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Post by Phil on Nov 12, 2007 2:47:43 GMT -5
Who is to say that the guy can't change his ways for that person, too? She might be the one great love of his life and you want to throw a spanner in the works because of petty jealousy. Any man can change. But that does not mean that his past will not catch up with him. The spanner may simply be what he deserves.
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Post by long on Nov 12, 2007 3:43:05 GMT -5
^ To be blunt, if you don't know the new person, and are not involved with your ex any more, what business is it of yours to interfere? People seem to have an inherent desire for fairness and I think that this also relates to the desire for revenge. Many victims would like to see their assailant suffer to one degree or another for what s/he did because it somehow makes things fair again. Tit for tat. Sure it's not a very humane sentiment, but in the eyes of a victim, seeing their assailant get what is in their opinion an easy way out causes them further suffering and/or distress because their desire for fairness hasn't been met. I agree that revenge may not be logical, but emotional matters rarely conform to logic. What is wrong with proportionate revenge if it eases the distress of an innocent victim? - what say you sir?
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Post by long on Nov 12, 2007 4:05:16 GMT -5
Well, I personally haven't heard all too many scumbag to saint success stories.
Discretion is good I agree... just depends on the situation I 'spose. And you know I'm not really about the revenge.
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Post by yongfook on Nov 12, 2007 6:51:08 GMT -5
Who is to say that the guy can't change his ways for that person, too? She might be the one great love of his life and you want to throw a spanner in the works because of petty jealousy. Any man can change. But that does not mean that his past will not catch up with him. The spanner may simply be what he deserves. go make a hemp sweater, HIPPIE.
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Post by Ave` on Nov 12, 2007 9:20:14 GMT -5
Friends! Girls! EANs! Lend me your ears! Shoes don't stretch and men don't change 0nly 0.000000000000001% of them do. I find it hardly worth mentioning
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Nov 12, 2007 9:24:52 GMT -5
Ah...remember this post is to discuss sketchy men AND sketchy woman (although I don't mind the focus on men)
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Post by Emily on Nov 12, 2007 20:25:56 GMT -5
However, by offering such information to another girl, even with the best of intentions, it CAN backfire. Given the possible repercussions, I think it's best if one doesn't meddle with strangers' relationships. In an ideal world, us girls would all band together and heed each other's advice, but it simply isn't the case. Emily: pls elaborate "backfire". Like I said you prolly need to be friendly 1st. In my case, I would prolly just laugh out loud "youre dating Brian?" laugh hysterically again. If she ask me why Id prolly tell. Id also insert a disclaimer that she should judge herself, in case he changed. In real world, us girls tries to help each other. Yeah, I'm with the Goddess on this one.. I don't really see how it can backfire. If the girl's looking for a project and she was going to be with the guy anyway... well, some people just have to learn the hard way. If the guy plays the same game with the new girl she's less likely to forgive his nonsense if she knew it wasn't the first time. Not everyone will listen, but no harm in trying. While I agree with you when it comes to girls who already saw a womaniser as a project, sometimes a girl doesn't know that side of a guy yet. I've literally seen girls fall for guys once they were told that guy was notorious for being a womaniser. They had zero interest prior. I guess one could argue that they deserve it for being so dumb. Still, if no one had told them about the guy's evil manners they wouldn't have gone there.
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Post by Freecia on Nov 12, 2007 22:04:39 GMT -5
Depends on how close I am with this new girl/guy.
If this new guy or girl's merely an aquaintance, I'd only briefly mention what kinda person this "player" is as objective as possible. Even then, it's not really my business to butt into.
But, if this new guy or girl happens to be my close friend, I'd probably try to convince my friend not to get too close to this "player", because my friend's more likely to at least consider what I said.
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Post by Phil on Nov 13, 2007 11:08:50 GMT -5
Any man can change. But that does not mean that his past will not catch up with him. The spanner may simply be what he deserves. go make a hemp sweater, HIPPIE. My third eye senses that your soul is troubled by my statement.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Nov 14, 2007 9:52:00 GMT -5
I think yes the best policy is to stay out unless it effects your life personally where you have an active involvement however the "men can change" however that being true....sometimes need help if they are showing a behavior pattern. Basically how can people change if they are getting away with their bad habits and no one says anything.
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Post by juancarlos on Nov 14, 2007 13:23:58 GMT -5
Expecting men to change is like expecting penguins to fly.
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Post by LaFace on Nov 15, 2007 0:12:39 GMT -5
^I agree. I also apply the same theory to women.
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Post by xandra on Nov 15, 2007 18:10:47 GMT -5
Friends! Girls! EANs! Lend me your ears! Shoes don't stretch and men don't change 0nly 0.000000000000001% of them do. I find it hardly worth mentioning words to live by! (even leather shoes?)
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Post by jenming on Nov 15, 2007 20:08:22 GMT -5
even leather men?
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Post by Phil on Nov 16, 2007 5:21:45 GMT -5
I disagree! Men can stretch! What about 'Stretch Armstrong' he stretches like crazy! Hes so stretchy his mom called him Stretch! I stretch everyday too. My physio doc told me too cause I sit a lot and if I dont I get back pains.
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