Asian restaurants - too tacky for a "date"?

[yongfook]

yes, take her to a 3-star michelin rated boutique restaurant you cheap git.

[Ave`]

Lol Jon is so generous.

Asian restaurant is fine if you think shed be more comf0rtable.
The park is good idea too. When you spend less on her she would feel less obligated and most of the time this make women feel comfortable. She wont feel like she should own you up to anything. But as she becomes important to you. Take her to a nicer place once in awhile. Then shed be convinced that your not a cheap git.

[avax]

What kind of asian restaurant is this? Not all are cheap, and this probably speaks to the ridiculous plethora of sweet-and-sour-pork lovers in the US/canada/aus and other white-colonized regions. I wonder why more people don't venture out of that take-out box hole and experience more than the stereotypical dish that comes for $5.95. There's a LOT of art and flair that can go into any presentation or meal. It's up to you to scout out the good spots. It's rather distasteful that "asian restaurants" are deemed "cheap", and no one yet has said anything otherwise. At the same time, I am continuously amazed at the adaptability of a certain people and cuisine.

I would be more concerned about your date not having something authentic and properly prepared on her palate. It sounds like a whiteyized or hybrid version of asian restaurant (catered more to white customers).

Either way, the fact that you put thought into the after-meal has to mean something. I would say "good idea" overall. Plus it gives you time to walk off the batter on that "cheap" pork. Next time forego the park and take her to a place that serves duck smoked in green tea, quail, ostrich, demand the waiter dim the lighting and that you get a private room. If the menu is available online, look it up. If she's at a loss, make (gentle) suggestions when you're there. Don't stuff her.. yet.

[Altan]

Well I wouldn't take her to a 99 cent all you can eat. With plastic chairs and Orange Chicken on the menu.
There are many Expensive/Classy Asian restaurants. Upper End Sushi, here in Cali we have expensive Chinese for the upper mobile Chinese/Asians with imported and expensive seafoods from everywhere, upper end Dim-Sum place. In Australia when I was there the Shangra-La Hotel had an expensive bar on the top floor. Shangra-La is a Singapore company I think. Nice view and drinks were the best I've ever had and I been everywhere throughout the globe. Mostly execs when I was there. Expensive and Asian=Shangra-La if it's still there...been like three years.

[Freecia]

Is she Asian? I'd say for a date, especially a first date or earlier dates when you don't know her THAT well yet, it seems a bit risky to take her to an "ethic" restaurant. You need to at least find out what she likes and she doesn't like, to show that you care and that you're considerate about her preferences. I know the view of this Aisan restaurant may be good but I don't think it'd do you any good if she's afraid to eat 80% of what's on the menu. My safest bet would still be something common, like a regular restaurant that offers a wide range of typical food such as pasta, steak, burger, salad..etc.

[DivaDancerLara]

^ yeah those cafes are soooo sketchy isn't there anything else around. Or picnic it with gourmet stuff.

[Mr Brad Pitt]

Well, going to bistros for a date would be like going to a Mc Donald's, but why not ;D

[Emily]

Don't sweat it. If it's only a casual encounter, I'd actually be worried about overdoing it. Something that seems too planned/contrived might seem intimidating and will make her feel uneasy.

Does she know you're planning on checking out the park? Because if so, it's only logical that you take her out to eat at a place near-by. If only the Asian place exists, so be it.

[Ave`]

agree with emily

[...austhai/...]

If you plan on sleeping with her then don't take here there.
If there is a remote chance you are, take her somewhere better. And McDonald's never counts.
Never.

[yongfook]

the question was loaded anyway, I don't see why people are taking it so seriously.

"hey guys, here's the situation and here's why it would be appropriate. is it appropriate?". please. all the OP is looking for is validation that he made the correct choice.

whether the choice is right or not is only something we can know if we know the girl. not all women are created equal, with similar preferences and expectations. Some girls I date / are dinner-mates with like to keep things casual and we just go for tapas or an izakaya, drink beer and talk about willies. Some girls like to be spoilt when they are with me and we go to one of an array of poncy places to be found at the top of the various skyscrapers and hotels of downtown Tokyo where the waiters remember your name and the wine list starts from $200. Either way is fine for me, as long as she PUTS OUT (kidding) (they always do anyway).

And if you don't have an idea what she would like, you're not trying hard enough. Start from the beginning and try again.

[xandra]

i would worry more about the quality of the food than the decor. and it's note a date anyway, so it doesn't really matter.

[miaim]

klacoste said:

So I'm planning to take this chick out to an Asian cafe/restaurant to meet-up. The only reason why I chose it is because it is quite literally a 20 second walk away from a beautiful park replete with waterways, ducks, a wooden bridge, etc. that I plan to take her to once we're done drinking/eating.

Unfortunatelly, it is an Asian cafe/restaurant... and my slight concern is that Asian cuisine is seen as tacky and cheap. The alternatives are unfortunatelly rather too far away from the park (about 10-15min. walk), which is quite significant in Perth's summer heat when all it takes is 30 seconds to turn sweaty.

This is a casual meet-up, not a date. I'd take her to an ordinary cafe like Starbucks if I could, but I've explained my strategic reasons already. Do you consider Asian outlets to be tacky and cheap?

why is Asian food tacky? only a tacky country bumpkin would think so, in this day and age....

It's official. Tokyo has unseated Paris as the world's culinary capital.


going on your record, i would worry more about keeping misogynistic comments under wraps than the venue....

also a park is not a good idea unless you're going after lunch...

actually, you would probably make life simpler just by asking her what she wants to eat....as you seem to be the only one who *thinks* it's a date anyway...


peace

[yongfook]

emily said:

Does she know you're planning on checking out the park? Because if so, it's only logical that you take her out to eat at a place near-by. If only the Asian place exists, so be it.

This is a good point actually. Does she know that you're planning on taking her to a park to try to woo her with mother nature? Because if it really is supposed to be a casual thing, I'd be inclined to tell her first, lest it all blows up in your face. A simple "there's a park nearby the place we're having lunch - want to walk off the meal later?" and she can either approve or disapprove. Much better for you than bringing her there with good intentions only to complicate the situation when she doesn't understand what kind of signal you're trying to send ("this guy...is he trying to be romantic?") and everything gets awkward and you end up just walking around in silence, watching people with their dogs and saying stuff like "so..do you have a dog?".

It's not about ruining the "surprise", it's about being accommodating to what she may or may not want to do. Sometimes it's just better to be courteous and ask (nonchalantly, don't make a big deal out of it), at the expense of shattering your illusion of being Mr Perfect Date.

[yongfook]

oh and another thing, make sure you iron-out the condom ring in your wallet. chicks hate that.