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Post by ahliang on Mar 30, 2009 1:39:16 GMT -5
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Post by ChickenSoda on Mar 30, 2009 2:01:39 GMT -5
i think even twilight has it's corny lighted up scene as well.. but it's a gazebo. Jeez, how many gazebos do those shemales need?
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Post by helles on Mar 30, 2009 3:44:43 GMT -5
LOL at the lit up children's play area.. how cringey!
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Post by Miyuki on Mar 30, 2009 15:32:14 GMT -5
Yes, anything like that during the beginning stages of a relationship had the opposite effect for me. It came across as desperate, or trying too hard; putting check marks next to the list of what you're "supposed" to do. I've always preferred more genuine, unpredictable acts of appreciation. Maybe I'm weird. heh,you're not weird,i just think we're diametrically opposed,though we have a lot of similarities in terms of defining romance. genuine,heartfelt,non-cookie cutter acts of romance early on make me sink like a stone.someone serenaded me once within the first year and i actually teared up. as the relationship goes on,however...well,i just think it's bad if the romance wasn't there early on to try and bring it in later.that,to me,is when it seems trite and stale and ingenuine,especially if it's confined to anniversaries. what it comes down to,for me i guess,is that if it's heartfelt and original,i'm an absolute sucker for being romanced. ahliang,i think my new hobby is going to be geting dolled up and wandering around looking for light-up bridges,man or no man. That's a good point about it being trite and stale if brought on later, if there was no romance earlier on. There was always romance for us, just not the typical rose petals kind of stuff. It would have come across as corny to me too early in the dating phase. Today, eight years into our relationship, if my hubby brings me roses or does things that are "typical" I think it's funny/sweet, and sort of laugh, though it's still totally appreciated. I think I AM weird!
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Post by Subuatai on Mar 30, 2009 15:40:03 GMT -5
I think that's the best advice I've heard in a long time. Maybe simply reminding her how much she means to me, or rubbing her belly talking to my daughter, heh, it's not over the top, but it shows that I care, both about us and for our child.
I guess balance is the key, and you're right that either extremes are to be avoided. Serenading will freak her out lol, hell it'll freak me out if I ever do it, it just doesn't seem like me. And you're right again, about doing something natural, let it flow.
Faking either extremes is way off balance and un-natural, I guess sometimes just the simplest natural things can have more meaning then showing up with roses on her doorstep.
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Post by decepticons on Mar 30, 2009 16:22:38 GMT -5
i think being anything but yourself is a real pitfall when it comes to romance or courting. eventually youre gonna get tired of being something youre not and youll realize youre with someone you dont really have much in common with. if you like being romantic full blown cheeze then do it. eventually there will be a girl that thinks youre amazing for it. dont like flowers? dont buy em. another girl will hate those too.
so i dont think romance is dead. i just dont think its necessary anymore so people that dont like it just dont do it. back not too long ago it just wasnt ok to not do a whole preening ritual to attract someone or gain favor. thats kind of just faded away over the years though. i mean with the internet youre not limited to your town or even city to meet someone nor are you competing with every other joe in town to get the same girl.
this is detouring really far so im gonna stop there before it makes less sense.
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Post by Groink on Mar 31, 2009 3:51:07 GMT -5
My take on it all is that way back when, men were generally pretty hard characters. They had to show their softer side by being romantic. After a long day of killing Visigoths, you had to prove that you weren't a complete murderous animal. Nowadays, we're generally pretty soft -- modern conveniences have greatly simplified our lives. We're not risking our necks daily (comments about commuting in LA traffic duly noted). So I think now the converse is true: men put on a "hard act" to show that they can be tough. Yes, this is all rough generalization based on a lot of assumption.
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Post by decepticons on Mar 31, 2009 17:37:10 GMT -5
you can only slay so many before you break down and just want a hug.
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Post by Subuatai on Apr 1, 2009 5:38:30 GMT -5
^ Or just want someone with soft hands to patch up your wounds
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Post by jenbrook on Apr 1, 2009 12:19:01 GMT -5
^ Alrighty, now that i've stuffed your intestines back in and sown your abdomen up with a braid of horse pube, lets makeout.
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Post by Groink on Apr 1, 2009 13:49:14 GMT -5
Yeah?
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Post by decepticons on Apr 2, 2009 18:48:20 GMT -5
hot
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Post by JohnnyUtah on Apr 2, 2009 22:06:39 GMT -5
jenniferbrook has been reading fabio novels. silly girl, warriors don't roll like that. you must sew us up, THEN feed us a giant turkey leg, then make out. I beg to differ, Once in Japan, I saw the World Champion (of a Martial art I follow) show incredible strength, stamina, and sharpness of movement. But his gentleness and kind demeanor also stood out. My sensei told me, "He's strong enough that he can be that gentle." Romance and chivalry will never be outdated. Romance and sappiness are often confused.
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Post by i move the stars for no one on Apr 2, 2009 22:27:57 GMT -5
speaking of confused,since when do horses have pubes,braided or otherwise? and welcome back,Utahkun.
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Post by palaver on Apr 2, 2009 23:56:27 GMT -5
Romance is as modern as a 50% divorce rate.
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