to begin with.