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Post by thekrez on Oct 1, 2007 16:00:29 GMT -5
I have a male friend who is relatively good looking, almost model quality.
Bizarrely enough he was a contender for Mr India, no joke.
In any case this guy confided in me the other night that he actually hates women. Yes he is heterosexual.
Now this is a guy who has no problems getting dates. Women hit on him all the time and he has a long term girlfriend back in Australia that he treats terribly, and for him to say he actually dislikes women, well was a bit shocking. Incidentally the gf is of the long suffering kind, that he utterly dominates. I didnt probe further.
But it got me thinking, this much vaunted indifference that women seem to appreciate so much in men, imagine if at its source was an intense dislike of women, is this the secret to not caring? What i wanted to understand was why it is a woman that dislikes men very often gets her wish, whereas a man that dislikes a woman, discounting violent attitudes and what not of course, ends up being more attractive to the opposite sex from his indifference.
How many of you are willing to admit that you actually dont reall like women? I know I cant. They annoy me like hell but occassionally, and not very often, they redeem themselves which saves them from complete destitution.
Imagine confronting the possible idea that as humans, well, they might not be likeable. Which in turns makes a male more likeable to them.
Theres an odd Zen logic in that.
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Post by cjsdad on Oct 1, 2007 16:55:54 GMT -5
Paging Dr. Freud....Paging Dr. Freud.....
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Post by avax on Oct 1, 2007 18:20:39 GMT -5
Your male friend sounds like a fcking brat! I like everyone until they prove to be complete morons. IMO, men seem to have more issues than any of the women I know combined. They just pretend they are easier to get along with, that things don't matter when they're little festering doggy poop battered in extra flaky pre-made, fake betty crocker half cracked crock and fried in crisco. Can't live with em, can't live without em.
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Post by Ajeno on Oct 1, 2007 18:41:28 GMT -5
My swag is much different than it use to be so i dont attract chickenhead females anymore and those arent what I would call women..The women around me and the women i deal with are lovely,classy and intelligent and dont act like immature girls..So no, i dont hate women but i do dislike dumb birds.
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Post by jewbird on Oct 1, 2007 20:20:53 GMT -5
If you're dating average people, you probably end up filtering by personality. If you're dating at the highest levels, I dare say you will have to deal with some drama you'd rather not.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Oct 2, 2007 13:04:37 GMT -5
We are cute how could you not like us!
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Post by thekrez on Oct 2, 2007 16:32:00 GMT -5
We are cute how could you not like us! uhuh.
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Post by Altan on Oct 2, 2007 22:31:31 GMT -5
Love women a lot but men and women are differen't and many times they act pretty dumb. But that's their nature. For example knitting and gossiping like hens that's not my deal. Rather be drinking a beer and blowing something up. That's fun.
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Post by Emily on Oct 2, 2007 23:32:38 GMT -5
^ But we do the knitting and gossiping amongst ourselves while you're out getting hammered.
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Post by Ave` on Oct 3, 2007 0:22:31 GMT -5
emm...tell your friend to find a women who hates women. We have loads out there. and Ditto! he would have someone he has something in common with :]
*typo again i swear im not drunk* hiks
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Oct 3, 2007 9:34:13 GMT -5
We are cute how could you not like us! uhuh. exactly
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Post by honeyviper on Oct 6, 2007 14:54:46 GMT -5
I think perhaps there may be many deeper issues at play as to why he has that sort of distaste for women. There's a large variety of personalities that exist out there (which is good because I'd hate to be an automaton). But, I won't lie, I don't get along that well with the typical girly-girl and very few of my friends fit into that category.
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Post by waywardwolf on Oct 7, 2007 0:24:48 GMT -5
I have a friend like that also. The other night we were out having dinner with a bunch of our friends and his wife asked him to switch seats with him because all her friends were at the other side of the table and he refused, just to be a jerk. At least, that's all I could make out of it. I mean, it may not be the biggest deal in the world, but why treat someone like that constantly? I've lost a lot of friends confronting them for this sort of thing, is it wrong to do so? I don't mean to be nosey, but I feel like punching guys in the mouth when they treat women like that. And when I do lose my temper over this stuff, they treat me like I'm a jerk. Bah! What's wrong with the world?
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Post by Altan on Oct 7, 2007 3:45:27 GMT -5
Women are cute and funny. I just observe and sit back usually and watch all the drama. It's funny all the little things are important to them. I just laugh and observe and sit back and do my male thing. Playing stupid and whatever and whatever and whatever. Not a lot has changed. Whatever race the girl is and her female circles she frequents....I just love it. Intrigue!
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Post by thekrez on Oct 8, 2007 6:06:08 GMT -5
I have a friend like that also. The other night we were out having dinner with a bunch of our friends and his wife asked him to switch seats with him because all her friends were at the other side of the table and he refused, just to be a jerk. At least, that's all I could make out of it. I mean, it may not be the biggest deal in the world, but why treat someone like that constantly? I've lost a lot of friends confronting them for this sort of thing, is it wrong to do so? I don't mean to be nosey, but I feel like punching guys in the mouth when they treat women like that. And when I do lose my temper over this stuff, they treat me like I'm a jerk. Bah! What's wrong with the world? Yeah but this is the kind of bastard behaviour they like, because your friend as a male was essentially dominating her. This is why Im starting to think that actually embracing a feeling of "dislike" for women leads to a behaviour that they would find appealing. This doesnt mean you treat them like s***, not at all, it means you become indifferent to them. And that the key thing you need.
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