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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Dec 22, 2007 2:49:18 GMT -5
What made you cross that line and hook up? Well, we ended up going to different colleges so that put a huge separation between us. We'd see each other once in a while, every few months, and every time she'd act more and more sexual, touching me in ways friends shouldn't touch etc. Most guy friends wouldn't think much of it, but I felt something was up. One day, she was visiting me at my college and it was late, we were in my room together alone and...I wasn't actually that horny about her, but the vibes from her just kept getting stronger and stronger, and I was curious, so I went for it. She resisted a little bit at first, and we had like a minute of silence. The tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife. And then, she jumped on me and that was that. Afterwards, I realized I didn't really like her like that. I had a crush on her wayyy back in the day, but not any more. All it took was making ONE move...and she JUMPED on me. I'd hate to say it, but I lost respect for her. I started treating her worse than I used to, and we...fell out. WHAT A PIMP
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Dec 22, 2007 2:54:21 GMT -5
^it has to be the girl s fault huh ? so you made the first move but it s because of the signals she was sending you... and then she "JUMPED" on you but it s because she s a horndog and not because you made a "ONE" move... ayaaaaaaaaaaaah. anyways...i do think it s possible. i don t know where i posted that again but most my friends are either: -guys -dorky girls/girls that used to be dorky at some point -asocials: WoW addicts (guys), girls that are too "scary" (as in the way they dress and talk...) for people to approach them...and they don t approach people themselves. and like i said ...a lot of them are guys. i don t see them as potential bf either. i actually have more esteem for my friends than any of the bf i had and would hate for that to change. though i did have a friend like me (not as a friend), he s past that point and we re back to being regular friends. i never look at my guy friends as people i could date. i know too much (for any romance to develop...like looking at a brother i guess.) either from hearing it from them, their friends or ex/girlfriends and i don t think they look at me in this light either. not to mention, a lot of them have a gf . also, what if your friend is older ? can t you be like a surrogate little sister ? i know so... so yes, i m sure it s possible. too much "when harry met sally" for some people here Marie I wonder who this post was in response to to begin with ! ;D I won't name names though! This has less (nothing, in fact) with how attractive girls feel towards their guy friends and moreso (everything) to do with how guys feel toward their very attractive female "friends." You would think that having a girlfriend would make all guy friends feel devoid of all attraction towards you, BUT... well, you must not know guys very well. Call me a pig Marie, but if I knew you in real life, I'd gladly pretend to be your 100% platonic friend, play WoW with you and make fart jokes with you all day, but I'd probably secretly be achin for some Hapalicious lovin' at the end of the day! Until of course you gave me reason to think otherwise. JK (not really), but to re-iterate my point, I wonder if every single one of your guy friends is much different from me? Anyways, sorry to generalize but that's the only way these discussions are possible. P.S. read the Master Ladder Theory for some entertainment. Very funny and intriguing read!
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Post by long on Dec 22, 2007 5:21:43 GMT -5
At the heart of the question is IMO: is it possible to be friends with a person you're attracted to but for some reason cannot date?
My answer: why not? I've done it and I'm no superman.
Marie: you're not a WoW addict yourself are you?
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Post by ChickenSoda on Dec 22, 2007 6:10:19 GMT -5
Ahhh, ladder theory- what a throwback!
Anyway, I have plenty of vagoo-having friends. It's really not such a difficult thing to accomplish. What's difficult for some people I guess is just being clear about what they really want.
I tend to be involved with girls with a serious geeky side, who have a lot of guy friends. It's interesting to watch how these guys orbit around them, direct all kinds of passive aggressive scorn towards me, yet rarely if ever admit their true feelings to the girls, even after playing this game for years. They'd just rather complain amongst themselves about how "nice guys" never get girls.
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Post by Mr Brad Pitt on Dec 22, 2007 9:08:01 GMT -5
At the heart of the question is IMO: is it possible to be friends with a person you're attracted to but for some reason cannot date? My answer: why not? I've done it and I'm no superman. Marie: you're not a WoW addict yourself are you? It's possible, but at a price of (growing) frustration ;D
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Post by cinnamoroll on Dec 22, 2007 9:45:24 GMT -5
I used to believe that it was possible. Until I found out that two of my best friends (one girl, one guy) just hooked up. EEEWW!! It's so gross I can't even imagine that it's true.
In total shock, and yet totally unsurprised.
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Post by Roam'n on Dec 22, 2007 12:11:52 GMT -5
^ Eh? They're your best friends, but obviously they found more of something between them that doesn't involve you.. (unless you're into menage a trois
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Post by avax on Dec 25, 2007 12:52:17 GMT -5
"All your male friends want to have sex w/ you. Make no mistake." Honestly, I have more trouble with females. They're really weird and possessive. Guys usually back off for fear of 'harassment' - they actually understand No. Women often don't, and think it's their right. Yep. Also possible when they're fairly relaxed. lol
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Post by fatcat on Jan 10, 2008 22:22:37 GMT -5
I've had lots of male friends. But that's simply because I'm ugly .That's one good thing about being an uggo . reading 'the master ladder theory' made me realize that I need to get a sense of humor because it made me feel all depressed and worthless.
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Post by long on Jan 10, 2008 23:14:00 GMT -5
^ You have male friends because you're good-looking, that really is how it works. Ugly girls will not be surrounded by lots of men; sad, but true. As I've said in the past, I saw your picture and you're attractive.. deal with it!
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Post by browneyes on Jan 21, 2008 1:31:53 GMT -5
No straight man can ever be best friends with a girl. Plain and simple.
Hence the word "Best Friend"
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Post by I Am X-Ray on Jan 21, 2008 1:43:17 GMT -5
lol ... are u a feminist?
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Post by Ave` on Jan 21, 2008 2:08:44 GMT -5
No straight man can ever be best friends with a girl. Plain and simple. i would only belief you or at least give you the benefit of d0ubt if you have lived more then 60 years at least. if youre not im afraid id have to dismiss what you said as a outburst of a heartbreak or a conclusion derived so far, from your short life.
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Post by browneyes on Jan 21, 2008 12:21:56 GMT -5
No I'm not a feminist. No heartbreak here. Just observant of people. The only best friends I've ever seen are between a straight girl and a gay guy.
When it comes to straight guys and girls, Yes they start off as friends, but something ALWAYS happens and than they will get closer and closer until they are more than friends. And that's when the drama starts.
Just my observation that's all. And I'm just talking about "Best Friends".
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Post by browneyes on Jan 21, 2008 19:55:48 GMT -5
Drama depends on their situation.
If the guy or girl already has a girlfriend or boyfriend than the ackwardness and the jealousy comes out.
Just depends.
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