Post by koreanhalfie on Oct 7, 2010 5:59:49 GMT -5
My family is spread between the UK and South Korea, luckily I'm only a few hours away by train from home. Despite the proximity the last time I visited my parents was last winter. I like to think I have a cordial relationship with them despite my mother relentlessly calling every week complaining I'm already 26, still single and that I don't own my car or house. She insists on me getting married soon, anxious I won't find a proper husband in a few years despite most people wedding around thirty.
How often do you talk on the phone or see your close relatives? How about your extended family? How do you manage the distance if you live overseas?
I came home from college so I could live in the same house as my parents and to take a break from so much schoolwork. I used to not ever see them, but now I watch movies with my dad and see how my mom's doing. My mom teaches fitness and networks all day so is quite busy with things like that or something. She's also taking some classes at the private college where my little brother is.
It's nice to be able to bump into your family at any time, your family that cares for you. It sure beats college and their food. I need to lose as many pounds as my dad, 60. I am waiting for it to be light out to jog, now I see it is.
I try my best to visit them at least once a year. Since it's pretty much the only time I get off, I tend to spend it all relaxing or having fun. Might cook up meals with my mother, do some gardening/landscaping, or take her to the farmer's market; play a game of basketball with my brother; discuss current events with my father; let my sister play princess at a department store. It's really been interesting to see how they've changed every time.
My father expresses a little discomfort with the way my career's headed and I haven't really bothered to tell my mother, though I know they'd support my decisions.
despite my mother relentlessly calling every week complaining I'm already 26, still single and that I don't own my car or house. She insists on me getting married soon, anxious I won't find a proper husband in a few years
Your mum's Korean, right ? ;D Reminds me of my chinese mum.... hehehe
There was an "asian mums" Thread once..... (When I told mine on the phone that my then GF is Algerian, there was a pause.... then [Insert Chinese accent here] "Is she brown ?"
I came home from college so I could live in the same house as my parents and to take a break from so much schoolwork.
Yeah I dropped out of college my first year to return to my hometown too. Now I live in an apartment that's only a 10 minute drive away, so I can eat home cooked Japanese food anytime now! Also my relationship with my two younger brothers improved by a great deal.
I didn't really realize how much I liked having them around them until I came back (the real reason I dropped out was because I was doing long distance with my girl at the time -- she was a bats*** crazy chinese-american girl, but that story is for another time/thread).
see my family all the time. I'm back home from school for a bit and live w/ my mum..so i see her everyday. My dad, stepmum and younger sibs around once a week. My Grandparents live up the hill from me and I see them a few times a week. and my Aunts, uncles and cousin, older sibs, neices/nephew mostly live in a 10-20 minutes drive away from me so I see them pretty often.
I grew up like this, so you can imagine the shock when I was living in London alone for study. My brother also lives in London but not very close and he works so... :/
The white half of my family (excluding my father) are all located in the UK, most of the Chinese half is located in Canada, but there may be some still in Hong Kong because my grandma has more than 10 siblings... maybe even more than 15, but I don't remember how many there are because I've never met any of them and don't even know their names! My deceased white grandfather also has some siblings living in Canada, but, again, I've never met them and don't know their names.
When I lived in Canada, I saw most of my Chinese family far more often than I do now, living in France. Now I rarely hear from them as they are very busy people, but I do get the occasional e-mail and they sometimes call my father.
I see my parents perhaps twice a year and talk to them on the phone weekly. However, my brother remains silent for the most part until he hears I am coming to the UK in person and then seems to get incredibly excited.
As for my extended family in the UK: most would agree some of them are disturbed and would understand why I don't see them. The others are tied up in the manipulative rumours of one of the disturbed ones, so while I would not mind seeing them, I would prefer not to get involved in that. I saw one of my aunts earlier this year and my cousins last month, but the rest I have not seen in over a year.
Parents- now I live in HK, every month. Sister- haven't seen her since her wedding last year. Hopefully will see her plus b-in-law when I go to the UK next month. Brother- same as above; I have to contact his girlfriend to find out if he's around as he's so non-responsive. He's going to be worse when he starts properly working being as he's been sucked into a big I-bank. Extended family- never met some of them; some I can't even speak the same language with, and the rest are cool but due to family issues I never see.