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Post by DivaDancerLara on Jan 22, 2009 11:26:30 GMT -5
Hey,
Ever had those guys/girls that pose as your friends but have the motive to make the move for more romance once they have a chance leaving you bamboozled thinking they were just a friend?
Have you been the bamboozeler?
Please Share..
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 22, 2009 21:36:25 GMT -5
^ LOL every female 'best friend' I had I ended up ramming  |
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 22, 2009 21:49:38 GMT -5
Heh it's very true in most parts I have to agree. Just my opinion ne ways, nonetheless I've had some exceptions in which I wasn't sexually attracted to them but I enjoyed their company. But me and those girls weren't very close at all (acquaintances). So... ... guess your wizbang eye popping theory is right  |
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Post by rob on Jan 23, 2009 4:38:00 GMT -5
Creepin? Hell ya
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Jan 23, 2009 10:46:32 GMT -5
I what's funny is people's emotions can change. The may have very well been plutonic when they met you but those funky hormones get in the way. Things change.
But also whats stressful are the liars that know they are about other intentions --you are just the clueless one
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Post by grindx on Jan 23, 2009 15:48:56 GMT -5
I what's funny is people's emotions can change. The may have very well been plutonic when they met you but those funky hormones get in the way. Things change. Does this involve a cartoon dog and Mickey Mouse? |
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Post by ahliang on Jan 23, 2009 21:18:49 GMT -5
isn t this how people get together most of the time?
i would think that if you re genuinely attracted to someone the first thing you d do would be to befriend them rather than ask them out on a date right away. if you befriend them then you can get to know them and see if your personalities would match and if their looks are "worth" their inner beauty...which seems far less superficial than outright asking someone out because of their looks.
i can see how people who go out on dates then become friends and develop a closer bond as their relationship advances, but i would imagine that in most cases, people started out as friends and then developped romantic feelings which they acted upon...
no?
in any case...i don t think it s all that wrong...if someone draws you to them, then why not get to know them better as a friend and only act upon your attraction once you know you re compatible as friends...
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 23, 2009 23:51:27 GMT -5
Heh I doubt ne one asks their interest on a date straight away. Of course you must first break the ice and be 'friends' for some time. Nonetheless the sexual attraction must be there at early impression however, in my opinion ne ways. Yes there is a 'friend stage', but in my experiences this 'friend stage' includes lots of flirts, suggestions, etc - testing the water, as well as building up to something more. For 'strictly friends', I don't flirt or make suggestions - so it's much different. Intent is quite clear. Sometimes however, flirts and suggestions do come out just for the sake of fun - which unfortunately leads people on. But oh well, cruel world Though it's true not to rush things, for example, being friends is good but there has to be mutual attraction and chemistry. 3 years ago my current gf became my best friend while I was still with my ex, we talked heaps and hanged out alot. But despite our chemistry, we were forced to 'stay friends'. And we would have probably stayed friends if my ex didn't pull a jealousy fit and turned me off big time. 6 months of knowing her, then after I broke up with my ex, 3 months of her going 'I'm not going to be his rebound' etc, prolonging it even further. And then we finally caved in. 9 months of friendship before nething else. But we became something more because there was always mutual attraction. If there's nothing there, there'll never be anything there, just my opinion ne ways. |
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Post by rob on Jan 24, 2009 2:05:37 GMT -5
^ LOL every female 'best friend' I had I ended up ramming And you're surprised at being an expectant dad? Hope the kid doesn't salt your game too much |
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 24, 2009 3:01:33 GMT -5
Too late for that, from what everybody is saying, my youth is officially over.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Jan 27, 2009 9:56:50 GMT -5
^that is NOT such a bad thing
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Post by terce on Jan 28, 2009 2:32:19 GMT -5
so how are you suppose to tell the difference btwn friend intentions and not friend intentions?
its confusing. i've gone to hang out with a friend, yet he thought it was a date??? we went to some multicultural fest thing..
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Post by ConceptDesign on Jan 28, 2009 6:43:53 GMT -5
dude, going to a 'multicultural thing' = date. Always!
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Post by LaFace on Feb 6, 2009 10:50:25 GMT -5
so how are you suppose to tell the difference btwn friend intentions and not friend intentions? its confusing. i've gone to hang out with a friend, yet he thought it was a date??? we went to some multicultural fest thing.. Friends of the opposite sex don't really go out on leisurely dates, one on one (don't know if this is what you did, going by your post). A one on one leisurely date (ie. not business-related etc) usually indicates something more than friendship in my opinion. |
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Feb 6, 2009 16:22:30 GMT -5
so how are you suppose to tell the difference btwn friend intentions and not friend intentions? its confusing. i've gone to hang out with a friend, yet he thought it was a date??? we went to some multicultural fest thing.. sometimes I think Guys stay enigmatic to get the upperhand  |
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