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Post by Freecia on Sept 28, 2007 21:11:05 GMT -5
Hmmm...
Yet women kept falling for the bad boys who broke their hearts.
How does that compute?
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Post by EA Observer on Oct 1, 2007 9:00:26 GMT -5
Probably has something to do with maternal instinct to protect herself and her baby during pregnancy, which the men do not experience. This makes a woman naturally more cautious and protective, leading her to constantly worry about the possible negative outcomes that may harm her and her child.
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Post by EA Observer on Oct 1, 2007 9:15:41 GMT -5
Hmmm... Yet women kept falling for the bad boys who broke their hearts. How does that compute? "bad" boys are aggressive, a trait which is needed for their own survival or self-gains and for those of their mates and offsprings. Aggressive men are more likely to earn more and bring more to women and their offsprings - an obviously attractive quality for women, even if they are self-sufficient, since it can be seen as a form of masculinity/strength. |
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Post by cjsdad on Oct 1, 2007 9:25:32 GMT -5
I think the concept of external vs. internal locus of control plays a role here.
Not ALL females have an external locus, but many do. Moreso than males.
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Post by EA Observer on Oct 1, 2007 9:34:24 GMT -5
I think the concept of external vs. internal locus of control plays a role here. Not ALL females have an external locus, but many do. Moreso than males. How about a more detailed explanation of this concept? |
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Post by cjsdad on Oct 1, 2007 9:43:11 GMT -5
Certainly. It's mostly pop psych, but it has rudimentary common sense backing it up. Many males, a majority anyway, feel that they are "large and in-charge". Meaning that whatever comes up, they can handle it. They feel that the direction or course of their life can be "handled" or dealt with by the power that they possess. Read....a boat with a motor. many females (ladies...please remember, this is pop psych, not fact, just stuff I remember from all my psych work and rotations...and not ALL people follow these generalizations) have what would be called in external locus of control. Read...a boat with a sail. External forces exist which push them in life. Read, sometimes stuff is a bit "out of control". At the mercy of the wind, if you will. And no amount of expert sailing technique will get them where they want to go. Men "fire up the motor". Women "raise the sail". Does that make sense? Ok, if my interpretation sucks, try this. maybe wiki does a better job.... en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locus_of_control |
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Post by Aznlatina on Oct 1, 2007 20:12:26 GMT -5
I think women worry more because men don't. We do all the work, seriously.  |
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Post by morningstar on Oct 2, 2007 12:33:36 GMT -5
I read once that people can be genetically predispositioned to worrying, with women bigger worriers than men due to a reduced amount of a chemical that seems to moderate anxiety.
It was found that men with a similar genetic variance to the women who have the 'worry gene' still seem to worry less.
Could again be linked to the chemical. Dont know how true it is, read it a long long time ago, and cant remember any of the names of the chemicals or genes.
However, i dont think it can be uniformly assumed that ALL men do not worry as much as woemn, as im sure there are many men who have lives controlled by worry or anxiety.
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Post by Joi on Dec 27, 2008 20:02:12 GMT -5
I have heard that women worry the most before they are married, but once they are married they stop worrying and instead the man will do the worrying |
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 30, 2008 3:34:14 GMT -5
=/ I found myself worrying much more then my gf, then again she does have a God looking after her, I dont |
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Post by Shock on Dec 30, 2008 9:07:59 GMT -5
I think women worry more because men don't. We do all the work, seriously. I always wonder to see honest modesty in women... |
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Post by quiapo on Dec 30, 2008 13:16:11 GMT -5
CJ and MJ's Dad - thanks for the reference to wikipedia on "Locus of Control"; it does not seem to be pop psychology from the article, but a rather serious topic in psychology. It has implications over a wide range of human behaviour, including Religious Faith, Ageing, Depression, superstition etc. An interesting and potentially useful concept.
The concept of past experiences affecting current behaviour underpins much of "unhappiness' or maladaptive responses to current situations wherein people behave in defensive ways when threats no longer exist.
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Post by cjsdad on Dec 30, 2008 17:48:49 GMT -5
^You are most likely correct.
I have the typical surgeon's derision with regard to psychiatry. I laugh when I think of the nuttiest of my classmates going in to the field. Takes one to know one. That kind of stuff.
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My failure, should not be taken seriously. I make light of what I have only basic knowledge and understanding.
Though I do sincerely wish the media would be more careful with psychiatric "data" as I find it frequently used to make sweeping generalizations....of men, women, people of differing political leanings, etc. This is dangerous and perpetuates stereotypes.
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Post by quiapo on Dec 30, 2008 18:20:25 GMT -5
The media can be dangerous, as they write what will sell, and there is so much misuse of information through selective focus, distortion, omission and so on - you really need to be critical in reading news reports. We do need to be informed, hence news reports are essential, but we have to be so careful not to be manipulated.
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Post by quiapo on Dec 30, 2008 18:26:42 GMT -5
I agree, that Psychiatry and Surgery are , in a sense, at opposite ends of a spectrum in Medicine. It is interesting the surgeons make fun of psychiatrists, as do other health professionals, but psychiatrists dont seem to make fun of surgeons or anyone. Perhaps it is too serious a discipline . . .or the tragedy of the human condition has drained their sense of humour. .
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