My heart's being played with

[rob]

Best occupations to pick-up girls:

- Scuba instructor
- Yoga instructor
- Personal trainer

I don't know a single (straight) guy that's not gorged at any of those buffets.

Only thing I'd tell you (beyond the statistical probability above that this guy gets his fair share):

- You sound really ga ga over the guy.... must feel nice! Enjoy it but keep your head out of the clouds..... talk to your friends about this guy.... talk to people that are more grounded/experienced than yourself. Most guys in gym rats are players.

- Those that work out in the gym habitually (unless they play sports at a high level) usually come with vanity.... sometimes ego. Can't discern that about him at this early stage, but keep your guard up..... he already shows a good deal of self confidence which is ingredient number one for supreme mackage.

- You seem a bit superficial yourself based on the fact that you're excited a "well built guy" is into you. Geesh, unless you're hanging around Taco Bells, well-built guys are everywhere...... frankly, if I were a girl, I'd rather meet a guy at a library or something, how shall we say, a little more connected to the heart. And if I wanted someone with good physique, I'd meet someone through sports, hiking etc.... something applied..... it means they're not in shape to impress or overcome some sort of childhood insecurity.

- Most personal trainers that I've known are somewhere between sketchy and hardbodied f*cking machines.

But you really haven't provided enough detail to make a conclusion one way or the other.

If you were older/more experienced, I'd tell you just see where it goes.... but seeing as you're 21, always been single (as I was at 21.... and 22 and 23... and 24 etc etc)...... you are either butt-heinous ugly.... or you have standards..... if it's the latter, I'd suggest you keep them as high as possible and drop your guard only for someone incredibly worthy and with honest intentions.

There could be one of those guys on the bike machine 2 rows behind you..... he's probably dreamed about you every day, built a temple for you in his heart..... but hasn't yet mustered the courage to say hello.

[hamstar]

Being played with would be more like he has sex with you and then avoids you like the plague after. I don't even think he's stringing you along either. You've lived a very sheltered existance.

Best case scenario he likes you but is too scared of making his intentions clear (he has no game). I read your essay and it seems like this guy didn't make an arrangement to meet up for drinks or...anything. That's a clear-cut sign he's not interested or has no game. With the complementing your nikes...he's either gay or has no game - complementing accessories and clothing is something a lot of guys do that are afraid to make their intentions clear.

My best guess is that this guy does find you attractive but for whatever reason he is afraid of asking you out. Could be that he has a gf. Could be that he isn't allowed to ask out gym members. Could be that he is a bit intimidated by you and is afraid of being rejected. In any case, all you can do as a girl is spend more time with him and *hope* he asks you out. Alternatively you can be a man here and ask him out. The more time this guy spends time with and nothing happens, the less attracted to him you will become. Eventually you will friends-zone him.

With your whole people only want sex or money dichotomy...well it's a fact of life that most of the time people only associate with others if they offer something of value. You yourself said that you do not value chunky guys, making you just as superficial as those that only want sex or money. This is all normal though, I'll be honest and admit that I appreciate women with a pretty face, a sweet personality and takes care of herself. I don't bother with people that I think does not have any sort of value and that's probably true for every human....maybe every animal as well.