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Post by halfbreed on Oct 3, 2007 10:08:12 GMT -5
Marriage - why do people do it?
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Post by halfbreed on Oct 3, 2007 10:23:44 GMT -5
^ I don't get it though... I see the media to portray married people as so unhappy!! Just look at 'DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES'-- I mean, I've never watched the show.. but look at the title.
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Post by avax on Oct 3, 2007 11:34:03 GMT -5
Well, I do think that before it progresses to a serious relationship, there should be a personal-life resume involved, complete with noted references (screw the cover letter), and several interviews. The first beginning with the other person involved in the relationship, a second involving a panel of their friends and critics, a third involving a panel of your friends and critics, and lastly but not least, a panel of complete and utter strangers with an eager predisposition and a knack for weeding out: 1) the irresponsible 2) the fibber 3) the emotionally unavailable 4) the crowdpleaser 5) he-she-who-does-not-honour-the-travel-light-code 6) the coward 7) the false postulator 8) the impersonator 9) the gold digger 10) the broken record 11) the limp dick 12) the loose vahina 13) the sex maniac 14) the smoker 15) the headfcked 16) the druggie 17) the preggie 18) the sick 19) the convict or ex-convict 20) the asexual 21) the logically impaired 22) the-I-forgot-to-tell-you 23) the attached All panels should keep in mind that any information disclosed is private and the property of them-who-shall-be-verbally-mentally-emotionally-skewered. All panels must make note of inconsistencies. All panels must offer positive feedback by means of free drinks and a graph chart. All panels must not have sex with any of them-who-shall-be-verbally-mentally-emotionally-skewered (until after a process marked FAILED, and ONLY FAILED). All panels must locate grotesquely mismatched points according to Sternberg's Triangular Theory (1986): Go now in peace, my eager lovers and loveables. Burn em or marry em. You'll ease your mind just following this process.
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Post by Freecia on Oct 3, 2007 12:31:00 GMT -5
^ Wow, quite a comprehendsive chart you got there.
I believe in marriage, I think. Though I think nowadays people are getting smarter and starting rebelling against the idea of lawful unions, since it's so easy to get out of anyway.
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Post by ladystacey on Oct 3, 2007 12:31:44 GMT -5
People get married for many reasons most make little sense to outside parties I have been to a few shotgun weddings Some spur of the moment of lust, some because they truly want to make a vow to all to see they are committed to one another for LIFE!!! I honestly never wanted to be married, my family and friends knew I never wanted kids or marriage and now look at me kid and married, how I got there I don't know actually I was just lucky enough to have met the right guy and when you meet the right one you just want to love them and share your life with them. I had a small wedding just 50, I only wanted family and close friends to be there. It wasn't about being Cinderella, I didn't care much for those fairytale weddings, it's just not me. But I sure as hell love to attend one, awesome free food and free drinks and party all night all for free, whoohoo!
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Post by waywardwolf on Oct 4, 2007 3:42:50 GMT -5
I see the media to portray married people as so unhappy!! No kidding. I'm not sure I can list all the shows/cartoons about some fat slob who treats his beautiful wife like crap. I think there must be some fat hollywood bastards, hard up for a date, out there, hoping this sort of thing catches on.
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Post by truelies on Oct 4, 2007 5:12:08 GMT -5
Marriage - why do people do it? assurance - - that their relationship is strong. - that the other won't leave the other (even though this happens about 30% of the time) - from other people (as marriage is pretty much expected) - oh and some, for religious reasons, assurance that they can have sex. oh and the hidden agendas. (eg. gold diggers) i think that about sums it up.
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Oct 5, 2007 0:46:44 GMT -5
Brainwashed into wanting it? I believe that's the case for tons.
B-B-BUT! I'm sure lots of people are simply in love and wish to reflect it through the bond or a marriage contract or ceremony.
Still, others may love or not love and wish to receive the socioeconomic benefits of marriage (insurance anyone?!?!?! tax breaks?!?!?!)
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Post by cm on Oct 5, 2007 10:43:00 GMT -5
I think it will be necessary someday. Since I have a desire to run for public office, single candidates don't fair well. Plus, if I have kids, I'm not going to let them suffer a 1 parent home.
just, I'm thinking late 30's early 40's.
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Post by jpeezy on Oct 5, 2007 10:50:59 GMT -5
I would only marry if I wanted to. No cultural, religious, or societal pressure would ever make me do it. And, yes, I DO come from a broken home. =P
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Post by halfbreed on Oct 6, 2007 0:14:31 GMT -5
Plus, if I have kids, I'm not going to let them suffer a 1 parent home. Even if you're not married, you can still live in the same house.
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Post by majubi on Oct 7, 2007 1:54:14 GMT -5
No way.
I just dont think it works in modern society anymore. Too many of us believe that there is someone better out there. Whether there is or not doesnt become important, as people are willing to run the risk to find out.
Also, I merely see it as a way to materially weigh up your committment. I dont need to raise my committment to the relationship by putting into a joint TV/Home.
Least of all if my possessions dont work i can take them back to the store. Cant exactly do that with a relationship.
Finally, the guy always gets the s*** end of the stick in a divorce.
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Post by Guy in the white shirt on Oct 7, 2007 8:01:59 GMT -5
I still believe in marriage... but, I find it interesting that it takes a few minutes to get married (sign the paper) and a year to get divorced.
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Post by thesa on Oct 9, 2007 13:55:25 GMT -5
five to ten years ago I would have said that marriage was a waste of time and only a sign of 'mental insecurity' . For why when you truly really utterly love each other, would you need a piece of paper to certify that love?? But now, that I'm getting older, I actually quite like the idea of marrying, because it's not just some legal procedure or a piece of paper, it does make a relationship stronger (or so I've heard...).
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