Have any of you seen that Seinfeld episode where Jerry meets a white woman with the name "Donna Chang"? Whenever she introduces herself to anyone else, the first thing they remark about her is "You're not Chinese!!!" The story about her surname turns out to be a shortened version of "Changstein", but that's a little bit irrelevant for now. On with my point -
I've met other Eurasians who have received the same negative reaction. The fact that they have an Asian surname (such as Wong, Yin, Chan, etc.), but as people cannot SEE that they have Asian blood in them, they rudely deny them of their heritage. One girl I spoke to told me about the issue that arose when the delivery man brought her package to the door, expecting a typically "Chinese" woman to answer it, with a last name of "Wong". He was shocked and surprised to see what he thought was a purely caucasian girl answering the door.
It would seem as though monoracials refuse to notice, or acknowledge the fact that we can look a certain way while still being and identifying with our Asian background, and thus a surname to go with that. It's very annoying, and disrespectful, when they deny ourselves of our own right to our ethnic identity, and I call this problem the Donna Chang effect. Who can share their stories?
A lot of people have asked if I was jewish since my maiden last name sounds Jewish.
I have met a couple of Lee's that were 100% white. I know a couple of women that changed their last names to their husbands like Wong, Chang, Lui, etc. I'm sure they get the inquisitive looks all the time.
I know a couple of women that changed their last names to their husbands like Wong, Chang, Lui, etc. I'm sure they get the inquisitive looks all the time.
My caucasian mother kept her ex-husband's Chinese-sounding name after her divorce so that she would have the same name as her children. However, I ended changing MY name later so our surnames ending up being different anyhow.
My mom gets this all the time in her work because she does East Asian studies - people just assume she would be Chinese with a Chinese surname and are surprised to find a tall blond haired blue eyed woman.
I have the opposite problem of people not really believing I'm half-Chinese despite having one of the most common Chinese surnames.
I'm a distant cousin of Singaporean pop sensation Dìck Lee. Bruce would have been a lot cooler but I'll take it.
^ I remember getting asked before if I had been adopted by a Chinese family -- did you ever get that one?
I got the White adoptee story. Where were you asked that, China?
When I moved to HK. One of my colleagues thought I was a "foreigner" who had been adopted into a Chinese family. But more often than that, I sometimes have people think that I was a "foreigner" who was born and raised in HK.
In Mainland China, I sometimes got the treatment that they thought I was a foreigner at first until I started talking to them -- then .. . they are not sure.
In the USA, they simply thought I was a foreigner from somewhere -- they would always try to "make out my accent".
But the coolest experiences I have are when someone thinks I am from *their* country or their ethnic group, and I can't figure out where THEY are from.
Frankly, I think it's 2 reason. 1. most mixed asians still have white fathers, despite the anecdotal evidence, hence they are "used to" mixed asians having white last names.
2. It's simply a reflection that it's not commonly accepted if you are half white/half asian with an asian last name so people will question it. If a person was half black/half white and had the first name Shaquille, I don't think very many people would say, where are you from? Africa?
Post by milkman's baby on Aug 21, 2010 11:57:15 GMT -5
I've had this problem, except the other way around. I often get denied of my white heritage. It's actually been kinda embarrassing for me to introduce people to my white father, because they are sometimes surprised. I have an English surname and many people just assumed I was adopted. That really used to piss me off but I got over it. This is part of the reason I've been seeking to add my mother's maiden name to mine to make it hyphenated.