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Post by Miyuki on Apr 3, 2009 8:08:16 GMT -5
My friend has been in a long term relationship with a guy she met while studying in Europe. She lives in Canada. They didn't live together long enough while in Europe to qualify for sponsorship under the common-law agreement. She's considering marrying her boyfriend so he can move here.
They are very much in love and can see a future together, but they're young; 24.
My advice to her is to go for it. Would you give the same advice? I figure life is too short, so why not? Good advice?
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Post by helles on Apr 3, 2009 9:48:30 GMT -5
My sister and her bf were considering it. They've been together like 5 years or sth, and when they moved back to HK in the summer, it was taking her bf awhile to get a job. My mum jokingly suggested it (as she did when my ex was here. hah!). If they married he would get a dependant visa which enables him to work easily. Luckily he got a job and sorted out his visa before he got too desperate.
I know lots of people who have done the same just to get the visa to maintain staying in a relationship, its very simple process and i think if you're in a long-term, committed relationship, its not that big a deal. It's not the most romantic of reasons to marry but better than not being able to stay in the same country i guess.
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Post by i move the stars for no one on Apr 3, 2009 16:45:36 GMT -5
from a purely practical standpoint,it makes a lot of sense.worst case scenario,divorce is not the end of the world,though it can be pricey. from a purely personal standpoint,though,i would want my marriage to mean more than that.i view marriage as ideally a sacred thing,and i'd want my marriage to hold to that.
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Post by cm on Apr 3, 2009 21:30:48 GMT -5
24 is way too young.
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Post by betahat on Apr 3, 2009 21:40:03 GMT -5
I actually know someone who paid for a marriage that would result in a green card. They were are more like room-mates or friends than a married couple (they date other people). I don't condemn it - if that's what it takes to get around a border then so be it.
I've been really lazy applying for a green card myself, though I'm entitled now. Not sure I ever want to be a US citizen...
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Post by Roam'n on Apr 4, 2009 0:58:28 GMT -5
^ whoa betahat I thought you were a citizen!
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Post by ChickenSoda on Apr 4, 2009 2:44:07 GMT -5
I think that a practical reason like this is one of the only reasons that I'd consider marriage.
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Post by Miyuki on Apr 4, 2009 12:10:13 GMT -5
^ whoa betahat I thought you were a citizen! Lol. That's funny. ;D As for my friend, she's in love so I say why not? I think most people wait too long to get married. You should know if they're the one pretty early on into the relationship, IMO. I've been with my hubby since I was 21, so I don't think 24 is too young, but it can be for some people.
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Post by betahat on Apr 4, 2009 14:39:38 GMT -5
Another friend of mine got married just before coming to the US for grad school from Switzerland so his girlfriend could come along. Like Miyuki's friend, I think they were planning on getting married eventually, but they got a quicky marriage for immigration purposes.
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Post by Miyuki on Apr 4, 2009 16:18:22 GMT -5
Another friend of mine got married just before coming to the US for grad school from Switzerland so his girlfriend could come along. Like Miyuki's friend, I think they were planning on getting married eventually, but they got a quicky marriage for immigration purposes. Did they do the city hall thing, or do the typical wedding? I'm trying to convince my friend to do the "real deal."
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Post by Paddy on Jun 1, 2009 14:34:47 GMT -5
My sister married her Malaysian husband so that he could remain in the UK indefinitely. He paid her a wad of cash and they went along to Marylebone Town Hall in London (where Paul McCartney married his first wife - the sausage lady) and signed the papers.
Sister was gay at the time and he was gay too. And all the guests where gay, except for me at 17 years old. That was a weird experience. There was a lot of sniggering when they had to kiss. My parents and other sister didn't find out til about 10 years later when I eventually spilled the beans. I think my sis regrets it now. Pretty stupid thing to do as they weren't even a couple. She didn't even make much money out of it!
Would I do it? Only if I wanted to marry the girl. I can't imagine doing it for convenience.
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Post by amalgam on Jun 1, 2009 19:52:44 GMT -5
^ Ergh I totally agree, it's funny how the world now puts marriage legitimate as long as the certificate is legal; for love, money or convenience. This is obviously an obscured view of what marriage was and should be; an official commitment/bond or love between a man and woman which (we would hope) can never be broken. Nowadays, people marry for all sorts of reasons, and even though some of you may condone this, I believe it is a shame that people have this distorted mindset about marriage (don't worry I'm not eflamming I'm just giving out my point of view).
Point is, I WOULD do it... but only if I was going to marry her anyway (pretty much what Paddy said).
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Post by stray on Jun 1, 2009 22:05:09 GMT -5
ahem. couldn't resist. just to knock it back on track.. one of my mom's friends offered me $5k and mmm.. mind's going blank atm.. but i was offered to marry a thai girl who wanted to go to school here. didn't really have to spend much time with her... if i didn't want to. anyways, i thought it was crazy. still do. so to answer the question, probably not. maybe 50k would do it.
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Post by Paddy on Jun 2, 2009 4:39:25 GMT -5
Story in the papers today how an Malaysian prince married a teenaged Indonesian socialite model. The fairytale marriage looks to be heading for the rocks as Singaporean police 'rescued' her from her hotel during a visit there. Word is the Prince used to keep her locked up in the palace as a sex slave, while ordering her on her best behaviour when in public. The happy couple: Manohara Odelia Pinot & Tengku Temenggong Mohammad Fakhry I'm sure our Indonesian members will be able to shed more light on this.
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Post by fei on Jun 2, 2009 5:28:04 GMT -5
Sure they need Singaporean to save denzel in distress.So what happen to the prince? In jail perhaps?
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