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Post by tobin on Jul 10, 2007 10:48:13 GMT -5
Just curious... How many of you here try to play matchmaker with your friends and family? Or how many of you have been subject to someone playing cupid for you? Share some stories...
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Post by lo1337a on Jul 10, 2007 21:58:07 GMT -5
My mom once tried to set me up with one of her bosses' kids (because he was Asian). I still haven't forgiven her. He was just really boring and not at all compatible (granted I didn't exactly go into with an open mind). We didn't even make it to the pre-arranged lunch because I was just like "You want me to spend the day with him? HELL NO!"I looked at it less as a setup and more as a comment on the kind of girl my mother wished I was at the time.
Now that she's gotten it through her head that I'll never work in a cubicle, have a house in Hamptons, or have any reason whatsoever to talk about inane political s*** with a bunch of old Jewish people, however, she's convinced that I'm going to marry my best friend of seven years. She keeps saying "Oh, he'll make a good husband" when I get finished talking about anything he does. Funny thing is, we'll probably do it, if only for the tax break. (We're cool like that.) And I wouldn't mind because even if we were married, we'd still be the same. He'd continue dating crazy chicks and showing up at the house at 3am with whatever band he's in now expecting to be fed (I have served many a pancake to yon bandmembers). I'd wander in at odd hours of the morning still singing karaoke at the top of my lungs and wake up on the couch with a blanket on and him having taken my boots off for me. I'd bring boys over and say "Hi, make yourself comfortable. That's my husband ::point to waving husband in kitchen::. I'll just be a minute, talk abut cars or something." and leave on dates.
It would be unconventional, but it would work.
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Post by TeeHee on Jul 11, 2007 3:30:55 GMT -5
I hate being set up, and anyone who knows me well enough would know better for future reference. i've had a few girl cousins try to set me up with some guys. and mind you, I have completely different tastes/personalities from these particular girl cousins. Just some background, one of them is engaged to a much-older man(she's a few years older than me, and he's in his 40's) who's the biggest asshole and looks like a dirty man off the street. The age-factor wouldn't be a big deal if he were actually a decent man, which he isn't; not to mention, his track record. He's tried hitting on both me and her sister(who's a lil younger than me). So yea, she's not exactly the best judge of character. Anyhow, she and another of our cousins call me up and tell me they thought they'd set me up with this guy who's "a nice guy, in his mid 20's"…so I went along with it. I show up, and wanted to leave as soon as I got there. I see a guy who looks a good bit older than "mid 20's"(and i was right, I later found out he was in his 30's), but whatever, I just kick back and chat with him a bit. In the process of chatting with him, I learned that he was a friend of that cousin's bf(whom I absolutely despise). I just imagined, if I were to continue something with him, I'd be seeing that asshole bf/friend of his more often; not to mention, there was no attraction to begin with, not on my end anyway. I also have countless stories of parents' family friends trying to suggest my parents towards a set-up with their sons. I've had one incident where one of these mothers pretty much put me on the spot in public in front of a bunch of the other elders about getting with her son. She'd always liked my family and me, and when she was alive, continuously suggested it to my mom. But of course, my mom knew me better, so she just shrugged it off. Later on, it was found that this woman was stricken with some terminal illness, where she became blind, senile and was dying. So the community held a fundraiser event for support of her family. At this event, I went up to her to greet her and pay my respects. (translated from vietnamese, in which our convo was in) "who is this here?"…"it's me, _ and _'s daughter"…."ah…can you get together/date my son? It's my dying wish for him"….In front of all these other people who were sitting at the same table with her. I tried to keep a straight face in this moment of awkward silence, I mean, I didn't care at all to be with her son . One of the men at the table just kinda changed the subject, and I subtly walked away in the process. thank goodness, neither of my parents really ever agreed to any of these suggestions or tried setting me up with anyone. One guy who approached my dad about it, my dad just told him "you know our number, and you can call our house for her if like, but it's up to her whether or not she wants to talk to you". As far as how my bf and I got together...It was a group ASL practice at this cafe. one of his friends(who's now a mutual friend of ours, we went to his wedding not too long ago) suggested to him about me "there's a new girl here Soleil. she's cute. she's hearing, but she seems cool and comfortable with deaf. i think she's your type". There was no pressure and we just rolled with it naturally.
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Post by tobin on Jul 16, 2007 15:52:56 GMT -5
Oh well (= I had hopes that someone here either had a good experience with being set up or playing matchmaker for their friends/family. I've been set up 3 times, once was a disaster and the other two turned into decent relationships. Luckily I've never had a parent that has tried to match me up with someone... TeeHee, i guess in a way the way your boyfriend and you met is a match... not in an obnoxious way, but your common friend basically encouraged your now BF to make a move and gave him good feedback about you as a person. Anyway, the reason I was asking is because I created a site as an experiment to allow people to play and act as matchmakers for their friends... It's called Cupid's Lab. It's a simple dating site in general, but the idea behind it is that it's a game where people try to hook up their single friends or with the single friends of other people on the site.. it's still rough around the edges, but if anyone is interested in checking it out or giving some feedback you can check it out at www.cupidslab.comt.
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Post by 0 on Jul 16, 2007 16:28:22 GMT -5
I think it looks interesting though obviously the main limitation is the current pool of potential partners. I would say that, with the plethora of dating sites out there, the best way to get noticed is to carve out a niche which distinguishes you from the other ones. Find some image/brand presence which would draw a certain type of person as opposed to it being a general dating site. Lavalife goes for the hip party types; Match.com was originially for spinsters with biological clocks and now it's trying to invent itself as a hip, cool site. J-date is for Jews. The only other potential issue is there is already Ok Cupid so there could be some confusion for the new users. But best of luck ** modify: Actually I think you are going for a unique approach by using friends to hook up others etc but I think your title needs to send that message a bit more strongly so that people won't assume its another dating site like chemistry.com etc - my 2 cents
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Post by ladystacey on Jul 16, 2007 22:48:44 GMT -5
I don't set people up because if it goes bad I want nothing to do with it plus so far nobody has agreed that if they did hook up with someone I chose for them they must name their first born child after me, boy or girl I have had my mom try to set me up many, many times and they were always filthy rich. I guess in her eyes that is all you need
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Post by tbw on Jul 24, 2007 13:01:16 GMT -5
^ Never heard of a dating website for farmers I have been set up twice, first one was a great relationship, but didn't work (now my best friend who I live with) and the other never got further than the 'surprise friend to dinner' evening. What about people in arranged marriages? That's the 'biggest' setup of a relationship you can get really, but i'm sure i've read that arrange marriages (in general) work out rather well (most of the time.)
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Post by Roam'n on Jul 25, 2007 5:54:42 GMT -5
My mom wanted to set me up with some lady in her quilting circle. I told her the odds of finding each other interesting is practically nil.
I really only have 3 requirements: 1. shorter then/weigh less then me (i'm 5'11" 160lbs) 2. can tolerate my wack sense of humor 3. not lazy/not crazy
Cute would be nice, but at this stage of my game it's almost irrelevant.
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Post by ladystacey on Jul 26, 2007 21:26:20 GMT -5
Uh oh I just made a match, blind date for 2 friends that have never met, I hope it goes well or I am in trouble.
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Post by 0 on Jul 26, 2007 21:56:56 GMT -5
^ I see you have a history of trying to hook "all sorts" of people up
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Post by ladystacey on Jul 27, 2007 0:36:38 GMT -5
I try not to but I can't help myself, it usually comes off as a joke but they take what I say seriously and then I have to make it happen:(
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Sept 22, 2007 8:30:30 GMT -5
I remember one of my friends tried to match me with a friend that was gay (I dunno maybe he thought he could be bi--but I was like stop that) It was funny one time he tried to leave us alone at dinner so we could talk...that was awkward.
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Post by hapalicious on Sept 22, 2007 13:39:51 GMT -5
hahaha.... too funny...well, you know how Japanese significant others are the ultimate catch for a lot of asians out there ?
matchmaking funny story right here:
so my sister s been dating this very handsome half Japanese half german boy for a few years now... (he kinda looks like a thicker/buffier yongfook in a way, although he doesn t really look like him...urrr..nvm...) ...who happens to have a younger brother...
his mom s been trying to set us up for a while. this is how it started : she took us both (that was 2 years back i think?) to have lunch one day, when my sister and his brother were supposed to come... turns out...it was just us 2... VERY awkward moment !!! we didn t talk much but having both are siblings dating and his mom urging to take me out to places and all, we ended up talking(not at the restaurant...after that)...and making good friends !!! very good friends at that... i don t know how he feels but i consider him to be a very good friend of mine now... we cook, watch movies, do our homework together (did...i m in the US now and i m not in paris anymore) spend a lot of time together on our holidays, and even planned to go on holidays together! we didn t in the end but we had set up this plan (hilarious plan!!!selling madelaines (cupcakes/muffin sorta cake) and jewelry to make enough money together for our travel plans . he also helped me get rid of my horrible boss at the time). i would never see myself dating him but we ve become very good friends !
for his b'day, both our moms thought we d go to a Japanese restaurant with the rest of the family. his mom s rather fond of me (and my sister...obviously) and called me up rather often to know how i was doing. i call her auntie btw... turns out...NOONE turned up besides both our mom !!!! so for his b'day, basically, it was just me and him at a table, and my mom and his at another right next to us as if they were chaperoning the date !!!!!!!!!!! they were introducing me to the restaurant owner (family friend, their family own pastries in Japan and all the japanese family is in the baking/cooking/food industry)...MOST AWKWARD BIRTHDAY I EVER ATTENDED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks mom ! thanks auntie !
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Post by thesa on Sept 23, 2007 1:59:12 GMT -5
^ that's such a sweet and funny story hapalicious!! I don't want to know though what your friend told his mother AFTER the dinner when the two of them were alone :-)
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Post by Szymon Von Zalyn on Sept 23, 2007 5:02:28 GMT -5
I never do this, more trouble than it's worth. I have been victim to a few attempts and I don't really appreciate it. A friend of mind tried once, when I didn't play along he took her for himself My mother who is is white tried to arrange a match for me with a daughter of a family friend She did not consult me. It just cropped up over dinner and I was like... wtf? Lastly and most recently a work colleague wanted to introduce me to his daughter! I suppose you could look on the bright side Mr Zoff, at least some people consider you ok kind of person, even if their motivations are not sporting and above board! I had a similar thing happen to me when I was in the british army 15 years ago when my commanding was determined to get all his batchelor officers like myself married off and his interference was not appreciated by most!
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